My Sister is Batshit Crazy!

[Anonymous]

This is mainly a vent... but god she is nuts.

She has been married twice. She is 32. Her last ex was married as was she. Now she is dating someone who is separated with FOUR kids. Please tell me why she can be judge and jury of people's lives or opinions?

She hung up on me bc I said my DH's brother who just passed was a vile human being. She didn't even know the man. WTF? He was a very mean abusive man. He treated DH like crap. THis is the man who when DH was deathly sick said to just let him die-he was not a saint! I mean I am entitled to my opinion correct?

Grrr..she is the most frustrating person..

[Anonymous]

Every family has one. Oddly enough, in my family it is my sister too! People forget I have a sister; that's how rarely I talk about her. Talk about my brothers often. They're cool dudes.

[Anonymous]

I think I share an office with your sister. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Thanks! it is insanity. It was one of those moments when you just sit there and wonder if that really happened!

[Anonymous]

I think your sister has a twin, separated at birth, and who has been masquerading as my sister. It's time to get them together and ship both off to Mars.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sure your sister is a problem and she obviously doesn't make great choices, but do you think you might be highly judgemental? I mean you tell us how horrible your sister is and then the next thing you tell us is how horrible your BIL was. Hmmmmm......

[Anonymous]

ha ha ha. So much of this sounds like MY crazy sister!

[Anonymous]

My sister is also nuts, and a Debbie downer to the extreme!

[Anonymous]

Slightly off point, but it is a pet peeve of mine:

"I am entitled to my opinion, correct?"

You know, there is a difference between being "entitled" to your own opinion and other people being forced to listen to it. You may feel that a family member that just passed away was "a vile human being," but it is not unreasonable for someone to choose not to hear it. And I assume there is more to the story. You likely did not just simply state "DH's Bis a vile a human being." You probably went on and on after she told you she heard enough. So, are you "entitled" to hold her hostage on the phone while you rant about somebody?

And btw, why is it wrong to date somebody who has "FOUR" kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please tell me why she can be judge and jury of people's lives or opinions?

I don't know--why can YOU be judge and jury? You haven't stated your own credentials.

[Anonymous]

I haven't spoken to my sister in 4 year b/c I got sick of her verbal abuse. She's mean and then plays the victim so my mom and brothers think I'm the unreasonable one for cutting her out of my life! Ack

[Anonymous]

I don't get why you suggest that being divorced and dating someone w/ "FOUR" kids makes them so terrible. You sound like an asshole too, honestly.

[Anonymous]

You both sound like you need to learn how to live and let live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you suggest that being divorced and dating someone w/ "FOUR" kids makes them so terrible. You sound like an asshole too, honestly.

I disagree. Being divorced TWICE by age 32 indicates that someone makes poor choices and perhaps lacks the maturity necessary to be a fixture in the lives of four children. Yes, there could always extenuating circumstances, but most likely, the sister is a bad judge of character, jumps into things without thinking, and/or immature. Or, she could have married perfectly nice guys who then found out she was batshit crazy and left.

I'm lucky that my sister is great. My SIL on the other hand... also divorced twice by 32 because she married (a) a coke head who was constantly being sued by his ex-girlfriend for not paying child support and (b) a loser who couldn't keep a steady job to save his life. How can you not see the red flags in both of these scenarios?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you suggest that being divorced and dating someone w/ "FOUR" kids makes them so terrible. You sound like an asshole too, honestly.

I disagree. Being divorced TWICE by age 32 indicates that someone makes poor choices and perhaps lacks the maturity necessary to be a fixture in the lives of four children. Yes, there could always extenuating circumstances, but most likely, the sister is a bad judge of character, jumps into things without thinking, and/or immature. Or, she could have married perfectly nice guys who then found out she was batshit crazy and left.

I'm lucky that my sister is great. My SIL on the other hand... also divorced twice by 32 because she married (a) a coke head who was constantly being sued by his ex-girlfriend for not paying child support and (b) a loser who couldn't keep a steady job to save his life. How can you not see the red flags in both of these scenarios?

I'm sure life seems very clear to you in retrospective and from the outside. How could she have failed to look into her crystal ball?