What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?

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Anonymous wrote:I spend my time wasting hours with scammers who call from India.

Do you mean you f@ck with them as a hobby? I’ve done that too!

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Anonymous wrote:I am secretly ready for my father to die. He is mostly independent and not mean in any way but I am tired having to be responsible for him in general

Have the same feelings for my mother.

Np, and I am confused by these posts. If your parents are independent and not unkind, why would prefer they die?? Is the air in their lungs holding up your inheritance? If so, gross.

First PP here. My father doesn’t have much; in fact I envision having to invest a lot of effort and time on my part in him in the next few years and a lot of money on my brother’s part.
What weighs on me is that the choices are either leaving him vulnerable or investing so much (not just money) into his care. I resent having to care for him. I am not sure it’s because of family history or because I am just selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:I was never so happy to get my mom to Oregon where she could end her life on her terms. Such a relief and burden was lifted!

My father is asking me to do the same “one day”, but I feel like it’s yet another burden he is placing on me - the need to decide when it’s time.
And I resent him for it all the more.

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Anonymous wrote:I appear happily married. However, DW suffers from crippling anxiety which sucks the life out of me. I would have been more successful if I hadn’t married her. I do love her, but I’m becoming resentful.

If you don’t have kids, run. If you do, run but get as much custody as you can.
Signed, someone who had a mentally ill mother and a father who never protected us

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Anonymous wrote:I am secretly ready for my father to die. He is mostly independent and not mean in any way but I am tired having to be responsible for him in general

Have the same feelings for my mother.

Just curious, what was your relationship like?
I am the PP. I think a lot of my resentment stems from the fact that I was very young when I realized how weak and almost cowardly my dad was. I feel he should have done something for my sibling and I he never did; it’s like he was an older brother first and then immediately became our child.

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When I was about 13, an old drunk guy offered me a small amount of cash to help him move a dresser. Went in his house, upstairs to the bedroom and he threw my down on the bed and tried to rape me but didn't get far at all. Ran out of his house and returned with a friend of mine. Stood across the street throwing big rocks at his house until we finally broke a few of his windows.

My art teacher in high school offered me money to pose nude for her. Didn't do it. Felt really creepy. I had a GF my age. The teacher did not like my GF.

The extent of the kinky sex I enjoy but, I don't think someones sex life is anyone's business. I don't feel a need to try and explain it to someone who isn't in that life and wouldn't understand. The few times I've tried were a mistake and I learned.

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I helped at at least 4 guys lose virginity. Two of them were my boyfriends and two more just a fling. I like to think of it as my contribution to a better world

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I was a paparazzi photographer. That included taking pics of minors near their family homes or in distress.

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Anonymous wrote:I was a paparazzi photographer. That included taking pics of minors near their family homes or in distress.

Brutal.

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Anonymous wrote:I helped at at least 4 guys lose virginity. Two of them were my boyfriends and two more just a fling. I like to think of it as my contribution to a better world

You've made the world a better place. Thanks for spreading the love around and putting smiles on those young mens' faces.

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Anonymous wrote:I am secretly ready for my father to die. He is mostly independent and not mean in any way but I am tired having to be responsible for him in general

Have the same feelings for my mother.

Np, and I am confused by these posts. If your parents are independent and not unkind, why would prefer they die?? Is the air in their lungs holding up your inheritance? If so, gross.

Kind is not a word that would describe my mother ever in her lifetime. I have no expectation of an inheritance. You are gross for thinking that.

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Anonymous wrote:Abortion when I had kids who were elementary age. I don’t regret it at all. My sisters who are my best friends don’t even know. I kind of want to scream it from the roof tops given how backward this country has become about women’s body autonomy.

I had one and the same circumstances in 2020 and I feel a lot of complicated feelings about it. Mostly regret. I wish I could get to a place of feeling like it was the right choice. I know intellectually it was.

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Anonymous wrote:I spend my time wasting hours with scammers who call from India.

Do you mean you f@ck with them as a hobby? I’ve done that too!

Yes sometimes for hours.

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I banged my high school Spanish teacher in the classroom after school . It was my first sexual experience

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Anonymous wrote:We are much more financially successful than my family or most of my friends know. I know that one family member who is also very rich has realized it based on various obscure things that he picked up on, but no one else has, and we like it that way.

+1. We’re friends with lots of other professional couples (lawyers, PE, physicians, tech sales from top schools) our age. I would guess average income is $400-600k and net worth of $500-1000k. We all talk about the same vacations, schools, clothing, hobbies so it would seem that we have a similar financial backgrounds as early 40 something professionals.

In reality, our net worth is about $10m.

A few of the folks closest to us have started to put together that our position has greatly changed. What I find more fascinating is the folks that don’t know. Some treat us very well, and we hold them close - those are our true friends. Some are competitive and I almost wish I could tell them because it’s hurting our friendships. Still others make it clear they look down their noses at us/don’t think we’re worth their time. We’re moving to a nicer neighborhood soon and that’ll make things more obvious. I won’t be forgetting who treated us poorly.

You sound insane.

+1 my first thought as well