I think the calculus is very, very different for college/university. If you mean, do I think Harvard undergrad is worth paying $60k for? No, not for my kid. I might consider paying that much for a small liberal arts college, though, which I think generally provides an appreciably better undergraduate educational experience than Harvard or its ilk, or than a large public university. At the same time, I am cognizant that if my child could get into, say, Williams, he could also get a substantial merit scholarship at another, lower-ranked SLAC, and I am not anywhere near convinced that Williams provides a better education than any of the other SLACs that USNWR ranks between 20-40. So, would I pay $60k for Williams? No. Would I send my kid to a SLAC over a large public university? Yes, even if that SLAC were private. Do I think Harvard undergrad is worth it for a kid from a low-income family? Yes, I think this can make a difference for a kid from a low-income family, and of course Harvard (or Williams, for that matter, which also I believe pledges to meet 100% of need) is likely to be cheaper than public for such a kid. Do I think a grad degree from Harvard is worth paying for? If you want to be in finance or law, absolutely. |
prior poster is commenting on personal knowledge of present environment at NCS, and making fun of all the pps who say that DC private school graduates should not drop any names to provide context |
You can support it and not neccesarily enrolling your child in a public school. |
Murch has students from 40 +/- countries. This is a very international city. |
it definitely is the city, and is one kind of diversity for real economic diversity JKLM does not have it |
Generally, "off the grid" refers to moving far enough away from population centers that you need to supply your own power -- literally. In this context, as I indicated previously, I think it would mean moving to a community where there was a different attitude toward education than what I've seen in major US cities on both coasts. Is sending your high SES kid to an east of the park school in DC so s/he can avoid "duking it out" with other high SES kids from your neighborhood (in either public or private school), going "off the grid" or just playing the same game on a field where high SES provides more of a competitive advantage? I think that there are pros and cons to each option -- Wilson or Walls, other DC public schools (including charters), local private schools -- but none of these choices are off the grid. They're different niches in the same ecosystem. And these kinds of choices are HS/MS decisions for people who have chosen to live in affluent neighborhoods in DC. They don't speak to the question of what's at stake in choosing between Janney/Key/Lafayette/Murch/Mann and Sidwell or GDS for elementary school. As an aside, re pressure cookers -- ironically, the pressure cooker atmosphere to me involves the obsession with APs and acceleration that kicks in in HS here/now (sooner if you live in the burbs and your kid tests gifted). BASIS is self-consciously built on that model. Its pitch is you don't have to be smart or rich to take lots of APs (or take Algebra in 6th grade) -- you have to be disciplined and motivated and be given the resources. (And we have to be allowed to kick you out if you don't get with the program). For my kid, what was valuable about the private L/MS experience was breadth and depth and play and experimentation, which is a very different educational model. HS at the same school has been a decidedly mixed bag -- with the AP/acceleration model arguably eclipsing the other approach in the later years -- or maybe an attempt to do both in a way that's utterly unrealistic given time pressure and previously instilled standards about what it means to do something well. |
PP, sorry, so what is "at stake" then? Please help (i.e. elaborate). Thanks! |
| More/better/earlier arts, science, PE/outdoor time, foreign language. No standardized testing or grading, lots of writing, kid sets the level of challenge with small enough classes that teachers can provide real support. Continuity of "specials" teachers. More curricular freedom, which has lots of implications -- e.g. pace can change if a particular class needs more or less time on a unit, teachers are empowered and encouraged to be lifelong learners themselves, there's space for more ambitious projects. Also a fair amount of emphasis on and experiences designed to make kids comfortable presenting their ideas in public. A sense that education is about discovery and rather than transmission/reception/retention of what's already known. |
I think you can go off the grid here by being in an EOTP charter, where not everyone graduating is going to even try to go Ivy or go home. I think you can use the money for travel and camps that are about subjects that interest them (and are NOT in DC). Girls are/will be Venturers, boys we want to become Eagle scouts which will help college applications and can be done anywhere. Having other communities helps kids keep their perspective - we also have church community. CW says colleges are looking for authentic lopsided applicants, that has been my experience as an alumni interviewer, so open the world wide enough and most kids become interested/passionate about something by high school (which is different than finding a "hook" for college). We have one kid who likes computers, one set on becoming a doctor who goes to crazy camps in the summer or takes unfortunately expensive college classes, another on the way to finding a passion, and one who is still too young but seems very much of a performer. Private would be easier with that one, but we have time to figure it out - maybe Ellington? Our kids are friends with the smart kids at their school, who do not live in the same areas or come from the same backgrounds. We have tons of books in our house, try to eat dinner