My kid plays video games a few hours a day, some days more. And, yet they are in advanced math and we had supplemented. It is not one or the other and can be both. We make sure homework, music and sports are done first. We are not wealthy and never paid tutors. Workbooks were fine. |
Golf claps. That you would think to do work books is in and of itself an exception; many families trust the school to provide guidance if supplemental work is needed. Many families - like none - always ensure that assigned homework are done. Our kids get straight As. We’d never think to do extra given how hard our children work in school - and that teachers would tell us if they weren’t high achievers: and this is the problem. Those in the know know that’s not how it works. |
Not to mention, my kids (and DH and I) are like Kid A but we’ve been taking our queues for how hard to push from teachers who consistently told me DS was doing great in compacted math. DC got As and special shout outs for doing great in math. I took them at their word and yet my child’s MAP score isn’t 85 / 90th percentile. Now hearing that DC will be shut out of a track that will mean they are now essentially never going to make it in a science/math program in college. Wow, if only someone had said that despite all of the accolades from teachers my child was actually underachieving and can’t move to compacted math 5/6. This is not right and not acceptable. I know I’m not alone. And I’m so sick of the smugness on this thread. It’s exactly why this pathetic system perpetuates. Some of you get off on it. |
Your all-or-nothing thinking really is not going to help your kid. Really? Your kid is going to take math in the “regular” track and get AP calc senior year, and this is a failure that will mean he or she will never get into a strong college program? Get a grip. This is not the end of the world. |
Is your kid "regular track"? Of course not. So stop it with your ludicrous sanctimony. |
Yes, my kid is, or at least I presume so based on this thread. Mine is in the 85th MAP percentile so will not be in compacted next year. |
My question to you though is whether you believe that your kids MAP-M result is due to inequality. It sounds to me like your kid is doing fine but it’s just not showing up in the tests. |
Your smugness sucks. We don't permit video games or TV during the week, and minimal during the weekends. We review the kids' homework and of course, all class requirements are done before the kids get free time during the day. My oldest - in 4th - got straight As in compacted math all year and glowing feedback from his teacher. He just received a special award at a recent school event - for math. And yet, my hardworking, straight A son is only 70th percentile and apparently not fit to move to 5/6 math. What in the actual fukk is that about? At no point in any conversation were we advised he wasn't on track. At no point in any conversation with the teacher were we told to get him enrichment - a question I directly asked. Here I have you, a parent telling me about how much video time your children enjoy, wagging your finger about supplementing. If this is not a sign that MCPS is failing, I don't know what is. Hardworking middle class families like mine are taking the ques from teachers but apparently they want us to fail and grades and feedback don't mean anything . What a joke. Clearly, if you are rich and in the know the system works for you. If not, you're screwed. |
What is it to "show up in the tests"? Is this special code referring to something a parent who isn't clued in to anything but work hard, get good grades, apply feedback from teachers is expected to understand? |
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Look, people, including kids, who put in extra work even if they are already high achieving tend to excel more than others. You see it in sports (like the kid who takes extra lessons, or is out practicing the sport even outside of practice), music (more practice, the better you are), and of course academics. People who are tip top in their field, sport, instrument, etc have typically put in hours and hours. So I’m not sure why people are surprised that some families put in extra time on schoolwork, and I don’t see why some think it’s a bad thing. If you want to be better, and at the top, you need to work for it! Some will work hard and not get there, but most certainly you don’t get there if you don’t work hard. That’s life.
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I'm just curious what your HHI is to pretend you are middle class. You are completely smug in your post to brag about all you did. Your kid didn't do great in MAP. Big deal. You can supplement and allow video games. That is your choice. You are in compacted math. There is no enrichment beyond compacted math. Welcome to MCPS. If you want enrichment, you supplement. |
They aren't going to kick your kid out of compacted math. It may impact which math they take in middle school and they may only be allowed AIM/pre algebra instead of Algebra but they will be fine taking Algebra in 7th. |
Its not outrageous if a parent takes the time to help their child. MCPS offered free tutoring through Tutor Me, Saturday school and a host of other options including high school students volunteering their time. It was widely advertised. If you choose not to take advantage of what is available then that is on you. Dollar Tree has workbooks for a dollar. Lots of free online resources as well. Our kids should've to be held bak because you cannot bother working with your child. If you paid attention even pre-covid you'd know that MCPS seriously lacks in ES curriculum. We had to work heavily on the basics and math facts as they didn't teach that. They also didn't teach spelling, reading or many other things. You either have to have a really smart kid who can figure it out on their own or you have to supplement or your kids can fall behind. This has nothing to do with DL. You just didn't see it as there is little to no homework in ES and very few worksheets and other stuff gets sent home and you just rely on teachers saying your kids are doing great. |
This is exactly right. I think a lot about Kobe Bryant and his “mamba mentality”. The guy was just extreme in his commitment to excellence. He didn’t just show up to practice, he had a work ethic that was beyond comprehension. There is no one that can say that this extra work he put in was somehow unfair to anyone else. Its instead viewed as a favorable trait. https://www.businessinsider.com/kobe-bryant-insane-work-ethic-2013-8 I agree that I cannot understand how kids putting extra work to improve themselves, even if it’s parent motivated, is a bad thing for society. Maybe it’s a bad thing for those kids/families if they are getting pushed too hard, but that’s an entirely different issue. |
Hey but with 85% they got a good shot at the MS magnet lottery! |