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Missing Woman Killed in Aruba - Need Advice
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Ugh, my son just told me that he goes to school with the suspects children. It kind of creeped me out. Any advice for me as a parent as to what I should say to my son? I asked him if he's spoken to the kids, I asked him how other students were treating the suspect's children, and I asked him to please be kind to them. I told my DS that under NO CIRCUMSTANCES is he to mock them or engage in any negative behavior that involves them or their father.
How would you approach this with your children? FWIW it's a high school aged-issue. These aren't "kids" but they are young adults that still need guidance. What would you say to your child if they were in school with a suspected murderer's children? |
Anonymous
Yous done good. 
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Anonymous
| Is he guilty? |
Anonymous
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Is the father involved with his kids? it seems he has been with many different women and living a pretty violent life - domestic violence reports etc. his kids may actually not hold him in very high regard.
I think what you told your son is good - what the father does has no bearing on who the kids are. They are not responsible for the sins of their father. They probably don't want to be treat any differently then they were before. The only thing you might add is for him to stand up for them with a hey guys, "it isn't his fault his father's a suspect" or something if others are bugging the suspect's kids when your son is around. |
Anonymous
| You're wise to counsel your children on being kind to them. They are going through their own loss right now and who knows what is being told to them by their own family. They should be treat them normally, kindly and stay away from topics involving the other children's father. |
Anonymous
Not officially, still hasn't been charged but is being held in Aruba due to his suspicious behavior. |
Anonymous
| Poor kids. |
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I really have no idea to what degree the children are involved with the father, but I do know that it's the father's house that feeds to my son's high school (which I guess isn't too tough to figure out since the news is constantly showing the father's house). Either the kids live with dad and go to the HS, the dad splits time with mom and she's in the same school district, or the kids live with mom & dad belongs to the better school so the kids are registered at dad's HS. Kids can be so cruel, if anyone is bullying or teasing these kids I just really want my DS to understand what these children may be experiencing is tough and no one should be adding to their pain or making them feel bad. I can't say though that is I was the mom that I'd keep the kids at this school, unless they wanted to stay, of course. I'd move them to a school that this media blitz didn't follow then and they were relatively unknown. |
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| Even if the father is found guilty, one would hope that his kids dont suffer consequences bc of it. How sad for these boys.... |
Anonymous
| Definitely keep up the kindness theme, not the kids' fault, etc etc. This might also be a good time to talk to them about "innocent until proven guilty" and explain how the justice system is designed to make that decision. Remind them that there have been no charges and definitely no conviction and that the dad might turn out to be innocent after all. Not that it would be ok to pick on the kids if the dad were guilty, but it will give them a moral leg up over other, meaner kids. |
Anonymous
I agree - that's the right thing to do. Whatever has happened, these kids weren't involved, and hopefully the majority of their classmates will be kind to them right now. |
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My understanding is that the kids live with their mom.
Tell your kid to leave them alone and don't treat them any different from other kids. |