Sure, but if your child does this, they will go to a crappy college with dumb, lazy kids. In terms of stress and competition, US is just as intense, in fact, more intense than those other countries. You need to win national level awards in random hobbies to go to prestigious schools. You can't just "take orchestra, photography...". You need to win first places, sell artwork, play on TV etc etc. Hardly a happy laid back exploration you make it to be. |
Said someone with no kids in elite colleges. There really isn’t this much boiler plate expectations outside of online forums. I remember a mom asking a student guide if a student needed IMO medals to get a math major at an Ivy and the student responded with “what’s that?” |
Was this student a math major? |
One of mine took probably 15 or more but everyone in top 10% of gifted track were doing it. Mine had 5s in all, still didn't get into HYSPM even though they were naturally the kind of student these schools claim to love. Imho a lot depends on how you present your package, honesty and nonchalance doesn't go far. |
Yep, wouldn’t bring it up otherwise |
I know plenty of kids who were still maturing/finding their path at age 12 (many boys and a few girls). Had my son be "tracked" at age 12, he wouldn't have gone to college. Yet, he attended a T100 school, graduated in 4 years with a 3.5+ (after being "premed path" freshman year and destroying his gpa) with a finance degree. Started first job 2 weeks after graduation at a great company and excelling. In your country, he would have not been allowed to develop into the amazing adult he is today. Also, we don't have obscure requirements. Outside of T25 schools with sub 10% acceptance rates, there are hundreds of top (and a few thousand good) schools a kid can attend. To get into med school, you need the Med school STEM requirements with a great GPA (overall and for the requirements), excellent MCATs, excellent recommendations and volunteer hours/shadowing. It's really quite simple what is required. Vast majority who go onto become doctors in the USA did not have Organic chem in HS the learn that in college. Yet we train some of the top doctors in the world in the USA. Also, plenty of kids go onto become doctors who did NOT attend a T25 university for undergrad. Why? Because Chemistry/Phgysics/Biology/Orgo/ A&P are fairly straight forward courses. The material can be taught everywhere---you either know it or you don't. |
It really has to do with designing a good application with clear values that align with the colleges mission, strategic vision, and admissions qualities. No ones getting into Harvard if their app cannot clearly demonstrate how they are a leader and have potential to lead at the university |
The problem is precisely that there is no "boiler plate expectations". You don't even know what you need to do to qualify. Instead, you are judged holistically - as a person. How cruel, ridiculous and offensive. |
I don’t know. I feel the process is pretty objective and have three kids in ivies. It’s only confusing if you are listening to online forums and not listening to your counselor, your AOs, and the schools themselves |
![]() So there are, like, 2000 leaders every year. That's amazing .And the leaders also happen to have 4.0 GPA and 1580+ SAT score. Btw, I was a TA at Harvard and met a lot of these students. Leaders - maybe. Grinders - definitively. |
not really. You pick one (theater/band/orch/photography/artsy thing or non-academics area). I have a kid at a Top 40 school who took only AP STEM and AP Psych and skipped the entire Humanities/Social Science APs. Was in band all 4 years, including marching band and all that entails. Skipped AP FL as it didn't work with schedule. And focused on one main EC---dancing at competition level which she loved. Sure she missed the 2 T30 schools (WL at both), but with 5-7% acceptance rates that just as likely could have happened if she took 5 more APs and made herself crazy overloaded. So nope, my kid is not attending a "crappy college with dumb kids". Instead she is attending an amazing top school filled with "T20 rejects". Literally all 20+ of her friends were WL at multiple T20 schools, a few even turned down a higher ranked school because this was a better fit. My other kid (with less drive) attended a T80 school---perfect for them. Plenty of smart, highly motivated kids there as well. Graduated, got an excellent job and excelling at life/adulthood. It's you who needs to get over the concept that "it's Top 10 College or Bust". Plenty of people (in fact vast majority) excel in life and do not attend a T10/T20 university for undergrad. Look at the C Suite at most companies, and you will see vast majority there did not either. Look around you at your job and there will be many doing the same job who "gasp" did not attend an elite undergrad. |
2000 leaders isnt that unreasonable. How many kids are graduating every year? Like 3-4 million. But I’m fine with Harvard grads admitting they aren’t leaders, suits me BOOLA BOOLA |
It's not confusing at all. It's just ridiculous but you are not seeing it because you are so deeply in it. The applications themselves ask you for your ECs, your awards, essays, RLs, money. They want to know if your parents went to college and where are you from. You never see the ranking list of those admitted and their scores. You have no idea how you scored on your own application. You can lie about your life, your origins and also, what you intend to study. People literally pretend they want to study classics, invest years of work to make this sham credible, and then study premed. You have no clue why someone is in and someone else out. You are at a complete mercy of AOs and those are not even professors. In normal countries, it is the faculty that makes the entrance exams because they know what you need to know to thrive in their classes. Not here - you need to make the class special, to be the missing piece. It's not what the school can do for you, but what can you do for the school. Crazy. |
I have no stake in selling the admissions process to you. I think you’re just obsessed with being a victim and are trying to rush medium talent potentially mediocre kids into a place that doesn’t fit well. Good luck |
PP said that "they had potential to lead at the university". not that they can lead after school, though we will agree that only a very small fraction of harvard graduates will lead anything. |