Sorry, no. I’m thin AND have an excellent grasp of the English language. |
I'm thin (120, 5'6", size two for the past 20 years, with the exception of two pregnancies and the 6 months following the births). Not saying it's good or bad, but I have experience with men who prefer skinny women, and at least one of them told me that he is grossed out by soft, fat bellies. I could feel that when I was a little bit out of shape, he wouldn't even touch the soft areas. That guy is now a very rich lawyer in the DC area.
(I didn't marry him btw. My husband is a total wonderful person who doesn't seem as picky about it and literally always says "you look gorgeous!" no matter how rough I look. I stay thin to look good on clothes and for everyone else, not him. Definitely happy that I had kids with a nicer person!) |
+1. That's nice and juicy |
I think there are two levels or types of men who like “thin” women. I also think these men have v different opinions of what thin actually means.
On the one hand there is a man who wants a woman of maybe a decent height, who is fairly fit and in shape. This could look like a size 0 or a size 8, but the actually thinness is more a value of fitness balanced with curves in the right spots and who appears pretty “thin”. This kind of guy appreciates the womanly aspects of a woman and I think will continue to love his wife/partner even during life’s fluctuations of ten pounds here, ten pounds there. Then there is the guy who I actually think has some deep-seated mother issues or something. They like skinny skinny women. Like model skinny. No shorter than 5’7”/5’8” and has a hard time stomaching anything over 120. Might be genuinely turned off by rolls or cellulite. My BIL is one of these guys. It is honestly so weird. This kind of guy has no issue calling a woman fat, and might actually experience some revulsion if he sees wobbly parts. They love the collar bone, rib cage, hip bone situation. |
Did you wear adult clothes in the 1950s??? |
I am so sorry about what your daughter went through. I went through something similar in my teens and twenties and agree that the fat shaming and sense of moral superiority based on physical size is deranged. I have a daughter now and I have realized in the last few years (she is still young) how incredible important it is to throw out and divorce myself from any belief that my value or any woman’s value is linked to their body shape or size. I recovered from my eating disorder years ago but after having a baby I realized I had held on to some lingering beliefs and still aspired to be thin. Working on letting go of these beliefs and embracing how much important it is to nourish and care for the wellness and fitness of my body, and to embrace my body at whatever size that takes me, is something I am going for myself but also for my daughter. I know if I cannot truly love myself at any size then I am that much less likely to imbue such values onto my daughter. I don’t ever ever want her to experience the self-loathing, fear or food and fear of weight gain I experienced. It is so important for women to truly stand up for one another. I appreciate your post and I truly believe that whatever size each poster is, I hope that you have love for your self. This is your one life and one body. F the rest and enjoy it. I wish you a man (or whatever your partner preference is) that can truly love you for every size you need to be to be healthy. |
Surprised you saw anyone |
You do realize that women come in different heights, right? You speak as though we are all one height. I am 5’2” and 170 on me would absolutely be a 16. |
This is, unfortunately, how it's viewed in DC. It's the opposite in Los Angeles and most major cities, where it's seen as high class to be able to afford a truly beautiful/sexy woman. But in DC, strangely, it can work against you to be notably beautiful or "sexy". SO that woman with a very cute face who was born with an hourglass knockout figure, anywhere else, would be highly sought after. In DC she will probably be treated as a low class social pariah, unless she takes steps to make herself look as frumpy and shapeless as possible. it's that old "marrying Jackie will look a lot better for politics than marrying Marilyn" |
+1 |
This reminds me of the current season of Below Deck where the very skinny woman is outraged that the man she has a crush on is obsessed/pursuing a woman who is more fuller figured. And she keeps dropping comments about how she's more fit or hotter or anything else. And the guy wants nothing to do with her |
This is a fantasy concocted in your mind. |
Even that is changing in white culture. The Kardashians have been the standard of beauty for the past ten years or so. IMO Addison Rae is probably the sex symbol for young white men, and she's definitely not skinny. Not overweight either- probably in the "normal" BMI category, or a bit thicc. Her body is about what I see young men really losing it over and "simping" for. I came up in the early 2000s when it was all about being very thin. I think all those girls now would not fit the beauty ideal. Now it's all about being "thicc" or "slim thicc" and having some "meat on your bones". |
It’s all about that WAP. |
I am an older millennial and grew up during the heroin chic Kate moss era where we drank Fresca and ate a bowl of cucumbers for lunch. THIS is SO much healthier than that. Thank goodness was for this. I, as a grown a$$ woman am grateful that this is what is being boosted nowadays. |