What is your parenting pet peeve?

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My pet peeve is when parents of little ones think everything their toddler does is so adorable that they don;t care that that toddler is bother other little kids or disrupting play or story time.

Example: An adorable 14 month old girl in the library loved to touch kids' hair. She really was so cute. However the little 20 month old little girl didn't like it and started to cry. And the mother of the 14 month old still didn't stop her baby and laughed. When the 14 month old came for my DS's hair, I gently took her hands and guided her away.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

Kids think of it as school and know that word.

Get a job. You're so pathetic and transparent.

I'm the OP of that comment and I seem to have touched a nerve. Here's the irony: I've always worked full time. My kids went to daycare. They thought of it as that and knew that word. When they started kindergarten they went to school.

Ok, so did you feel like you needed to "justify" sending them to daycare? Probably not. If you did, stop projecting on the rest of us. It's just a word. I can't believe anyone would care enough for it to bother them.

No, it bother me too. I sacrifice to have a nanny for my son and pay a proper preschool tuition for three hours every morning. Daycare is NOT SCHOOL. It is daycare.

talk about projecting. that's on you, dude. i don't need to sacrifice because my kid, who's reading quite well going into kindergarten, went to plain old daycare. but sometimes i call it school. because it DOESN'T MATTER.

If it DOESN'T MATTER then call it college or the circus. You called it "school" because you were trying to make it sound better than daycare. Admit it.

I call it "school" because that's what my three-year-old calls it. All the people I am even talking to her "school" about are already well aware that she's in daycare, and I don't make a secret of where she's at. I'm not trying to fool anyone or make myself feel better. I like where she's at, she likes where she's at, and if she wants to call it school, I just can't be bothered to correct her.

Also, she likes her daycare and likes going there, and if we can associate those positive feelings with "school," I'm all for it. I want her to be excited to go to school.

She didn't decide on her own to call it school. She learned it from you. And you probably called at school because it sounded better than daycare.

And as someone else has pointed out, she's in for a hell of a shock when she goes.

Nope. We always called it daycare, and then one day, shortly after she moved up to the threes room, she announced out of the blue that she didn't go to daycare, she went to school. And we said, oh, okay. That's great. So maybe she learned it from daycare, or Daniel Tiger, or some other kid. I honestly don't care, and I don't think she's in for that much of a shock.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

Kids think of it as school and know that word.

Get a job. You're so pathetic and transparent.

I'm the OP of that comment and I seem to have touched a nerve. Here's the irony: I've always worked full time. My kids went to daycare. They thought of it as that and knew that word. When they started kindergarten they went to school.

Ok, so did you feel like you needed to "justify" sending them to daycare? Probably not. If you did, stop projecting on the rest of us. It's just a word. I can't believe anyone would care enough for it to bother them.

No, it bother me too. I sacrifice to have a nanny for my son and pay a proper preschool tuition for three hours every morning. Daycare is NOT SCHOOL. It is daycare.

talk about projecting. that's on you, dude. i don't need to sacrifice because my kid, who's reading quite well going into kindergarten, went to plain old daycare. but sometimes i call it school. because it DOESN'T MATTER.

If it DOESN'T MATTER then call it college or the circus. You called it "school" because you were trying to make it sound better than daycare. Admit it.

I call it "school" because that's what my three-year-old calls it. All the people I am even talking to her "school" about are already well aware that she's in daycare, and I don't make a secret of where she's at. I'm not trying to fool anyone or make myself feel better. I like where she's at, she likes where she's at, and if she wants to call it school, I just can't be bothered to correct her.

Also, she likes her daycare and likes going there, and if we can associate those positive feelings with "school," I'm all for it. I want her to be excited to go to school.

She didn't decide on her own to call it school. She learned it from you. And you probably called at school because it sounded better than daycare.

And as someone else has pointed out, she's in for a hell of a shock when she goes.

If everyone loved their kids enough to SAHM this wouldn't be an issue

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Anonymous wrote:Daycare is not school - it is daycare. Please stop calling it something that it is not. Yes, our kids learn in daycare and have school-like activities but it is not school.

It just makes parents who send their kids to daycare look like they have something to justify or be ashamed of. Our kids are in daycare - get over the shame.

what shame? i'm not ashamed in the slightest. you know why i use the word "school?" because it's one syllable whereas "daycare" is two. seriously. i'm all about efficiency. the fact that you ascribe any other motivation to my word usage is all on you.

This. Why are you projecting your guilt, or the guilt you think I should feel, onto other parents? I'm really not ashamed that my child is in daycare. I don't need to justify it to anyone other than my immediate family. All these people (or is it just one person) insisting that we have some nefarious reason for referring to it as school are just bonkers. I call it daycare when talking with other adults, but I call it school when I'm talking to my kid. If I don't, she corrects me.

So, sure, let that be your pet peeve. Mine is people who insist that they know my motivations for my behavior better than I do.

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My pet peeve is people who say that daycare staff/nannies/au pairs/caregivers "raise" the children of SAHMs.

