Are you putting all your friends through a political-purity test right now?

[Anonymous]

No matter how close our friendship was, OP, and no matter how aligned our political views were, if I saw or heard of you doing this I would just walk away. You would not be welcome in or around my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No matter how close our friendship was, OP, and no matter how aligned our political views were, if I saw or heard of you doing this I would just walk away. You would not be welcome in or around my life.

-- signed, someone who has no friends of color, doesn't know a single gay person who is willing to out themselves to me, doesn't work in federal government, has never read the constitution, and doesn't work in nonprofit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Historians have a word for Germans who joined the Nazi party, not because they hated Jews, but out of a hope for restored patriotism, or a sense of economic anxiety, or a hope to preserve their religious values, or dislike of their opponents, or raw political opportunism, or convenience, or ignorance, or greed.

That word is "Nazi." Nobody cares about their motives anymore.

They joined what they joined. They lent their support and their moral approval. And, in so doing, they bound themselves to everything that came after. Who cares any more what particular knot they used in the binding?”

― A.R. Moxon

Nobody would care about Nazis who joined the party because of other reasons besides hating Jews if not for the holocaust.

Since there’s nothing remotely like the holocaust happening, there’s no analogy.

Duh, do you even know history? It took a while for the holocaust to materialize and it took the support of all these "nice" nazis for it to happen.
Like all this DEI witch hunt that we have started, purging of the FBI and CIA, etc. This is how it starts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you following the drum-beat of division on social media?

Are you questioning what your friends believe?

Are you increasingly intolerant of your friends who may not see things the way you do; the way they really need to see things?

No. Next question. I get it that libs have some form of mental disease. I hope they seek therapy but I’m still friends with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you following the drum-beat of division on social media?

Are you questioning what your friends believe?

Are you increasingly intolerant of your friends who may not see things the way you do; the way they really need to see things?

No. Next question. I get it that libs have some form of mental disease. I hope they seek therapy but I’m still friends with them.

-- signed, someone who has no friends of color, doesn't know a single gay person who is willing to out themselves to me, doesn't work in federal government, has never read the constitution, and doesn't work in nonprofit. But I own those libs! Wait, no, I bestow my friendship upon them, and grant them time in my presence. Because I'm nice like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you following the drum-beat of division on social media?

Are you questioning what your friends believe?

Are you increasingly intolerant of your friends who may not see things the way you do; the way they really need to see things?

No. Next question. I get it that libs have some form of mental disease. I hope they seek therapy but I’m still friends with them.

It's the classic accuse your opponent of what you are guilty of.

You realize cult experts have been sounding the alarm about maga right? And there's a ton of evidence proving conservatives are more fearful and less educated? But facts aren't really your thing, I guess....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but admittedly last night was rough because one couple we are friends with did vote for Trump and they and their kids cheered when he came on the screen and the rest of us sort of froze. We knew they voted for him. We argued about stuff during COVID. But honestly we had kind of left it alone recently because we have had bigger fish to fry with other issues and things going on in our lives. They know none of us voted for him. They know we all disagree with them on pretty much everything. So it was just uncomfortable for a minute and then we moved on. But I thought about it this morning when I woke up for some reason. I think it makes me feel gross but at the end of the day they are good people and good friends and we do enjoy their company so I think, for me, I am going to continue to not discuss it and not let it affect our friendship. If they were more outspoken or obnoxious about it I would probably feel different, but last night was the first time other than an Instagram post on Inauguration Day that I was reminded that they voted for him, and I don't believe that cutting them off as friends is going to change anything about the sh!t show that is currently happening.

Good people vote to take away human rights from you and your children? Good people vote for rapists and people who are actively trying to harm everyone except white males?
Okay...

I'm so sick of people like you. I'm the PP, and I abhor Trump but I'm not such a small-minded moron that I can't see past who some people voted for. Yes, they're good people. The fact that they voted for Trump doesn't erase everything else they've ever done in their lives. Of course I'm uncomfortable and unhappy with their politics, but that doesn't mean I want to erase years and years of good friendship.

