Spectrum parents, need your help re personal issue (mildly explicit)
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Anonymous
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Hi folks,
I posted a desperate question about sex with my Aspie husband (we also have an HFA child) in the explicit forum. Nobody can help me there. Can any of you help? To keep this forum clean, I'll post a link to the question here: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/205142.page Thank you. |
Anonymous
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A lot of these problems are solvable if he really wants to work on them. Even with AS, if he makes this a priority you can have a good sex life. But getting him there might be very difficult.
My advice: (1) take this seriously as a major problem. You deserve a great sex life and are right to feel cheated. Get yourself a therapist so you can start working on your own emotions and work through the issues, (2) DH need to know and understand. It may come down to you demanding that the two of you see a marriage counselor or you are out of there. Since he got diagnosed as an adult -- and this is unusual -- he may be open to the world of professional interventions. But, again, it may take pressure to get him there. Seeing your own therapist would help. Once he's willing there are all sorts of supports for sexual issues form books to videos to professionals. I would think the most difficult part would be making him make this a priority. Good luck. This sucks but I think there is hope. |
Anonymous
| Search the SN forum for support groups--someone posted a long list. I'm pretty sure there's an Aspbergers support group for adults. I'm sure you're not alone in this issue. |
Anonymous
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The journal of best practices written by a husband with Asbergers
http://www.amazon.com/Journal-Best-Practices-Marriage-Asperger/dp/1439189714/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1326848508&sr=1-2 http://www.amazon.com/Connecting-Your-Asperger-Partner-Negotiating/dp/1849051305/ref=sr_1_7?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1326848508&sr=1-7 |