Am I overeacting?
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Anonymous
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We were in a wedding of a very young couple. They're 21 and 22, just finished college and very religious. There was no alcohol and the reception happened right after the ceremony at 11:30 am. It was lunch.
The groom's friends from work are older (almost and early 30s) and got annoyed at the lack of alcohol. They left the place for a while and what was our surprise to notice them back with a bunch of 6 packs and a bottle of scotch. 
I felt so bad for the couple and their families... They had besides the religion personal reasons for no alcohol at the party and these guys knew it. DH thinks I have no reason to be outraged with what this guys did, but if I were the bride I would be very upset. Would you? |
Anonymous
| I sort of agree with your DH that it's really not something to be outraged about, but do I think what they did was extremely rude? Of course. |
Anonymous
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I think you are right that it was completely inappropriate for the men to do this.
They were guests at the party and by going out and buying alcohol, they insulted their host's hospitality (your refreshments aren't good enough for us!) Not to mention deciding to go against their host's express wishes not to have alcohol. Furthermore they may have been an agreement wqith the rental of the location NOT to have alcohol at the venue -- they probably had no idea (clueless). So yeah, if I were the hosts I'd be miffed, too. On the other hand, you were not the host, so I think you could brielfy be shocked but should basically be able to let it go. |
Anonymous
| That's just rude. I agree with you OP |
Anonymous
| I saw this happen at a wedding I attended (the venue did not allow alcohol, and the bride and groom didn't serve any). I though it was rude and low-class. |
Anonymous
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It was rude.
I also think it's really sad for the people who did it. They can't enjoy themselves at a social gathering without alcohol? |
Anonymous
| Completely rude of these men. |
Anonymous
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My sister was married really young-two months after she graduated college. The reception was in the church-baptist church. We were raised Baptist and my grandfather was a preacher.
Instead of finding a different reception location, her sorority sisters(and college friends) would head to the parking lot and drink. My sister would follow and come back smelling of booze. By the end of the reception, six packs and bottles were sitting around. I found it rude and disrespectful not only of the church but also in regards to my grandfather. I am in no way a bible thumping Baptist. However, if the couple is religious and alcohol is not being served it should be honored. |
Anonymous
Yep, I've done this at a Muslim friend's wedding. The bride and groom and their friends all drank, but secretly. I didn't really think it was a big deal, although it was kind of amusing. We were younger, and I'm sure I could control myself from a night of drinking now, and in retrospect it was definitely in poor taste. At the time, we thought we were the funniest people ever. |
Anonymous
| This is not only rude, but if these gentlemen can't get through a social lunch without alcohol, they have a problem. A real drinking problem. |
Anonymous
Well, I think the real question is: What did YOU do? Did you just get outrage and vent to your DH, which probably annoyed him? Or, did you quit your bitching and do something already? |
Anonymous
| Totally rude. |
Anonymous
| RUDE! |
Anonymous
LOL what do you mean? Like go there and take the bottles from them and kick them out? What a wacko! |
Anonymous
| Yes, very rude and disrespectful. |