What is your parenting pet peeve?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get the school thing at all. Why do you care?

My kid goes to a preschool with aftercare. Some kids stay full day and some are done just after the morning preschool. So now I have to say he goes to daycare those two days? Uh no. It's a preschool - preschool is in the damn name.

You child goes to preschool and aftercare. Not daycare. Daycare is not school. School is not daycare.

Simple.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

Kids think of it as school and know that word.

Get a job. You're so pathetic and transparent.

I'm the OP of that comment and I seem to have touched a nerve. Here's the irony: I've always worked full time. My kids went to daycare. They thought of it as that and knew that word. When they started kindergarten they went to school.

Ok, so did you feel like you needed to "justify" sending them to daycare? Probably not. If you did, stop projecting on the rest of us. It's just a word. I can't believe anyone would care enough for it to bother them.

No, it bother me too. I sacrifice to have a nanny for my son and pay a proper preschool tuition for three hours every morning. Daycare is NOT SCHOOL. It is daycare.

talk about projecting. that's on you, dude. i don't need to sacrifice because my kid, who's reading quite well going into kindergarten, went to plain old daycare. but sometimes i call it school. because it DOESN'T MATTER.

If it DOESN'T MATTER then call it college or the circus. You called it "school" because you were trying to make it sound better than daycare. Admit it.

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Parents who refer to themselves in 3rd person.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

Kids think of it as school and know that word.

Get a job. You're so pathetic and transparent.

I'm the OP of that comment and I seem to have touched a nerve. Here's the irony: I've always worked full time. My kids went to daycare. They thought of it as that and knew that word. When they started kindergarten they went to school.

Ok, so did you feel like you needed to "justify" sending them to daycare? Probably not. If you did, stop projecting on the rest of us. It's just a word. I can't believe anyone would care enough for it to bother them.

No, it bother me too. I sacrifice to have a nanny for my son and pay a proper preschool tuition for three hours every morning. Daycare is NOT SCHOOL. It is daycare.

talk about projecting. that's on you, dude. i don't need to sacrifice because my kid, who's reading quite well going into kindergarten, went to plain old daycare. but sometimes i call it school. because it DOESN'T MATTER.

If it DOESN'T MATTER then call it college or the circus. You called it "school" because you were trying to make it sound better than daycare. Admit it.

I call it "school" because that's what my three-year-old calls it. All the people I am even talking to her "school" about are already well aware that she's in daycare, and I don't make a secret of where she's at. I'm not trying to fool anyone or make myself feel better. I like where she's at, she likes where she's at, and if she wants to call it school, I just can't be bothered to correct her.

Also, she likes her daycare and likes going there, and if we can associate those positive feelings with "school," I'm all for it. I want her to be excited to go to school.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

Kids think of it as school and know that word.

Get a job. You're so pathetic and transparent.

I'm the OP of that comment and I seem to have touched a nerve. Here's the irony: I've always worked full time. My kids went to daycare. They thought of it as that and knew that word. When they started kindergarten they went to school.

Ok, so did you feel like you needed to "justify" sending them to daycare? Probably not. If you did, stop projecting on the rest of us. It's just a word. I can't believe anyone would care enough for it to bother them.

No, it bother me too. I sacrifice to have a nanny for my son and pay a proper preschool tuition for three hours every morning. Daycare is NOT SCHOOL. It is daycare.

talk about projecting. that's on you, dude. i don't need to sacrifice because my kid, who's reading quite well going into kindergarten, went to plain old daycare. but sometimes i call it school. because it DOESN'T MATTER.

If it DOESN'T MATTER then call it college or the circus. You called it "school" because you were trying to make it sound better than daycare. Admit it.

I call it "school" because that's what my three-year-old calls it. All the people I am even talking to her "school" about are already well aware that she's in daycare, and I don't make a secret of where she's at. I'm not trying to fool anyone or make myself feel better. I like where she's at, she likes where she's at, and if she wants to call it school, I just can't be bothered to correct her.