as a family and talk. We get magazines that follow their interests. I think you can find that kind of cohort here for your kids, maybe with us wackadoos who have decided not to go private on financial aid, and to keep our kids internally motivated for as long as we can so they can have a shot at starting to figure out what they are interested. When I have a kid in 11th grade I may be singing a different tune, but we are fairly confident that our kids will get into decent colleges from where they are, even though they and their friends will definitely be the outliers in their graduating class, and we are very confident that they are getting a broader education by living in a wider world. We did not like what we saw of the private school pressure cooker here, but could not move far because of our jobs, so we have tried to create an environment like what we had as kids. It is very hard. The computer gamer programmer has friends who have left but they still play (it helps that they are all obsessed with the same game and can play virtually with each other while skype allows them to see and talk at the same time on a server they created with my husband). There is no neighborhood where the younger kids can just wander off and come home for supper, but there are almost always kids in our house from school (the metro makes them fairly independent), and I don't really know what kind of "hanging out" they are doing but they are having fun. I think you can create an environment that fosters genuine intellectual curiosity, and if you are not at a pressure cooker your kids have more time to actively pursue interests and find a passion. Time is an issue. It is hard for us to watch even our youngest have make trade offs because of homework we think excessive. We don't remember this. Although this crazy medical kid may keep more of us here for more of the summer this time, we usually spend the summers with a few week long camps (going to Goshen matters) and wandering, and so far it has worked out. We do have one kid who puts too much pressure on himself, but at least there is genuine intellectual inquiry there in addition to an obsession with getting high grades. The kid is wired that way but he is not contagious and can laugh at himself. None of them are going to try to play 3 varsity sports and do a ton of meaningless extra curriculars and then stay up all night doing homework. We feel secure that with good grades they will get into a college where they will get a good education, and are not focusing so much on rankings or names, and we are fairly sure that they will also feel like kids "in a candy store"). I think the reading and the talking is essential, and because of computers our kids can find out more about what interests them on their own, independently. They can also virtually "hang" with their friends and do, We like their friends and none are going down a wrong road - we want them to make their own way with their friends, many of whom are now going in different directions in terms of interests, but the interests are there, and we never want our kids to feel that there is only one road... Because it is not true. We do not believe that going to Harvard is critical if you become well educated and are prepared academically so you can do well in college, although the one kid definitely wants Harvard Yale or Princeton. We hope to get most to come out of college debt free - would definitely prefer some merit scholarships to lesser universities because we did have too many kids. Have also considered separating at the critical time and paying out of state tuition senior year so UVA in state tuition is a possibility. We think we can save enough so if more than one kid wants to go to an Ivy where they cannot get merit scholarships, we would be ok. We will expect them to work over summers and such. We are fairly frugal - old cars, no I phones, no HBO, clothes etc. Easier in a school where most kids are not from wealthy families. Big fans of target, ebay auctions for computer tinkerers, high quality church sales WOTP, public libraries and pools. As "off the grid" as we can be in DC. We think Whitman and maybe even Wilson would also be pressure cookers. Definitely off the track of the original question but off the grid is hard but possible, and we think it is important. |
Bingo! We chose private over JKLM even though we have to make many sacrifices (vacations, new cars, etc.). |
good for you, but that does not give you moral superiority. |
I don't personally believe that having one kid that goes to expensive summer med school prep courses and one kid who online games with kids who moved away (presumably to better school districts) really counts towards what others might see as "off the grid". I don't buy it. You are not "off the grid". You want it both ways. Listing how you don't care about status in excruciating detail, and then bragging "the one kid wants HYP, what can I do." get over yourself PP. |
I don't think she claimed it did. I read her comment as indicating that she made the choice she did based on educational issues rather than because she has more money than brains or because she was hoping to impress people at the country club or to hang out with people who carried the right kind of handbags (which have been the sort of concerns that posters critical of private schools have attributed to parents who chose not to send their kids to their neighborhood DCPS school). |
I think it's possible to get a similar experience at some charters. I think most of the "HRCS" talked about on DCUM fit this description. I am not that familiar with JKLMs, but I think they also have some autonomy from DCPS curriculum. Yes, there is standardized testing in public schools, but not until 3rd grade. Not all schools make a big deal out of it. |
you also have to lottery into a charter and it needs to be a reasonable commute to your place of work. not possible for many. |