That male cheating line is a bunch of bullshit. You guys are responsible for your actions, not a slave to your chromosomes. That's an excuse for guys who can't man up and face the reality that they're in control of their choices. |
Man cheating is a big deal. Not as big a deal for women as it is for men but big deal nevertheless. Also, man cheating with no sex ("emotional affair") is a bigger deal for women than for men. But again, big deal for both. Jealosy is one of the strongest and most robust evolutionary adaptations. Anyone who can suppress that is either serously screwed up in their head or simply doesn't care for their partner. |
What?!?!
Some people, like me, just don't get jealous. I have felt it maybe 10 times in my entire life. It was brief, as in, less than 2 minutes. |
Then you were never in love. Pretty sad. |
That's ridiculous. Love =/= jealousy. |
Not PP, but ... I don't get jealous much, either. Jealous isn't a function of being insecure and threatened. I KNOW that I am hot, pretty, funny, smart, kind and good in bed. Any guy who is with me isn't going to stray in any serious way. I have no reason to be jealous. To use the PUA language, I'm alpha. BTW, I've been married to my husband for 20 years. He looks and he flirts and it's fine. He's not going anywhere because he isn't going to find someone better than me. |
I am never jelaous either. But I am not talking about jealousy for no reason or even based on a reasonable suspicion. We were specifically talking about cheating and how it is supposedly ok with women when their men cheat on them. A woman who is not bothered if her husband/bf sleeps around and she knows about it does not love that man. Or is otherwise f*** up. |
+1 I don't give a shit if my guy looks at other women. Cheats on me? Yes, I will be upset obviously. |
I've been cheated on. I was pissed about being lied to, but not jealous. |
So if your husband told you in advance, you would be ok with it? |
I don't really believe in monogamy, though I've never cheated because it's expected of me. If the risk of emotional involvement was minimal, I could go for an open relationship. |
i think the reason that men think that female cheating is worse is because of the historic (hardwired into brain) inability to identify paternity.
acceptance of paternity can only result from having confidence and trust that your partner only slept with you. when a woman cheats it triggers the instinct to reject a child that is not your own. |
Again, women very much hate (sexual) cheating as well. Not as much as men, but still a lot. There is a lot of research on this. And yes, it probably has evolutionary origins. |
Children being traced through male lineage instead of the mother's is more modern, many more ancient cultures traced children through the mother's bloodlines. |
wow. I hope the op finds a gold digger bitch that he deserves. My dad did this. Married a gall 22 years younger than him. It was great for him at first. Little trophy wife. She sent is ass to the nursing home as soon as he could go and there he died. She laughed all the way to the bank. Good luck ass hole. |