We “cured” DD’s childhood obesity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would ‘t use cured inly because weight control is a life time issue for most people. While different, you don’t cure someone with an addiction, treatment is a lifetime dedication to remaining sober. I would argue that most people have to dedicate themselves to eating healthy and getting some type of exercise in order to stay at a healthy. So you don’t cure someone when they get to a healthy weight but hope that you have established a healthy lifestyle.

OP’s child HAS established a healthy lifestyle now.

And she has to maintain it for life. Just like an addict has to consciously not drink or use drugs the child will have to choose to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Just like we all have to choose a healthy life style.

And I am not saying that the child was/is an addict, I am saying that using the word cure for something that requires a lifetime commitment is a poor choice of words.

As for cancer, my Mom had lung cancer. It was treated. She survived. Her Doctor declared her cancer free after a number of years. She has cancer now but it is a different type of cancer. Her Doctor never used the word cure.

[Anonymous]

So OP should say that her DD's obesity is in remission...

Can you hear yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So OP should say that her DD's obesity is in remission...

Can you hear yourself?

I would just say she is healthy. It removes the idea that the child had an illness in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP should say that her DD's obesity is in remission...

Can you hear yourself?

I would just say she is healthy. It removes the idea that the child had an illness in the first place.

According to HAES, she was healthy when she was obese. So saying that she's healthy doesn't convey any meaning.

[Anonymous]

One pp is just off the rails! That 11 year old has to maintain a life style like an addict! What rubbish, she is a young child that is now establishing healthy eating habits! That can last a lifetime. In 4 years she might not even remember that she was obese and it might fade from her constant memory slowly. Someone is really, really projecting their own messed up adult ideas about weight to OP's child. Please stop and reevaluated why are you so triggered by this thread. You can't drop this thread even if you are going to eat your own words!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP should say that her DD's obesity is in remission...

Can you hear yourself?

I would just say she is healthy. It removes the idea that the child had an illness in the first place.

Ok re-write the thread title using the word “healthy”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP should say that her DD's obesity is in remission...

Can you hear yourself?

I would just say she is healthy. It removes the idea that the child had an illness in the first place.

Ok re-write the thread title using the word “healthy”

I have been supportive of the OP. Someone asked why people had a problem with the word cured and I answered.

I think it is great that the family made some changes and the kid is healthier. I think that it is great that the kid found an activity that she enjoys and is eating better. I don’t think she had an issue that needed to be cured. Hopefully the girl is learning how to care for herself and will continue down that path with the occasional bump.

I think some posters latched on to the word cured as a sign that the OP did not have the best mind set in dealing with the original problem. OP attached a healthy appetite as an infant to obesity as a child. OP admitted that she had some wrong information about consuming fruit. OP allowed her child to eat poorly and didn’t encourage her daughter to be active. Daughter ended up overweight. Overall, part of the daughters problems was because of her parents approach to food. Hence the parents using a word like cured.

Props to the OP for finding was to encourage healthier eating and insisting on more activity. Hopefully the OP will look a bit more at how they approach food and continue to grow. It sounds like they listened to the Doctor and acted on that info in a positive way.

They made positive changes, which is great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The child psychiatrists at our hospital have started looking at behavioral interventions for kids who are overweight as well (we give a lot of drugs that cause weight gain). They were looking at younger kids, but they found exactly the same thing. Food restrictions didn’t work at all. Therapy and cognitive interventions for kids and parents didn’t work. Teaching parents new, healthy recipes didn’t work. The only thing that worked was adding more fruits and veggies and increased exercise.

Wow so weird child psychiatrists would recommend then what is apparently horrible parenting, disordered thinking, and a cocktail for eating disorders, according to a couple commenters on this thread.

Nope. Unless in explaining the diet they recommend avoiding grapes and bananas because they are fattening and call an eight pound baby fat. That’s the disordered part. You can’t possibly be this confused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The child psychiatrists at our hospital have started looking at behavioral interventions for kids who are overweight as well (we give a lot of drugs that cause weight gain). They were looking at younger kids, but they found exactly the same thing. Food restrictions didn’t work at all. Therapy and cognitive interventions for kids and parents didn’t work. Teaching parents new, healthy recipes didn’t work. The only thing that worked was adding more fruits and veggies and increased exercise.

