anyone else not planning on paying for a daughter's wedding?

[Anonymous]

I'm prompted to ask because of a post on another thread in which someone said he/she was saving about half as much for weddings as for college.

We eloped because neither of us cares for weddings and without going into the many reasons why, we're not planning on paying a cent towards any wedding for our DDs, assuming they get married. If they do stay married for something between two or three decades we'd be happy to throw them a terrific anniversary party assuming we're still around.

Just wondering if anyone else was in the same boat.

[Anonymous]

I had a $15,000 wedding for about 100 people, of which I paid $6,000 (total cost includes dress (David's bridal) and modest wedding bands) This was in 2005.

Unless we are swimming in $$$, we will fund a similarly modest celebration with any additional to be augmented by DD.

[Anonymous]

We will give DD a set amount (nowhere near what college tuition is) and she and her fiancee can figure out what they want to do with it and how much they want to add to that amount to finance their own wedding.

[Anonymous]

I have 4 sons...and no daughters!

I figure since I am missing out on not getting to dress up a girl in cute pink flowery stuff , at least I'm benefitting by not having to pay for a wedding!

We do plan on hosting a rehersal dinner when our sons marry...but of course it won't be nearly the expense of a wedding.

For our wedding, my parents paid for most of it. Dh and I paid for our rings, honeymoon, limo, and everything about my attire except the dress/veil (so shoes, lingerie, hair and make up services, etc.). Dh's parents contributed $500 towards the rehersal dinner (covered about 1/3 of it). My parents paid for everything else, total of about $15,000. This was back in 1998

[Anonymous]

We will pay for DD wedding if she chooses to get married. We are hoping she wants to get married where we did, my parents did, the kids were baptized etc. That would make it more of a large destination wedding so more like $50k not $100k

[Anonymous]

My parents didn't pay for my wedding. It's not an entitlement.

[Anonymous]

She states she is going to be a princess. So I am counting on the prince and royal fam to pick up the tab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She states she is going to be a princess. So I am counting on the prince and royal fam to pick up the tab.

Good luck to your daughter! Prince Harry is still available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents didn't pay for my wedding. It's not an entitlement.

Ditto. I have two daughters and do not PLAN on it. If the time comes and we are in a situation to help, then we certainly will.

[Anonymous]

My parents paid for our wedding (55K) and DHs parents paid for the rehearsal dinner (5K). My parents had set aside the money, if I would have wanted anything else I would have put up the money. The thing to keep in mind was this was as much about DH and I as my parents - they paid so they had final say on guestlist, venue, food etc. We have both a college fund and wedding fund for our DD. We will cearly save more for college than a wedding. If our DD decides she wants to elope the money is hers to do what she wishes.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I think big weddings are a total waste of money. I will give my daughter (and son) a substantial down payment on a house, but will not throw away money on wedding reception.

[Anonymous]

My parents did not pay for my wedding, although they did contribute the music (my mother sings in a band, and her band played for us for free, which would have been pretty expensive if we had to pay the band). They let me (and my two sisters) know from a young age that we would have to pay for our own weddings (and college, too). It worked out just fine. All of us had very nice, but very modest weddings. (and we all went to good colleges, but I guess that is another topic). Since we are fairly religious, it was actually helpful to just focus on the sacramental aspect and try to distance ourselves from all the material trappings that our culture loves to make a part of weddings.

[Anonymous]

I'm the PP, and forgot to answer your question -- I'm willing to contribute a small amount to my DDs wedding, but it will be what I have on hand and not something that I save for.

[Anonymous]

I'm hoping we can pay for some portion of our daughter's wedding. Our parents contributed to ours.

Since she pretends to have her wedding now every.single.day. I'll just be happy to have it over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think big weddings are a total waste of money. I will give my daughter (and son) a substantial down payment on a house, but will not throw away money on wedding reception.

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