Do you really devalue your working father's contributions to and influence on your life that you would say he didn't "raise" you? Was your SAHM the only one who really "raised" you, really? Did your father truly not RAISE you because he worked full-time?

Think about how sexist it is, then, to say this to a mother.

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Anonymous wrote:Not breastfeeding just 'cuz. Lazy lazy lazy.

^ Women like this are my parenting pet peeve.

Enjoy your judging while the evidence steadily mounts that breastfeeding is associated with increased exposure to chemicals in breast tissue. For instance, this August 2015 study out of Harvard.

I breastfed each kid for 2+ years myself, but people like the two PP drive me batty. They are my parenting pet peeve. So judgmental and so ignorant at the same time.

I think the 2nd PP means women like the 1st PP are her pet peeve.

I'm the 2nd PP &, yes, that is what I meant. Sorry if I wasn't clear -- I was up most of the night with my newborn & hadn't had my coffee yet when I posted!

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I seriously do not get the people who care about daycare versus school. OMG. Of all the things to worry about!

My littlest kid called daycare school because he wanted to be like his older siblings. Somehow this experience did not traumatize him when he went to elementary school.

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Anonymous wrote:A parent who gives me advice I didn't ask for.

Yes! This one.

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Anonymous wrote:My pet peeve is when parents of little ones think everything their toddler does is so adorable that they don;t care that that toddler is bother other little kids or disrupting play or story time.

Example: An adorable 14 month old girl in the library loved to touch kids' hair. She really was so cute. However the little 20 month old little girl didn't like it and started to cry. And the mother of the 14 month old still didn't stop her baby and laughed. When the 14 month old came for my DS's hair, I gently took her hands and guided her away.

This is mine too. I get that your toddler is little and cute but my poor three-year-old should not have to endure unwanted touches, hugs, slobbery kisses, etc because you think your baby is so cute. My child is just little, too, and has feelings and a right to feel comfortable.


And do not get me started on the CONSTANT picture taking with the phone!!! For God's sake - stay in the moment and enjoy your child!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who uses the phrase, "gift of time."

Ditto. Want to strangle these idiots.

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Anonymous wrote:My pet peeve is when parents of little ones think everything their toddler does is so adorable that they don;t care that that toddler is bother other little kids or disrupting play or story time.

Example: An adorable 14 month old girl in the library loved to touch kids' hair. She really was so cute. However the little 20 month old little girl didn't like it and started to cry. And the mother of the 14 month old still didn't stop her baby and laughed. When the 14 month old came for my DS's hair, I gently took her hands and guided her away.

This is mine too. I get that your toddler is little and cute but my poor three-year-old should not have to endure unwanted touches, hugs, slobbery kisses, etc because you think your baby is so cute. My child is just little, too, and has feelings and a right to feel comfortable.


And do not get me started on the CONSTANT picture taking with the phone!!! For God's sake - stay in the moment and enjoy your child!!!

YES. My in-laws are this way, too. Can't stand it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a Facebook friend who takes everything her kid does as an opportunity to lecture other parents.

Look at what Larlo ate for lunch - kids need to be exposed to all sorts of foods and given no choice but what the adults eat. #nokidsmenu #pickyeatersnotallowed

Look at Larlo's arts and crafts project. Kids should be given every opportunity to practice their vocabulary - even in art!

And on and on. Why she feels the need to lecture the rest of us I don't know.

those hashtags are making me homicidal

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Who are all these parents preventing their kids from napping? I have never met one. Everyone loves their peace and quiet. PP with the napping sounds like she's patting herself on the back for doing what 99% of parents do: go home and put the kid down for the nap.

Umm me? We like to do family activities on the weekend and don't schedule them around the nap. Our toddler might sleep in the car or stroller when we're on the go. Otherwise we'll try to push his nap to the morning or late afternoon. Sometimes when we visit family he'll go to bed an hour or two late in the evening. Yes, he's not a great sleeper but it's what works best for our family.

Toddlers NEED good naps. It may be more convenient for you, but it does NOT "work best" for your child.

So you push him screaming and exhausted around H&M while you try on clothes?

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Who are all these parents preventing their kids from napping? I have never met one. Everyone loves their peace and quiet. PP with the napping sounds like she's patting herself on the back for doing what 99% of parents do: go home and put the kid down for the nap.

Umm me? We like to do family activities on the weekend and don't schedule them around the nap. Our toddler might sleep in the car or stroller when we're on the go. Otherwise we'll try to push his nap to the morning or late afternoon. Sometimes when we visit family he'll go to bed an hour or two late in the evening. Yes, he's not a great sleeper but it's what works best for our family.

So you push him screaming and exhausted around H&M while you try on clothes?

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My parenting pet peeve is parents who are afraid to say "no" to their children and allow them to do just about whatever they wish! There are rules which must be followed in life; the sooner your child understands that, the better. Children need limits, they need structure! Do not let them run your life, wimps!!!!!