Stop calling yourself blessed when what you are is privileged

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"Blessed" and "privileged" are both nauseating words and way overused.

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Anonymous wrote:when someone says they're blessed, to me, it's the same as saying they're lucky, which they might be.

It's not a personal affront, OP. Whether it's luck, privilege, hard work, or a blessing, it doesn't really matter, because the outcome is the same. Just be happy for them and for their acknowledgement that they have something in life to be grateful for.

DP here. I get what OP is saying. It's the tone deafness. What is implied when you say you are blessed because of your good fortune - that some divine being has smiled upon you, and even if you deny it, there is the logical implication that others who haven't had much good fortune in life are not blessed.

That's all.

No, your conclusion is not logical.

Saying that you've been blessed doesn't imply that others aren't blessed because they don't have exactly what you have, when you have it. If I say I am blessed to have a house, it doesn't imply that those without houses are not also blessed. There was a time when I didn't have a house either. I spent years saving for a home, then I spent a year looking for a house and put in offers on multiple homes and was outbid again and again, but I still considered myself blessed then in countless ways. Saying that you are blessed is more about a general state of grace and gratitude, not about having everything you want.

So if you are blessed because you have a house, what happens when you lose that house, have your lost your blessing?

No. Reread and try again.

^Also, since this is about semantics and phrasing, I did not say I was blessed because I have a house. I said I was blessed to have a house; having a house is not the reason I am blessed. I am blessed because of God's grace.

Then why link god’s grace to your house at all?

Many terrible people throughout history have had houses, even palaces. Were those the result of god’s grace too? Do the homeless have a smaller portion of god’s grace?

You clearly don't read the bible. I could answer meaningfully, but why bother. You have eyes that cannot see, and ears that cannot hear.

bwa ha ha. Catholic school grad who never missed weekly mass the first 24 years of my life.

"I am blessed to have a house" does not equal "I am blessed because of God's grace." At all.

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Anonymous wrote:Let me posit this: for those of you who preach “personal responsibility” and believe it’s so feasible to pull oneself up by the bootstraps, why are you saving for your kids’ college? Why are you creating a trust fund for them? Why do you live in McLean? If it’s so simple to just work hard and make it no matter where you’re from, why bother with all of that? Can’t your kid just save up money themselves like you tell poor kids to?

The idea that it is immoral or unethical for a parent to provide a better life for their child is flat-out inhuman. It also implicitly presumes that everything one family has really belongs to the collective and has been inequitably distributed. These are communist talking points.

Okay but don’t pretend a kid from Anascotia has the same chances in life or even close chances to a kid from McLean.

But surely you believe they have the opportunity to live a better life than their parents? And that they have the opportunity to give THEIR children a better life than they had? And somewhere down then line maybe one of their descendants will be a kid born in McLean.

And don't pretend that a kid from McLean can get away with stuff that a kid from Anacostia cannot; that "justice" slams down harder on a kid from Anacostia than a kid from McLean especially when it comes to minor infractions.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok. Let’s cancel overuse of “privileged” next.

This.

If you work for it, you aren’t privileged.

And, privilege shouldn’t become a scarlet letter.

It’s not a scarlet letter. So why not admit you have it?

It is in today's world. Calling someone privileged is a slam against them. It's saying they have something they don't deserve to have. It couldn't have been earned, it had to have been because of their "privilege".

You can earn things and still be cognizant that there are fewer barriers to clear. Privilege is a clearer, or at least less obstacle laden path. For example, we grew up poor but we could still afford the sugar for brand name Kool-Aid. We shopped at bulk food stores because my parents could afford the membership, and had a car to bring everything across the highway safely. We are also white so my parents had fewer obstacles to obtain a loan towards their townhome. We bought second hand everything and wore hand me downs, but the clerk didn’t keep an eye out for me stealing in the thrift store just because.

Your explanation doesn't change that it is a negative to be viewed as "priviliged".

The DMV is full of these Snowflakes who have an incredibly high standard of living, access to excellent schools, and a strong quality of life but shrivel into a shell as soon as anonymous person calls them privileged. Get over yourselves

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Yes, I am privileged. Saying this doesn’t undermine my sense of self. Why is that so hard?

Because typically when you call someone privileged you're telling them to sit down and shut up.

Typically I'm telling fellow privileged people to acknowledge how good we have it compared with others, and not to ascribe our good fortune of accidents of birth to some kind of moral superiority.

[Anonymous]

Lots of black people use the word blessed.

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Prosperity gospel a la Joel Osteen and others have altered the secular interpretation of the word. Blessed wasn’t a word ascribed to SES. Whatever happened to blessed are the poor?

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Anonymous wrote:Trying to understand the root of certain people's strong negative reaction, so I'll pose these questions:

1. What would be an appropriate hashtag for someone posting about their new house/vacation/healthy kid/celebratory event?
2. Let's assume what they want to convey is that they are feeling fortunate and grateful?
2. Let's assume that they believe that "blessed" describes the above feelings?
2. Should they just not post those things at all?

