I find it annoying when people get on here and say it really doesn't matter where your kid goes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have several female friends who went to Harvard undergrad.

All got great jobs out of college: venture capitalist, editor at a publishing house, microfinance, investment banking. One went on to Harvard Law then was an associate at a top NYC firm.
Then they had kids....

ALL of them have mommy tracked themselves if they stayed in the same field. One completely changed careers to something more family friendly. Two aren't even working any more because of family needs.

My point is, yes, going to a top school can set you up for a great career but you may not want to stay there. All of those women are exactly where many other moms have ended up, despite the college they attended.

So…are you basically saying women for the most part still go to college for their MRS degree? Sure sounds like it.

Or does their spouses' incomes give them the options that they would not have had otherwise? It is not so black and white. It is all part of the equation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many employers do you think really digest the rankings? And if they do, which of the 100 different rankings do they memorize?

Colleges fall into three categories:

1. HPYSM
2. Schools that raise questions about why you went there, whether the degree is “real” and what kind of employee you would be.
3. Everything in between.

Not exactly. Nowadays the only schools you can be certain produce the highest quality students are MIT and Caltech, HPS have a lot of $$$ and legacy admits. And in terms of overall quality, schools like Yale, Duke, Penn, Columbia, etc. all virtually produce the same types of kids. I would say cutoff for quality starts after the T20ish schools, and you notice a drop off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have several female friends who went to Harvard undergrad.

All got great jobs out of college: venture capitalist, editor at a publishing house, microfinance, investment banking. One went on to Harvard Law then was an associate at a top NYC firm.
Then they had kids....

ALL of them have mommy tracked themselves if they stayed in the same field. One completely changed careers to something more family friendly. Two aren't even working any more because of family needs.

My point is, yes, going to a top school can set you up for a great career but you may not want to stay there. All of those women are exactly where many other moms have ended up, despite the college they attended.

So…are you basically saying women for the most part still go to college for their MRS degree? Sure sounds like it.

Smart and mature young men and women prioritize meeting a spouse in college. Dating around after college on apps full of random weirdos is frankly disgusting. Quickly settling down in your 20s should be emphasized by all parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have several female friends who went to Harvard undergrad.

All got great jobs out of college: venture capitalist, editor at a publishing house, microfinance, investment banking. One went on to Harvard Law then was an associate at a top NYC firm.
Then they had kids....

ALL of them have mommy tracked themselves if they stayed in the same field. One completely changed careers to something more family friendly. Two aren't even working any more because of family needs.

My point is, yes, going to a top school can set you up for a great career but you may not want to stay there. All of those women are exactly where many other moms have ended up, despite the college they attended.

So…are you basically saying women for the most part still go to college for their MRS degree? Sure sounds like it.

Smart and mature young men and women prioritize meeting a spouse in college. Dating around after college on apps full of random weirdos is frankly disgusting. Quickly settling down in your 20s should be emphasized by all parents.

NP--Wow, that's some pretty mid-20th century thinking there. I mean yes, it's nice to figure these things out early if it happens, but feeling rushed is not a good way to make decisions. I know many very happy couples that met online, although not through Tindr if that's what you're referencing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many employers do you think really digest the rankings? And if they do, which of the 100 different rankings do they memorize?

Colleges fall into three categories:

1. HPYSM
2. Schools that raise questions about why you went there, whether the degree is “real” and what kind of employee you would be.
3. Everything in between.

Not exactly. Nowadays the only schools you can be certain produce the highest quality students are MIT and Caltech, HPS have a lot of $$$ and legacy admits. And in terms of overall quality, schools like Yale, Duke, Penn, Columbia, etc. all virtually produce the same types of kids. I would say cutoff for quality starts after the T20ish schools, and you notice a drop off.

MIT has athletic hooks. So you’re really only sure about CalTech. So it’s just 250 students a year or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have several female friends who went to Harvard undergrad.

All got great jobs out of college: venture capitalist, editor at a publishing house, microfinance, investment banking. One went on to Harvard Law then was an associate at a top NYC firm.
Then they had kids....

ALL of them have mommy tracked themselves if they stayed in the same field. One completely changed careers to something more family friendly. Two aren't even working any more because of family needs.

My point is, yes, going to a top school can set you up for a great career but you may not want to stay there. All of those women are exactly where many other moms have ended up, despite the college they attended.

So…are you basically saying women for the most part still go to college for their MRS degree? Sure sounds like it.

Smart and mature young men and women prioritize meeting a spouse in college. Dating around after college on apps full of random weirdos is frankly disgusting. Quickly settling down in your 20s should be emphasized by all parents.

NP--Wow, that's some pretty mid-20th century thinking there. I mean yes, it's nice to figure these things out early if it happens, but feeling rushed is not a good way to make decisions. I know many very happy couples that met online, although not through Tindr if that's what you're referencing.

Mid-20th century folks married relatively young, had a passle of children, and seldom divorced. Why should we follow the advice of those fools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have several female friends who went to Harvard undergrad.

All got great jobs out of college: venture capitalist, editor at a publishing house, microfinance, investment banking. One went on to Harvard Law then was an associate at a top NYC firm.
Then they had kids....

ALL of them have mommy tracked themselves if they stayed in the same field. One completely changed careers to something more family friendly. Two aren't even working any more because of family needs.

My point is, yes, going to a top school can set you up for a great career but you may not want to stay there. All of those women are exactly where many other moms have ended up, despite the college they attended.

