Mom Cliques. I had no idea.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

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It’s because Op came out swinging against a group of women who dared to go anywhere without her. She’s not going to get the sisterhood rallying around her when she comes out like that.

Swinging seems intense. She wrote a potentially snarky text to a friend. It may have been reactive but not completely deranged like so many are implying. Honestly does no one have compassion or genuine friendships around here?

If a friend sent me a snarky text because I happened to have social plans that didn’t include her, I would not be clamoring to get together with her anytime soon. Who the heck wants to be guilted for having a social life that doesn’t revolve entirely around inviting that one person along to everything.

If I ran into a couple friends out in a big group I didn’t know I would smile and wave. If I happened to be in close proximity I may make pleasantries and ask how the wine is and if there’s anything they’d recommend ordering for my event. If OP had been friendly maybe she would have been introduced to the group and invited next time. She’ll never be invited now after her little tantrum. And would she really even want an invite given out of some sort of guilt trip?

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I’m guessing it was the first time.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing it was the first time.

OP's first post alluded to it be a regular gathering.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

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It’s because Op came out swinging against a group of women who dared to go anywhere without her. She’s not going to get the sisterhood rallying around her when she comes out like that.

I had a friend like this who took it as an affront if anyone she knew dared to not invite her somewhere. One day she ran into me and another mutual friend having impromptu drinks after work. This friend stormed out and FTFO about how we had excluded her in a nasty text.

I have since found out she was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.

OP sounds clingy and unhinged to think she was “excluded” because 2 of her friends got together with 13 other moms she doesn’t even know. She said 3 others were acquaintances so it seems as if she didn’t even know 10 of these women. Why would she expect to be included in a group on which she doesn’t even know 2/3 of the moms? And the fact that she sent the text she did trying to shame them for not inviting her really seals the deal for me that she has no social graces and likely an underlying personality disorder.

TBH I think all the posters who call people "unhinged" all the time are a bit off their rocker as well. There isn't a whole lot to go on regarding OP's level of closeness to everyone in the group and we still don't know if the gathering is a weekly Friday thing nor if one of her two subdivision friends was the organizer.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

They sound like barely functioning alcoholics. I would consider yourself blessed to not be around these individuals. I bet they're aging like kaka with all that alcohol.

Agree. And I suspect we’re getting some mom wine hangover fatigue pushback.

How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”? I’m truly curious.

No. You’re not.

Do you have an answer to the question? How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”?

Honestly i find you exhausting and don’t feel like explaining why day drinking is a bad look.

No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look"

DP-- Day drinking is strange on a weekday.

Lunch at a winery on a Friday is not strange.

It is when you work full time in the office.

Meh. I work for a British company and people often have a drink(s) at lunch. Sometimes we have drinks in the office!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing it was the first time.

OP's first post alluded to it be a regular gathering.

How would she know? She’s not invited.

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here—I didn’t ask for your kind opinions on my mom clique story. Believe the post asks to share your favorite mom clique story.

Gee you sound fun.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet OP walked in and GLARED at them, which is what made it awkward. I've been in this situation and I just say hi on my way to wherever I'm going and then never mention it again. I can't believe you texted someone about it. How catty.

OP here—I was really nice and said hi at the beginning when there were three or four women coming in. When I was leaving, I’ve noticed rather high attendance numbers.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

They sound like barely functioning alcoholics. I would consider yourself blessed to not be around these individuals. I bet they're aging like kaka with all that alcohol.

Agree. And I suspect we’re getting some mom wine hangover fatigue pushback.

How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”? I’m truly curious.

No. You’re not.

Do you have an answer to the question? How does having lunch with friends at a winery indicate “barely functioning alcoholic”?

Honestly i find you exhausting and don’t feel like explaining why day drinking is a bad look.

No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look"

DP-- Day drinking is strange on a weekday.

Lunch at a winery on a Friday is not strange.

It is when you work full time in the office.

OP was also at the winery at noon, remember?

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Anonymous wrote:I bet OP walked in and GLARED at them, which is what made it awkward. I've been in this situation and I just say hi on my way to wherever I'm going and then never mention it again. I can't believe you texted someone about it. How catty.

OP here—I was really nice and said hi at the beginning when there were three or four women coming in. When I was leaving, I’ve noticed rather high attendance numbers.

What?

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made unnecessarily awkward. People are allowed to meet up without you. If you had just been friendly and not made an issue of it, you might have been invited to the next one.

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It isn't a "clique" OP. These woman are obviously friends. They are allowed to be friends. They do not need to include every single mom from the bus stop or school or neighborhood.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree OP's text was bad form (why reveal that it bothered you?! Just act like you don't care and move on!) BUT I do think it was a bit clique-y because of the number of moms. A group of 15 is huge. If OP knew all or most of the mons, and they were all mons from the same school, it is a bit clique-y to do something that big and not invite OP.

Sure, maybe the organizer doesn't know OP, but if other people there do, it's a little surprising that none of them said anything to her. Indicating that the group or outing are at least somewhat exclusive, which is what a clique is.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

+10000

It’s because Op came out swinging against a group of women who dared to go anywhere without her. She’s not going to get the sisterhood rallying around her when she comes out like that.

Swinging seems intense. She wrote a potentially snarky text to a friend. It may have been reactive but not completely deranged like so many are implying. Honestly does no one have compassion or genuine friendships around here?

OP knew at best 5/15 women there, 2 sort of well and 3 were mere acquaintances. These wasn't even her neighbors. It's a bit presumptuous to get indignant that you weren't invited to a get together of women you barely know or don't know at all.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

OML OP - it is not all about you!!

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Mom cliques are just groups of friends who seem exclusionary to outsiders, usually because the outsiders feel insecure. I was once that outsider, and after being on the PTA with some of the mothers of the "clique", realized they'd known each other for a very long time, and were actually nice. I understood they weren't trying to exclude people. It's just that they didn't need more close friends than they already had. We worked well together.

I've met mean people. But never mean groups.

And OP, your jealousy and immaturity is coming across loud and clear. I hope time will correct that.