Wow so weird child psychiatrists would recommend then what is apparently horrible parenting, disordered thinking, and a cocktail for eating disorders, according to a couple commenters on this thread.

Nope. Unless in explaining the diet they recommend avoiding grapes and bananas because they are fattening and call an eight pound baby fat. That’s the disordered part. You can’t possibly be this confused.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The child psychiatrists at our hospital have started looking at behavioral interventions for kids who are overweight as well (we give a lot of drugs that cause weight gain). They were looking at younger kids, but they found exactly the same thing. Food restrictions didn’t work at all. Therapy and cognitive interventions for kids and parents didn’t work. Teaching parents new, healthy recipes didn’t work. The only thing that worked was adding more fruits and veggies and increased exercise.

Wow so weird child psychiatrists would recommend then what is apparently horrible parenting, disordered thinking, and a cocktail for eating disorders, according to a couple commenters on this thread.

Nope. Unless in explaining the diet they recommend avoiding grapes and bananas because they are fattening and call an eight pound baby fat. That’s the disordered part. You can’t possibly be this confused.

Whoosh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP should say that her DD's obesity is in remission...

Can you hear yourself?

I would just say she is healthy. It removes the idea that the child had an illness in the first place.

Ok re-write the thread title using the word “healthy”

I have been supportive of the OP. Someone asked why people had a problem with the word cured and I answered.

I think it is great that the family made some changes and the kid is healthier. I think that it is great that the kid found an activity that she enjoys and is eating better. I don’t think she had an issue that needed to be cured. Hopefully the girl is learning how to care for herself and will continue down that path with the occasional bump.

I think some posters latched on to the word cured as a sign that the OP did not have the best mind set in dealing with the original problem. OP attached a healthy appetite as an infant to obesity as a child. OP admitted that she had some wrong information about consuming fruit. OP allowed her child to eat poorly and didn’t encourage her daughter to be active. Daughter ended up overweight. Overall, part of the daughters problems was because of her parents approach to food. Hence the parents using a word like cured.

Props to the OP for finding was to encourage healthier eating and insisting on more activity. Hopefully the OP will look a bit more at how they approach food and continue to grow. It sounds like they listened to the Doctor and acted on that info in a positive way.

They made positive changes, which is great.

OP acknowledged reality, which you are minimizing. Are you allergic to describing the DD as obese?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The child psychiatrists at our hospital have started looking at behavioral interventions for kids who are overweight as well (we give a lot of drugs that cause weight gain). They were looking at younger kids, but they found exactly the same thing. Food restrictions didn’t work at all. Therapy and cognitive interventions for kids and parents didn’t work. Teaching parents new, healthy recipes didn’t work. The only thing that worked was adding more fruits and veggies and increased exercise.

Wow so weird child psychiatrists would recommend then what is apparently horrible parenting, disordered thinking, and a cocktail for eating disorders, according to a couple commenters on this thread.

Nope. Unless in explaining the diet they recommend avoiding grapes and bananas because they are fattening and call an eight pound baby fat. That’s the disordered part. You can’t possibly be this confused.

+1

Indeed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The child psychiatrists at our hospital have started looking at behavioral interventions for kids who are overweight as well (we give a lot of drugs that cause weight gain). They were looking at younger kids, but they found exactly the same thing. Food restrictions didn’t work at all. Therapy and cognitive interventions for kids and parents didn’t work. Teaching parents new, healthy recipes didn’t work. The only thing that worked was adding more fruits and veggies and increased exercise.

Wow so weird child psychiatrists would recommend then what is apparently horrible parenting, disordered thinking, and a cocktail for eating disorders, according to a couple commenters on this thread.

Nope. Unless in explaining the diet they recommend avoiding grapes and bananas because they are fattening and call an eight pound baby fat. That’s the disordered part. You can’t possibly be this confused.

Sorry where does OP call an 8 lb baby fat? I’ll wait

[Anonymous]

She describes her daughter as always big, including being an 8 pound baby who ate every drop of her bottle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She describes her daughter as always big, including being an 8 pound baby who ate every drop of her bottle.

Wow so saying a baby = saying they’re fat? You must travel thru life in a tizzy since people call babies “big” all the time.