I bet you have people you are friends with who voted for Trump but would never tell you. Your insistence that you wouldn't ever engage with a Trumper is ridiculous - I bet you do all the time and you either ignore it because the relationship benefits you or you have no idea because they don't feel like arguing with you. Do you ask your car mechanic who they voted for? Your dry cleaner? Your cleaning company? Your boss and all your co-workers? Are you going to ask all the teachers at your kids' school? Of course not. But keep on spewing your ridiculousness on an anonymous board I guess. I hate that I'm aligned with people like you. We are not the same even if we voted for the same person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but admittedly last night was rough because one couple we are friends with did vote for Trump and they and their kids cheered when he came on the screen and the rest of us sort of froze. We knew they voted for him. We argued about stuff during COVID. But honestly we had kind of left it alone recently because we have had bigger fish to fry with other issues and things going on in our lives. They know none of us voted for him. They know we all disagree with them on pretty much everything. So it was just uncomfortable for a minute and then we moved on. But I thought about it this morning when I woke up for some reason. I think it makes me feel gross but at the end of the day they are good people and good friends and we do enjoy their company so I think, for me, I am going to continue to not discuss it and not let it affect our friendship. If they were more outspoken or obnoxious about it I would probably feel different, but last night was the first time other than an Instagram post on Inauguration Day that I was reminded that they voted for him, and I don't believe that cutting them off as friends is going to change anything about the sh!t show that is currently happening.

no 👏 they're 👏 not 👏

Shut up. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but admittedly last night was rough because one couple we are friends with did vote for Trump and they and their kids cheered when he came on the screen and the rest of us sort of froze. We knew they voted for him. We argued about stuff during COVID. But honestly we had kind of left it alone recently because we have had bigger fish to fry with other issues and things going on in our lives. They know none of us voted for him. They know we all disagree with them on pretty much everything. So it was just uncomfortable for a minute and then we moved on. But I thought about it this morning when I woke up for some reason. I think it makes me feel gross but at the end of the day they are good people and good friends and we do enjoy their company so I think, for me, I am going to continue to not discuss it and not let it affect our friendship. If they were more outspoken or obnoxious about it I would probably feel different, but last night was the first time other than an Instagram post on Inauguration Day that I was reminded that they voted for him, and I don't believe that cutting them off as friends is going to change anything about the sh!t show that is currently happening.

I understand your perspective, but I think this kind of thinking is why black women will never trust white women. WW don't confront people in their lives or stand up for important values.

If they said something racist, I'd call them out on it. But that's not enough for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but admittedly last night was rough because one couple we are friends with did vote for Trump and they and their kids cheered when he came on the screen and the rest of us sort of froze. We knew they voted for him. We argued about stuff during COVID. But honestly we had kind of left it alone recently because we have had bigger fish to fry with other issues and things going on in our lives. They know none of us voted for him. They know we all disagree with them on pretty much everything. So it was just uncomfortable for a minute and then we moved on. But I thought about it this morning when I woke up for some reason. I think it makes me feel gross but at the end of the day they are good people and good friends and we do enjoy their company so I think, for me, I am going to continue to not discuss it and not let it affect our friendship. If they were more outspoken or obnoxious about it I would probably feel different, but last night was the first time other than an Instagram post on Inauguration Day that I was reminded that they voted for him, and I don't believe that cutting them off as friends is going to change anything about the sh!t show that is currently happening.

no 👏 they're 👏 not 👏

THIS. This is what structural racism looks like. These people are nice to YOU and YOUR FAMILY. Cool cool. But they vote to oppress others and cause them harm.

Well, as a woman, and as someone with two daughters, and as someone whose husband is a federal employee (which I used to be), no, the person they voted for isn't nice to me or my family.

But I should stop being friends with them because...then next time they won't vote for a Republican? Um, ok. It amazes me the kind of power you people think you have over others. You think by not spending time with anyone who voted for Trump you're doing any good? Keep patting yourself on the back, but you're not winning any awards by pretending to be friends only with liberals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but admittedly last night was rough because one couple we are friends with did vote for Trump and they and their kids cheered when he came on the screen and the rest of us sort of froze. We knew they voted for him. We argued about stuff during COVID. But honestly we had kind of left it alone recently because we have had bigger fish to fry with other issues and things going on in our lives. They know none of us voted for him. They know we all disagree with them on pretty much everything. So it was just uncomfortable for a minute and then we moved on. But I thought about it this morning when I woke up for some reason. I think it makes me feel gross but at the end of the day they are good people and good friends and we do enjoy their company so I think, for me, I am going to continue to not discuss it and not let it affect our friendship. If they were more outspoken or obnoxious about it I would probably feel different, but last night was the first time other than an Instagram post on Inauguration Day that I was reminded that they voted for him, and I don't believe that cutting them off as friends is going to change anything about the sh!t show that is currently happening.