Meh, I don't know why you have to have a hashtag at all. But if you insist and if you care that others find your "blessed" sentiment off-putting, how about something like #fantastic! Or #luckyducky. Or #gratitude. Or #Huzzah! Or #Happiness.

Or you can go old-fashioned piety and use #Vanitas or #Momentomori. That will really play with people's heads.

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Anonymous wrote:when someone says they're blessed, to me, it's the same as saying they're lucky, which they might be.

It's not a personal affront, OP. Whether it's luck, privilege, hard work, or a blessing, it doesn't really matter, because the outcome is the same. Just be happy for them and for their acknowledgement that they have something in life to be grateful for.

DP here. I get what OP is saying. It's the tone deafness. What is implied when you say you are blessed because of your good fortune - that some divine being has smiled upon you, and even if you deny it, there is the logical implication that others who haven't had much good fortune in life are not blessed.

That's all.

No, your conclusion is not logical.

Saying that you've been blessed doesn't imply that others aren't blessed because they don't have exactly what you have, when you have it. If I say I am blessed to have a house, it doesn't imply that those without houses are not also blessed. There was a time when I didn't have a house either. I spent years saving for a home, then I spent a year looking for a house and put in offers on multiple homes and was outbid again and again, but I still considered myself blessed then in countless ways. Saying that you are blessed is more about a general state of grace and gratitude, not about having everything you want.

So if you are blessed because you have a house, what happens when you lose that house, have your lost your blessing?

No. Reread and try again.

^Also, since this is about semantics and phrasing, I did not say I was blessed because I have a house. I said I was blessed to have a house; having a house is not the reason I am blessed. I am blessed because of God's grace.

Then why link god’s grace to your house at all?

Many terrible people throughout history have had houses, even palaces. Were those the result of god’s grace too? Do the homeless have a smaller portion of god’s grace?

You clearly don't read the bible. I could answer meaningfully, but why bother. You have eyes that cannot see, and ears that cannot hear.

bwa ha ha. Catholic school grad who never missed weekly mass the first 24 years of my life.

"I am blessed to have a house" does not equal "I am blessed because of God's grace." At all.

Catholic school grad = / = faith.

You cannot understand because you are only focused on the material.

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Anonymous wrote:Let me posit this: for those of you who preach “personal responsibility” and believe it’s so feasible to pull oneself up by the bootstraps, why are you saving for your kids’ college? Why are you creating a trust fund for them? Why do you live in McLean? If it’s so simple to just work hard and make it no matter where you’re from, why bother with all of that? Can’t your kid just save up money themselves like you tell poor kids to?

The idea that it is immoral or unethical for a parent to provide a better life for their child is flat-out inhuman. It also implicitly presumes that everything one family has really belongs to the collective and has been inequitably distributed. These are communist talking points.

Okay but don’t pretend a kid from Anascotia has the same chances in life or even close chances to a kid from McLean.

But surely you believe they have the opportunity to live a better life than their parents? And that they have the opportunity to give THEIR children a better life than they had? And somewhere down then line maybe one of their descendants will be a kid born in McLean.

And don't pretend that a kid from McLean can get away with stuff that a kid from Anacostia cannot; that "justice" slams down harder on a kid from Anacostia than a kid from McLean especially when it comes to minor infractions.

What now? (Also, so don’t commit minor infractions. Duh.)

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Anonymous wrote:I dont get the ding dongs that believe in god and think the Bible is a factual document.

Right ?

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Anonymous wrote:How about you stop putting down other people's religious beliefs. The bible teaches about blessings. If you don't believe in it, keep it to yourself. Wrapping your attack on other people's religious beliefs in the cloak of anti-white privilege activism doesn't work. You are still attacking a person's religion. So you are still a crappy person.

And you are attacking OP’s beliefs. So you are on same level as OP.

Nope. Never attacked a religion. Only OP owns that, nice try.

Beliefs, religion, same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:when someone says they're blessed, to me, it's the same as saying they're lucky, which they might be.

It's not a personal affront, OP. Whether it's luck, privilege, hard work, or a blessing, it doesn't really matter, because the outcome is the same. Just be happy for them and for their acknowledgement that they have something in life to be grateful for.

DP here. I get what OP is saying. It's the tone deafness. What is implied when you say you are blessed because of your good fortune - that some divine being has smiled upon you, and even if you deny it, there is the logical implication that others who haven't had much good fortune in life are not blessed.

That's all.

No, your conclusion is not logical.

Saying that you've been blessed doesn't imply that others aren't blessed because they don't have exactly what you have, when you have it. If I say I am blessed to have a house, it doesn't imply that those without houses are not also blessed. There was a time when I didn't have a house either. I spent years saving for a home, then I spent a year looking for a house and put in offers on multiple homes and was outbid again and again, but I still considered myself blessed then in countless ways. Saying that you are blessed is more about a general state of grace and gratitude, not about having everything you want.

