Weird habits of the house/houseguest

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

This is such a common expectation now its weird to be put off by it. And as there’s so much supporting evidence of all the literal crap shoes bring in-I find shoe wearing homes gross.

I was a principal ballet dancer (Prima Ballerina) for 20+ years & it absolutely ravaged my feet... permanently.

Today, I can only walk wearing shoes with supports in them, I can no longer walk bare footed AT ALL. At home, I wear custom slippers with the same supports in them, but they are very expensive as everything in them are custom made just for my feet.

What would you have me do in this situation?

I get the impression that your friends know all about your career as a ballerina so it wouldn't be difficult to explain your need to wear shoes...just make sure you're wearing clean shoes. I don't care about anyone's nasty toes or mismatched socks, but I do care if they track mud into my house. If you can't show some respect to your host, then don't bother accepting the invitation. Likewise, if you are a host and your friend mentions to you that she can't go barefoot, then you should still be welcoming. Both sides need to show basic respect.

Why don’t you carry around shoe covers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume that if I go to someone's house, I'll take my shoes off.

Me too and I always do even before they ask.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

This is such a common expectation now its weird to be put off by it. And as there’s so much supporting evidence of all the literal crap shoes bring in-I find shoe wearing homes gross.

We’re a shoe-free household, but I don’t ask unless my guests question our preference. We have elderly guests and guests with babies — I understand they need the support of shoes and slipping in socks is a risk. We provide slippers for overnight guests/family who know our preferences. I also always make sure I pack a pair of socks when I go to someone’s house if I’m wearing flats —think it’s weird to walk around barefoot, but respect their wishes and understand how dirty shoes are or cultural differences.

[Anonymous]

ENOUGH ABOUT THE SHOES!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

This is such a common expectation now its weird to be put off by it. And as there’s so much supporting evidence of all the literal crap shoes bring in-I find shoe wearing homes gross.

I was a principal ballet dancer (Prima Ballerina) for 20+ years & it absolutely ravaged my feet... permanently.

Today, I can only walk wearing shoes with supports in them, I can no longer walk bare footed AT ALL. At home, I wear custom slippers with the same supports in them, but they are very expensive as everything in them are custom made just for my feet.

What would you have me do in this situation?

I get the impression that your friends know all about your career as a ballerina so it wouldn't be difficult to explain your need to wear shoes...just make sure you're wearing clean shoes. I don't care about anyone's nasty toes or mismatched socks, but I do care if they track mud into my house. If you can't show some respect to your host, then don't bother accepting the invitation. Likewise, if you are a host and your friend mentions to you that she can't go barefoot, then you should still be welcoming. Both sides need to show basic respect.

Why don’t you carry around shoe covers?

Enough with the shoe covers lady. That is weird. Stop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ENOUGH ABOUT THE SHOES!!!!!!

I agree!! The no-shoes nazis have ruined a great thread that could have been about guests who reuse paper towels.....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

This is such a common expectation now its weird to be put off by it. And as there’s so much supporting evidence of all the literal crap shoes bring in-I find shoe wearing homes gross.

We’re a shoe-free household, but I don’t ask unless my guests question our preference. We have elderly guests and guests with babies — I understand they need the support of shoes and slipping in socks is a risk. We provide slippers for overnight guests/family who know our preferences. I also always make sure I pack a pair of socks when I go to someone’s house if I’m wearing flats —think it’s weird to walk around barefoot, but respect their wishes and understand how dirty shoes are or cultural differences.

Shoe wearing homes are usually nasty.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

I hate all of you.

That's all.

[Anonymous]

Leaving stinky poop diapers in guest room waste basket!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL keeps a small plastic bowl on a windowsill in her kitchen for trash. It is so difficult to figure out what the heck to do with trash when our family visits. They don’t have a garbage disposal either. I just started packing our own trash bags.

We don't have a garbage disposal. Putting food down the drain is dumb.

I’m not judging them for not having a garbage disposal. They live in a 600 year old house. But if you don’t have a garbage disposal you need something for trash, like a composter or something. A tiny plastic bowl on the window sill just doesn’t cut it.

[Anonymous]

This is why I refuse to invite anyone to my home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leaving stinky poop diapers in guest room waste basket!

OMG someone did this in your home???

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I once stayed at a friend's house on an island in Maine where there was no electricity other than a generator. They had indoor plumbing and an outhouse, but you were expected to use the outhouse during daylight hours. With the inside toilet, you flushed only for #2. Showers were limited and if you took one, you had to turn the water on only while getting wet or rinsing off. It was different...but made me realize how wasteful our creature comforts can be sometimes.

This reminds me of staying with friends of my parents who had a boat - like a 40ft thing with a couple of cabins. They had a rule that you could only use 5 pieces of toilet paper at a time. It was fine... and I understand that the plumbing on ships is different.. but I did worry about what would happen if I really needed more!

That’s ridiculous. As long as they were using marine toilet paper, had been properly servicing their holding tank, and you didn’t go crazy with the TP, there’s no reason for that rule. We have a boat and we just try to be sensible about this kind of thing. We do encourage guests to use the marina bathroom before boarding, and we have a personal “no #2 on the boat” rule for my DH and me simply because we don’t want to be carrying it around until we pump out, but I’d never tell my guests to limit TP to 5 squares.

Ahhh! How long are you on the boat? Wouldn't it be better to be carrying it in the tank rather than "in the tank," as it were?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I once stayed at a friend's house on an island in Maine where there was no electricity other than a generator. They had indoor plumbing and an outhouse, but you were expected to use the outhouse during daylight hours. With the inside toilet, you flushed only for #2. Showers were limited and if you took one, you had to turn the water on only while getting wet or rinsing off. It was different...but made me realize how wasteful our creature comforts can be sometimes.

This reminds me of staying with friends of my parents who had a boat - like a 40ft thing with a couple of cabins. They had a rule that you could only use 5 pieces of toilet paper at a time. It was fine... and I understand that the plumbing on ships is different.. but I did worry about what would happen if I really needed more!

Omg if I was restricted to 5 pieces of toilet paper I would have turned around and left immediately. No way that would fly in my world!

You can’t clean yourself with just a square or two? What kind of excrement do you have?

+1

I don’t understand these people who clog toilets and use a half roll to clean themselves. I don’t have huge no.2s

I do. I'm a guy, that's what I do. A "square or two" wouldn't even begin to get it done. Nor even five. Usually I have to wipe three or four times with a handful of TP before I'm clean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I once stayed at a friend's house on an island in Maine where there was no electricity other than a generator. They had indoor plumbing and an outhouse, but you were expected to use the outhouse during daylight hours. With the inside toilet, you flushed only for #2. Showers were limited and if you took one, you had to turn the water on only while getting wet or rinsing off. It was different...but made me realize how wasteful our creature comforts can be sometimes.

This reminds me of staying with friends of my parents who had a boat - like a 40ft thing with a couple of cabins. They had a rule that you could only use 5 pieces of toilet paper at a time. It was fine... and I understand that the plumbing on ships is different.. but I did worry about what would happen if I really needed more!

Omg if I was restricted to 5 pieces of toilet paper I would have turned around and left immediately. No way that would fly in my world!

You can’t clean yourself with just a square or two? What kind of excrement do you have?

+1

I don’t understand these people who clog toilets and use a half roll to clean themselves. I don’t have huge no.2s

I do. I'm a guy, that's what I do. A "square or two" wouldn't even begin to get it done. Nor even five. Usually I have to wipe three or four times with a handful of TP before I'm clean.

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