Good people vote to take away human rights from you and your children? Good people vote for rapists and people who are actively trying to harm everyone except white males?
Okay...

I'm so sick of people like you. I'm the PP, and I abhor Trump but I'm not such a small-minded moron that I can't see past who some people voted for. Yes, they're good people. The fact that they voted for Trump doesn't erase everything else they've ever done in their lives. Of course I'm uncomfortable and unhappy with their politics, but that doesn't mean I want to erase years and years of good friendship.

I bet you have people you are friends with who voted for Trump but would never tell you. Your insistence that you wouldn't ever engage with a Trumper is ridiculous - I bet you do all the time and you either ignore it because the relationship benefits you or you have no idea because they don't feel like arguing with you. Do you ask your car mechanic who they voted for? Your dry cleaner? Your cleaning company? Your boss and all your co-workers? Are you going to ask all the teachers at your kids' school? Of course not. But keep on spewing your ridiculousness on an anonymous board I guess. I hate that I'm aligned with people like you. We are not the same even if we voted for the same person.

NP. That poster is quite direct, but the questions are worth asking. If you were to sit down with those friends and ask them point blank to explain to you why they felt it was OK to vote for someone who was hell bent on taking rights away from people and ignoring our constitutional framework of governing, wouldn't that feel fundamental to how someone is as a person? I get it, I have friends who are traditional Republicans, and I have some who I thought were friends who are full on Trumpers. I've been posing questions such as these to them, and they are unwilling to engage - I don't pound it over their heads, I'll ask once, if they're unwilling I drop it. And them. Because if they don't have the courage of their convictions, I simply no longer respect them. They won't even try to explain it? That means they're cowards. Why should I sweep that under the rug? That's how we got here - too many of us normalized really abnormal and harmful behavior. I do in fact have the courage of my convictions, as friends with disabilities have literally cried to me that they're being blamed for a frickin' plane crash, and Black friends who literally said they feel they are less than human to this administration. I can't voluntarily spend time with someone who is part of why that is true, and glad about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you following the drum-beat of division on social media?

Are you questioning what your friends believe?

Are you increasingly intolerant of your friends who may not see things the way you do; the way they really need to see things?

Yes. I have a strict no-Nazi friend policy. It has been enforced since the 80s when the punk skinheads were around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but admittedly last night was rough because one couple we are friends with did vote for Trump and they and their kids cheered when he came on the screen and the rest of us sort of froze. We knew they voted for him. We argued about stuff during COVID. But honestly we had kind of left it alone recently because we have had bigger fish to fry with other issues and things going on in our lives. They know none of us voted for him. They know we all disagree with them on pretty much everything. So it was just uncomfortable for a minute and then we moved on. But I thought about it this morning when I woke up for some reason. I think it makes me feel gross but at the end of the day they are good people and good friends and we do enjoy their company so I think, for me, I am going to continue to not discuss it and not let it affect our friendship. If they were more outspoken or obnoxious about it I would probably feel different, but last night was the first time other than an Instagram post on Inauguration Day that I was reminded that they voted for him, and I don't believe that cutting them off as friends is going to change anything about the sh!t show that is currently happening.

Good people vote to take away human rights from you and your children? Good people vote for rapists and people who are actively trying to harm everyone except white males?
Okay...

I'm so sick of people like you. I'm the PP, and I abhor Trump but I'm not such a small-minded moron that I can't see past who some people voted for. Yes, they're good people. The fact that they voted for Trump doesn't erase everything else they've ever done in their lives. Of course I'm uncomfortable and unhappy with their politics, but that doesn't mean I want to erase years and years of good friendship.

I bet you have people you are friends with who voted for Trump but would never tell you. Your insistence that you wouldn't ever engage with a Trumper is ridiculous - I bet you do all the time and you either ignore it because the relationship benefits you or you have no idea because they don't feel like arguing with you. Do you ask your car mechanic who they voted for? Your dry cleaner? Your cleaning company? Your boss and all your co-workers? Are you going to ask all the teachers at your kids' school? Of course not. But keep on spewing your ridiculousness on an anonymous board I guess. I hate that I'm aligned with people like you. We are not the same even if we voted for the same person.

Yeah well there's a reason I hide my DH's Chanukah presents when we have workers coming into our VA house.

[Anonymous]

I've always humored my liberal friends. They're not very smart

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always humored my liberal friends. They're not very smart

Says someone who doesn't see a constitutional crisis when it's right in front of their face. And worships a reality tv "star."