Also, she likes her daycare and likes going there, and if we can associate those positive feelings with "school," I'm all for it. I want her to be excited to go to school.

Your child id in daycare and she should know that she is in daycare. Her experiences at school will be very different. You are actually accomplishing the opposite of what you want.

I had two kids in daycare and ran into this same issue when the older started real school.

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Anyone who uses the phrase, "gift of time."

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

Kids think of it as school and know that word.

Get a job. You're so pathetic and transparent.

I'm the OP of that comment and I seem to have touched a nerve. Here's the irony: I've always worked full time. My kids went to daycare. They thought of it as that and knew that word. When they started kindergarten they went to school.

Ok, so did you feel like you needed to "justify" sending them to daycare? Probably not. If you did, stop projecting on the rest of us. It's just a word. I can't believe anyone would care enough for it to bother them.

No, it bother me too. I sacrifice to have a nanny for my son and pay a proper preschool tuition for three hours every morning. Daycare is NOT SCHOOL. It is daycare.

talk about projecting. that's on you, dude. i don't need to sacrifice because my kid, who's reading quite well going into kindergarten, went to plain old daycare. but sometimes i call it school. because it DOESN'T MATTER.

If it DOESN'T MATTER then call it college or the circus. You called it "school" because you were trying to make it sound better than daycare. Admit it.

I call it "school" because that's what my three-year-old calls it. All the people I am even talking to her "school" about are already well aware that she's in daycare, and I don't make a secret of where she's at. I'm not trying to fool anyone or make myself feel better. I like where she's at, she likes where she's at, and if she wants to call it school, I just can't be bothered to correct her.

Also, she likes her daycare and likes going there, and if we can associate those positive feelings with "school," I'm all for it. I want her to be excited to go to school.

Your child id in daycare and she should know that she is in daycare. Her experiences at school will be very different. You are actually accomplishing the opposite of what you want.

I had two kids in daycare and ran into this same issue when the older started real school.

I'm not PP, but what pray tell are we trying to accomplish? What "issue?" My oldest just started K. Sometimes we called his daycare "daycare" and sometimes "school" and he did the same. He knew exactly where he was. Now he's in "big kids' school." It's completely different and he's adjusting without much problem.

It's just a word and whoever cares THAT much about me using it is showing much more about themselves than they are about me. I'm happy with the choices I've made. I don't know why people are trying to convince themselves that I'm not. It doesn't really have anything to do with you.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

Kids think of it as school and know that word.

Get a job. You're so pathetic and transparent.

I'm the OP of that comment and I seem to have touched a nerve. Here's the irony: I've always worked full time. My kids went to daycare. They thought of it as that and knew that word. When they started kindergarten they went to school.

Ok, so did you feel like you needed to "justify" sending them to daycare? Probably not. If you did, stop projecting on the rest of us. It's just a word. I can't believe anyone would care enough for it to bother them.

No, it bother me too. I sacrifice to have a nanny for my son and pay a proper preschool tuition for three hours every morning. Daycare is NOT SCHOOL. It is daycare.

talk about projecting. that's on you, dude. i don't need to sacrifice because my kid, who's reading quite well going into kindergarten, went to plain old daycare. but sometimes i call it school. because it DOESN'T MATTER.

If it DOESN'T MATTER then call it college or the circus. You called it "school" because you were trying to make it sound better than daycare. Admit it.

I call it "school" because that's what my three-year-old calls it. All the people I am even talking to her "school" about are already well aware that she's in daycare, and I don't make a secret of where she's at. I'm not trying to fool anyone or make myself feel better. I like where she's at, she likes where she's at, and if she wants to call it school, I just can't be bothered to correct her.

Also, she likes her daycare and likes going there, and if we can associate those positive feelings with "school," I'm all for it. I want her to be excited to go to school.

She didn't decide on her own to call it school. She learned it from you. And you probably called at school because it sounded better than daycare.

And as someone else has pointed out, she's in for a hell of a shock when she goes.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

Kids think of it as school and know that word.

