anyone else not planning on paying for a daughter's wedding?

[Anonymous]

I'll give whatever seems reasonable at the time. That is what my parents did and I was thankful they were in a position to give anything but certainly didn't expect it. Of course, I would have eloped, but my parents viewed it as an opportunity to get everyone together before grandparents started dying off, so I figured what the hell.

[Anonymous]

No. Single mom more worried about college than weddings.

I'd pay for pre-marital counseling and then quietly save for any possible future divorce

[Anonymous]

It never even occurred to me to save for this.

I think that I would be inclined to give my child a lump sum as a wedding gift, to be used for a party if they wish, or for some more responsible purpose. Under no circumstances, including winning the Power Ball or finding a sunken spanish galleon with all its gold intact, will I foot the bill for a lavish capital-W Wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She states she is going to be a princess. So I am counting on the prince and royal fam to pick up the tab.

Good luck to your daughter! Prince Harry is still available.

DD is 3. I think Harry likes the cougars like his Dad anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think big weddings are a total waste of money. I will give my daughter (and son) a substantial down payment on a house, but will not throw away money on wedding reception.

Same here. I would/will contribute money towards property, but not for a party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think big weddings are a total waste of money. I will give my daughter (and son) a substantial down payment on a house, but will not throw away money on wedding reception.

Same here. I would/will contribute money towards property, but not for a party.

I also agree with this. My wedding was at the courthouse, and my parents did pay for lunch after (I think there were 8 guests), at a total of about $400. I would happily do the same for either of my kids. But throwing a lavish, 10's of thousands of dollars party...no way. The marriage is what's important, not the wedding. And my parents also gave us money towards a downpayment for our home. I am much more grateful for that than I would have been for the same amount of money wasted on one night.

[Anonymous]

I hope in today's age parents of sons might think of helping out as well.

[Anonymous]

My parents did not pay for my wedding. I was in my 30's when I married and making as much money as my dad and can't imagine having asked.

[Anonymous]

Absolulely not.

[Anonymous]

I'd like to contribute to our kids wedding, but not a crazy amount. Right now we just have a daughter, but I'd give equal amounts to both if we end up having a second child who is a boy. My parents gave me a lump sum, which ended up being about half of our total costs. DH and I paid the rest. I think the wedding industry is insane and I hope our kids will grow up with similar financial views!

[Anonymous]

If I have the money, I probably will as a gift but she will definitely know not to expect it. The problem arises when kids feel like they are entitled to it.

[Anonymous]

I'll give her money for a house, not a wedding!

[Anonymous]

I'm hoping the crazy, waste of money, equivalent to a coronation, wedding trend ends by the time my DDs are old enough to marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll give her money for a house, not a wedding!

+1. Give it as a gift to her before marriage. That way she can take out the proportional equity if she later gets divorced rather than 50/50.

[Anonymous]

20:06-This.

Problem being, some people are just really bad with money given any time or any place. And yes, putting money toward a wedding 20plus years away is the definition of bad with money. Ask any worthwhile financial planner.

That and the only one or two people I know like this will do anything for their DD to have a lavish wedding. It is extremely telling in itself! I am betting here and now that day will be all about the mother of the bride. Talk about a nightmare about what is to be if it is to your a son! Yikes!