Honestly: is 41 too old to have a baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

Just remember that you will die while your child is relatively young.

[Anonymous]

At least your high school kid can push your wheel chair around

[Anonymous]

I had my daughter at 40, she is 16 years old. I remember at the time mentioning my concern about age to my OB, who laughed and said she had her last child at 43 and her partner in the practice had hers at 41! So far so good, except friends my age have no idea who "One Direction" is!

[Anonymous]

I'm 42 and we are trying to have our first baby. It is not too old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a second but I just feel that 41 is too old. Maybe not now but I bet I'll really feel it in my mid-50s. To those who have the life experience, what are your thoughts?

Just remember that you will die while your child is relatively young.

Like my mother who dropped dead when I was 12. And she was 42. Though guaranteed, the timing of death is impossible.

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Anonymous wrote:I did great having my first and only son at 41, did step aerobics right up until 4 days before delivery ... Thrived and was so happy doing things with my son and our little family. Happier than ever with life until my husband left me after 27 years of marriage ... My parents were dead, no brothers or sisters ... Now my son is 17 and it is very hard ... His dad is somewhat involved in his life, but my life is lonely and hard and I feel sad and alone. A new relationship with new man didnt work out, at 59 I feel broken and burdened with the tough teen years and how to handle my son. Not having siblings or parents for support.

To be fair, your issues do not have to do with AMA. Your issues are from a broken marriages and from having no family support. You could have had a child at 31 and your husband left you after 17 years of marriage and everything else could have been the exactly the same.

and wouldn't you rather be 59 with a son than 59 without? Then you would truly be alone!

As a "young" mom, I agree with this! I would much rather have a baby at 41 than no baby at all. There was an article about a woman who never had kids by choice and regretted it once her husband died and she had nobody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:41 is pushing it - but ok.
42+ is too old.

really?

I should have come to you before I gave birth to my son, aging expert!

I had my son at 42. I have two kids. I work FT, consult on the side, and find time to exercise. Yes, life is hectic, but it's fun.

You are as old as you feel, and I feel great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my daughter at 40, she is 16 years old. I remember at the time mentioning my concern about age to my OB, who laughed and said she had her last child at 43 and her partner in the practice had hers at 41! So far so good, except friends my age have no idea who "One Direction" is!

I just found out a week ago.

[Anonymous]

I had DS when I was 42. No issues at all. DS is 5. Today we were at Target and a man asked if he was my grandson! I told him I was his mother! Poor guy was embarrassed and said he didn't mean anything by it.... Lol! Guess I look my age and I certainly wouldn't mind being DS's grandma rather than the mom. Better than being asked if I am his nanny which happened all the time when he was a baby/toddler.

[Anonymous]

I had my only DC when I was 43. Almost 15 now, and there are times I wish I had been blessed at 30 or 35 but it's all good. Can't imagine my life without DC. Fortunately, I can pass for late 40s instead of 58 but who's counting?

Big damn deal if I won't see DC turn 50. My mom died when I was 30. I had her during the most informative years of my life. Would I have wanted her to live until 90? Of course! Am I glad she was there when I was a teen and young adult? Damn straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my daughter at 40, she is 16 years old. I remember at the time mentioning my concern about age to my OB, who laughed and said she had her last child at 43 and her partner in the practice had hers at 41! So far so good, except friends my age have no idea who "One Direction" is!

I just found out a week ago.

I took my daughter and her friends to see the Jonas Brothers. I thought I was going to die. Three years later when they wanted to see One Direction, I dropped them off and to text me when the concert was over. I took my over 50 but fabulous self to a piano bar during the concert. They did their thing, I did mine. A good time had by all! Over 50 with teens does not mean you are dead or out of touch unless you want to be.

Cheers to us 50+ hipsters with teens!!

[Anonymous]

I don't think so. My mom had my brother when she was 20, and me when she was 42. I'm 39 right now, and am very close with my mom. I'm also trying to get pregnant again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my daughter at 40, she is 16 years old. I remember at the time mentioning my concern about age to my OB, who laughed and said she had her last child at 43 and her partner in the practice had hers at 41! So far so good, except friends my age have no idea who "One Direction" is!

I just found out a week ago.

I took my daughter and her friends to see the Jonas Brothers. I thought I was going to die. Three years later when they wanted to see One Direction, I dropped them off and to text me when the concert was over. I took my over 50 but fabulous self to a piano bar during the concert. They did their thing, I did mine. A good time had by all! Over 50 with teens does not mean you are dead or out of touch unless you want to be.

Cheers to us 50+ hipsters with teens!!

PP here again....while on vacation this summer, I've scored some Steely Dan tickets. Still cool after all these years. My teens are NOT invited, thank you very much.

[Anonymous]

My siblings span some 25 years. My youngest sibling observed that, having been born when my parents were over 40, he will have the least amount of time to spend with them. and he never knew our grandparents. It makes him sad.

Not the end of the world, obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My siblings span some 25 years. My youngest sibling observed that, having been born when my parents were over 40, he will have the least amount of time to spend with them. and he never knew our grandparents. It makes him sad.

Not the end of the world, obviously.

Still not an excuse to deny someone the opportunity of having a child late in life. I've never heard any of my friends late life children say they wish they had never been born because their parents are older.