So if you are blessed because you have a house, what happens when you lose that house, have your lost your blessing?

No. Reread and try again.

^Also, since this is about semantics and phrasing, I did not say I was blessed because I have a house. I said I was blessed to have a house; having a house is not the reason I am blessed. I am blessed because of God's grace.

Then why link god’s grace to your house at all?

Many terrible people throughout history have had houses, even palaces. Were those the result of god’s grace too? Do the homeless have a smaller portion of god’s grace?

You clearly don't read the bible. I could answer meaningfully, but why bother. You have eyes that cannot see, and ears that cannot hear.

bwa ha ha. Catholic school grad who never missed weekly mass the first 24 years of my life.

"I am blessed to have a house" does not equal "I am blessed because of God's grace." At all.

Catholic school grad = / = faith.

You cannot understand because you are only focused on the material.

Stop changing the goal posts.

Listen to yourself judging other people and their faith. I believe the Bible has something to say about that. Matthew 7:1-3 John 8:7

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Blessed" and "privileged" are both nauseating words and way overused.

Exactly! Just live your own life + stop preaching OP..

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Anonymous wrote:when someone says they're blessed, to me, it's the same as saying they're lucky, which they might be.

It's not a personal affront, OP. Whether it's luck, privilege, hard work, or a blessing, it doesn't really matter, because the outcome is the same. Just be happy for them and for their acknowledgement that they have something in life to be grateful for.

DP here. I get what OP is saying. It's the tone deafness. What is implied when you say you are blessed because of your good fortune - that some divine being has smiled upon you, and even if you deny it, there is the logical implication that others who haven't had much good fortune in life are not blessed.

That's all.

No, your conclusion is not logical.

Saying that you've been blessed doesn't imply that others aren't blessed because they don't have exactly what you have, when you have it. If I say I am blessed to have a house, it doesn't imply that those without houses are not also blessed. There was a time when I didn't have a house either. I spent years saving for a home, then I spent a year looking for a house and put in offers on multiple homes and was outbid again and again, but I still considered myself blessed then in countless ways. Saying that you are blessed is more about a general state of grace and gratitude, not about having everything you want.

So if you are blessed because you have a house, what happens when you lose that house, have your lost your blessing?

No. Reread and try again.

^Also, since this is about semantics and phrasing, I did not say I was blessed because I have a house. I said I was blessed to have a house; having a house is not the reason I am blessed. I am blessed because of God's grace.

Then why link god’s grace to your house at all?

Many terrible people throughout history have had houses, even palaces. Were those the result of god’s grace too? Do the homeless have a smaller portion of god’s grace?

Exodus 20:17

"You shall not covet your neighbor's house."

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Anonymous wrote:when someone says they're blessed, to me, it's the same as saying they're lucky, which they might be.

It's not a personal affront, OP. Whether it's luck, privilege, hard work, or a blessing, it doesn't really matter, because the outcome is the same. Just be happy for them and for their acknowledgement that they have something in life to be grateful for.

DP here. I get what OP is saying. It's the tone deafness. What is implied when you say you are blessed because of your good fortune - that some divine being has smiled upon you, and even if you deny it, there is the logical implication that others who haven't had much good fortune in life are not blessed.

That's all.

No, your conclusion is not logical.

Saying that you've been blessed doesn't imply that others aren't blessed because they don't have exactly what you have, when you have it. If I say I am blessed to have a house, it doesn't imply that those without houses are not also blessed. There was a time when I didn't have a house either. I spent years saving for a home, then I spent a year looking for a house and put in offers on multiple homes and was outbid again and again, but I still considered myself blessed then in countless ways. Saying that you are blessed is more about a general state of grace and gratitude, not about having everything you want.

So if you are blessed because you have a house, what happens when you lose that house, have your lost your blessing?

No. Reread and try again.

^Also, since this is about semantics and phrasing, I did not say I was blessed because I have a house. I said I was blessed to have a house; having a house is not the reason I am blessed. I am blessed because of God's grace.

Then why link god’s grace to your house at all?

Many terrible people throughout history have had houses, even palaces. Were those the result of god’s grace too? Do the homeless have a smaller portion of god’s grace?

You clearly don't read the bible. I could answer meaningfully, but why bother. You have eyes that cannot see, and ears that cannot hear.

bwa ha ha. Catholic school grad who never missed weekly mass the first 24 years of my life.

"I am blessed to have a house" does not equal "I am blessed because of God's grace." At all.

Catholic school grad = / = faith.

You cannot understand because you are only focused on the material.

Stop changing the goal posts.

Listen to yourself judging other people and their faith. I believe the Bible has something to say about that. Matthew 7:1-3 John 8:7

No, actually that's what you've been doing all along, starting with your first post.