Get a job. You're so pathetic and transparent.

I'm the OP of that comment and I seem to have touched a nerve. Here's the irony: I've always worked full time. My kids went to daycare. They thought of it as that and knew that word. When they started kindergarten they went to school.

Ok, so did you feel like you needed to "justify" sending them to daycare? Probably not. If you did, stop projecting on the rest of us. It's just a word. I can't believe anyone would care enough for it to bother them.

No, it bother me too. I sacrifice to have a nanny for my son and pay a proper preschool tuition for three hours every morning. Daycare is NOT SCHOOL. It is daycare.

talk about projecting. that's on you, dude. i don't need to sacrifice because my kid, who's reading quite well going into kindergarten, went to plain old daycare. but sometimes i call it school. because it DOESN'T MATTER.

If it DOESN'T MATTER then call it college or the circus. You called it "school" because you were trying to make it sound better than daycare. Admit it.

I call it "school" because that's what my three-year-old calls it. All the people I am even talking to her "school" about are already well aware that she's in daycare, and I don't make a secret of where she's at. I'm not trying to fool anyone or make myself feel better. I like where she's at, she likes where she's at, and if she wants to call it school, I just can't be bothered to correct her.

Also, she likes her daycare and likes going there, and if we can associate those positive feelings with "school," I'm all for it. I want her to be excited to go to school.

She didn't decide on her own to call it school. She learned it from you. And you probably called at school because it sounded better than daycare.

And as someone else has pointed out, she's in for a hell of a shock when she goes.

A "hell of a shock?" Really? My kid was in a daycare for 5 years, in the last 3 in the preschool and then pre-K rooms. They did all the same sorts of things kids do in a preschool that calls itself a preschool rather than a daycare. They had a curriculum. In fact, even the infant room has a curriculum. He started this year in K knowing his letters, numbers, colors, can read more pretty well for his age, and can do a bit more than basic addition and subtraction. His writing could be better, but the academic stuff is no problem for him. The line up/sit at a desk/listen to teacher, etc. stuff is no problem - because again, he's done it all before. Recess is no problem. Obviously. Lunch is no problem. Delicious! They do circle time! When it's time to choose what they want to play with in the classroom, he calls it "centers" because that's what they called it at daycare. The classroom aspects of public school were the easiest transition for him to make. What TF is it you people think is so different about a regular preschool vs. a daycare? Do you think that he was locked in a cage for 12 hours a day rather than learning something? That they stick 50 kids in a large room and let them run around like Lord of the Flies?

All of you people insisting that daycare just isn't school sure sound like you're the ones trying to justify something to yourselves. Not really sure what that is or why you care what comes out of my mouth when I talk about where my kid is going during the day.

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Daycare is not school - it is daycare. Please stop calling it something that it is not. Yes, our kids learn in daycare and have school-like activities but it is not school.

It just makes parents who send their kids to daycare look like they have something to justify or be ashamed of. Our kids are in daycare - get over the shame.

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Anonymous wrote:Daycare is not school - it is daycare. Please stop calling it something that it is not. Yes, our kids learn in daycare and have school-like activities but it is not school.

It just makes parents who send their kids to daycare look like they have something to justify or be ashamed of. Our kids are in daycare - get over the shame.

I find this line of comments bizarre. I have no guilt about sending my child to daycare (for personal reasons we preferred it over a nanny), but I always refer to at as 'school' when I talk to my toddler daughter (i.e., it's time for school; we're at school; etc..). It's just easier to say. I call it daycare when talking to friends, 90% of the time. Not a big deal, and I think it's a reach to infer guilt from our choice of semantics.

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Anonymous wrote:Daycare is not school - it is daycare. Please stop calling it something that it is not. Yes, our kids learn in daycare and have school-like activities but it is not school.