So…are you basically saying women for the most part still go to college for their MRS degree? Sure sounds like it.

Smart and mature young men and women prioritize meeting a spouse in college. Dating around after college on apps full of random weirdos is frankly disgusting. Quickly settling down in your 20s should be emphasized by all parents.

NP--Wow, that's some pretty mid-20th century thinking there. I mean yes, it's nice to figure these things out early if it happens, but feeling rushed is not a good way to make decisions. I know many very happy couples that met online, although not through Tindr if that's what you're referencing.

Mid-20th century folks married relatively young, had a passle of children, and seldom divorced. Why should we follow the advice of those fools?

Most likely they both married young and had a passle of children because they lacked contraception, and they seldom divorced due to social stigma, financial dependence, and the aforementioned passle of children. It’s not that they were fools and it’s not that they were aspirational. It’s that the social and cultural landscape has changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have several female friends who went to Harvard undergrad.

All got great jobs out of college: venture capitalist, editor at a publishing house, microfinance, investment banking. One went on to Harvard Law then was an associate at a top NYC firm.
Then they had kids....

ALL of them have mommy tracked themselves if they stayed in the same field. One completely changed careers to something more family friendly. Two aren't even working any more because of family needs.

My point is, yes, going to a top school can set you up for a great career but you may not want to stay there. All of those women are exactly where many other moms have ended up, despite the college they attended.

So…are you basically saying women for the most part still go to college for their MRS degree? Sure sounds like it.

Smart and mature young men and women prioritize meeting a spouse in college. Dating around after college on apps full of random weirdos is frankly disgusting. Quickly settling down in your 20s should be emphasized by all parents.

It is “disgusting “ to not date within some pool of curated people who went your approved college? Who do you think you are, royalty? And the rest of the big wide world are the unclean masses?!

[Anonymous]

Your grad degree absolutely matters from where. Undergrad, as long as it was decent you are good to go. Have fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have several female friends who went to Harvard undergrad.

All got great jobs out of college: venture capitalist, editor at a publishing house, microfinance, investment banking. One went on to Harvard Law then was an associate at a top NYC firm.
Then they had kids....

ALL of them have mommy tracked themselves if they stayed in the same field. One completely changed careers to something more family friendly. Two aren't even working any more because of family needs.

My point is, yes, going to a top school can set you up for a great career but you may not want to stay there. All of those women are exactly where many other moms have ended up, despite the college they attended.

So…are you basically saying women for the most part still go to college for their MRS degree? Sure sounds like it.

Smart and mature young men and women prioritize meeting a spouse in college. Dating around after college on apps full of random weirdos is frankly disgusting. Quickly settling down in your 20s should be emphasized by all parents.

Omg I am DYING. Is this Brunch Granny? This is a great and hilarious start to my Tuesday morning. Thanks for that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your grad degree absolutely matters from where. Undergrad, as long as it was decent you are good to go. Have fun!

Yeeeaaaah...no. Grad degree doesn't matter so much, either. It's what you make of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your grad degree absolutely matters from where. Undergrad, as long as it was decent you are good to go. Have fun!

Yeeeaaaah...no. Grad degree doesn't matter so much, either. It's what you make of it.

+1

There was another post that mentioned that you should not actually need grad school - ITA, from our employees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have several female friends who went to Harvard undergrad.

All got great jobs out of college: venture capitalist, editor at a publishing house, microfinance, investment banking. One went on to Harvard Law then was an associate at a top NYC firm.
Then they had kids....

ALL of them have mommy tracked themselves if they stayed in the same field. One completely changed careers to something more family friendly. Two aren't even working any more because of family needs.

My point is, yes, going to a top school can set you up for a great career but you may not want to stay there. All of those women are exactly where many other moms have ended up, despite the college they attended.

So…are you basically saying women for the most part still go to college for their MRS degree? Sure sounds like it.

Smart and mature young men and women prioritize meeting a spouse in college. Dating around after college on apps full of random weirdos is frankly disgusting. Quickly settling down in your 20s should be emphasized by all parents.

Not anymore. Kids graduate at 21 or 22 then they go to graduate school. Nobody is meeting spouses in college anymore.

Mature young people who prioritize getting married meet in graduate school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many employers do you think really digest the rankings? And if they do, which of the 100 different rankings do they memorize?

Colleges fall into three categories:

1. HPYSM
2. Schools that raise questions about why you went there, whether the degree is “real” and what kind of employee you would be.
3. Everything in between.

Not exactly. Nowadays the only schools you can be certain produce the highest quality students are MIT and Caltech, HPS have a lot of $$$ and legacy admits. And in terms of overall quality, schools like Yale, Duke, Penn, Columbia, etc. all virtually produce the same types of kids. I would say cutoff for quality starts after the T20ish schools, and you notice a drop off.

MIT has athletic hooks. So you’re really only sure about CalTech. So it’s just 250 students a year or so.

People making these claims about a drop off in employability quality: can you please state your qualifications and experience in hiring?

Because I assure you that you are all completely incorrect, and there is no data that I’ve ever seen to support your assertions.

And if you want to see mine first, no problem: I’ve been hiring in technology for 30 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's like, why are you on here then?

People are trying to make choices. Sure it may not be life or death, but to be like, it doesn't matter, do whatever, are you really adding value?

Maybe you ought to let your kids make their own choices? It isn’t your life.