It just makes parents who send their kids to daycare look like they have something to justify or be ashamed of. Our kids are in daycare - get over the shame.

what shame? i'm not ashamed in the slightest. you know why i use the word "school?" because it's one syllable whereas "daycare" is two. seriously. i'm all about efficiency. the fact that you ascribe any other motivation to my word usage is all on you.

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Anonymous wrote:Daycare is not school - it is daycare. Please stop calling it something that it is not. Yes, our kids learn in daycare and have school-like activities but it is not school.

It just makes parents who send their kids to daycare look like they have something to justify or be ashamed of. Our kids are in daycare - get over the shame.

I find this line of comments bizarre. I have no guilt about sending my child to daycare (for personal reasons we preferred it over a nanny), but I always refer to at as 'school' when I talk to my toddler daughter (i.e., it's time for school; we're at school; etc..). It's just easier to say. I call it daycare when talking to friends, 90% of the time. Not a big deal, and I think it's a reach to infer guilt from our choice of semantics.

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I'm PP after you, and I think this just goes along with most people assuming that, given a choice, all women would choose to SAH, and that working mothers must all feel guilty for putting their kids in daycare. In my case, none of that is true.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

Kids think of it as school and know that word.

Get a job. You're so pathetic and transparent.

I'm the OP of that comment and I seem to have touched a nerve. Here's the irony: I've always worked full time. My kids went to daycare. They thought of it as that and knew that word. When they started kindergarten they went to school.

Ok, so did you feel like you needed to "justify" sending them to daycare? Probably not. If you did, stop projecting on the rest of us. It's just a word. I can't believe anyone would care enough for it to bother them.

No, it bother me too. I sacrifice to have a nanny for my son and pay a proper preschool tuition for three hours every morning. Daycare is NOT SCHOOL. It is daycare.

talk about projecting. that's on you, dude. i don't need to sacrifice because my kid, who's reading quite well going into kindergarten, went to plain old daycare. but sometimes i call it school. because it DOESN'T MATTER.

If it DOESN'T MATTER then call it college or the circus. You called it "school" because you were trying to make it sound better than daycare. Admit it.

I call it "school" because that's what my three-year-old calls it. All the people I am even talking to her "school" about are already well aware that she's in daycare, and I don't make a secret of where she's at. I'm not trying to fool anyone or make myself feel better. I like where she's at, she likes where she's at, and if she wants to call it school, I just can't be bothered to correct her.

Also, she likes her daycare and likes going there, and if we can associate those positive feelings with "school," I'm all for it. I want her to be excited to go to school.

Your grammar is atrocious. I think you need to go back to daycare. Err, school. Please tell me you're not college educated. I fear for us all.

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Anonymous wrote:Another one! I posted about Loden's Mom.

Let's call this The Child Star Syndrome. Your admittedly precocious and verbal child interjects him/her self into adult conversations and demands attention, usually just by talking loudly and interrupting. Of course, (usually) Mom immediately turns all attention to her child and allows her child to hijack the adult conversation - all the while beaming with pride.

Not cute, not endearing and not doing your kid any favors. No one loves your child as much as you do and you are raising your kid to be socially inept.

My pet peeve are parents who don't encourage their kids to partake in adult conversations. How's your child supposed to develop an interest in political or social issues if they're never taken seriously when they're trying to build their (however naive and irrelevant to the conversation) own opinion on "adult" matters? Especially if they're not being forced into participating but doing so of their own accord. Congrats on raising a person who's never going to vote in an election in their life. Simply because you couldn't be bothered to pause your conversation for three seconds, humor the kid and carry on with whatever you were discussing afterwards.

Along the same lines are parents who deliberately *don't* teach/explain things to their children when they ask because "you're too young to be interested in that sunny, go play with your barbies instead". I, too, disagree with parents who force their kids into academics they're not ready for just to be able to say their little William or Ann is especially gifted. But I think parents holding their kids back intelectually just because they haven't reached a certain age yet are just as bad.

You are doing a bigger disservice to your child by discouraging them from joining in an "adult" conversation than you are by allowing them to learn how to express their own opinions in a conversational environment.