Size 14, pretty face, 215 pounds. Would you date me?

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Anonymous wrote:My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fat people eat an average of 6700 calories a day. Obese people obviously eat more.

LOL you are talking out your ass. I'm 30 pounds overweight and I eat about 2500 calories a day. Of course, I am a premenopausal woman of 50 so there you go - no metabolism left.

[Anonymous]

I'm really shallow so if you would put out, I would date you. Are you fit enough to do the work too?

[Anonymous]

OP, I am in my mid 20s and have yo-yoed between a high 6 and a 16. I've been shy for most of my life and finally started to come out of my shell when I was on the higher end of the spectrum. I got hit on all the time. It's corny but I think a great personality and smile does sometimes attract people more than a number below 10.

Now I am happily coupled, in much better shape now at a 12/14 that I ever was at a 6.

Do what makes you happy. Congrats on your weight loss!! Get out behind the computer and live your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.

Not true. I'm a small boned person (I wear a 5 ring) and that cuts me a break when it comes to carrying some extra lbs, but I have friends who have large bones and wide hips who are very active (run marathons even) and "eat clean" but still wear a 14. Starving yourself and excessive exercise just to drop a dress size are also poor choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.

Not true. I'm a small boned person (I wear a 5 ring) and that cuts me a break when it comes to carrying some extra lbs, but I have friends who have large bones and wide hips who are very active (run marathons even) and "eat clean" but still wear a 14. Starving yourself and excessive exercise just to drop a dress size are also poor choices.

Seriously, someone who runs marathons and maintains some sort of exercise regimen in the interim will not be a size 14 - as long as they don't eat like there is no tomorrow. I say this from experience and from knowing numerous people who run. If what you are saying is that someone ran a marathon and then relapsed in exercising little or not at all, you may be right.

Eat healthy, don't deprive yourself but don't overeat and exercise regularly and you will not only lose weight but you will feel better than you have ever done. Ever noticed that at Whole Foods, you rarely see an obese person and few are even overweight. Now everyone cannot afford to shop at Whole Foods but you can still eat healthy shopping at other places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.

Not true. I'm a small boned person (I wear a 5 ring) and that cuts me a break when it comes to carrying some extra lbs, but I have friends who have large bones and wide hips who are very active (run marathons even) and "eat clean" but still wear a 14. Starving yourself and excessive exercise just to drop a dress size are also poor choices.

Seriously, someone who runs marathons and maintains some sort of exercise regimen in the interim will not be a size 14 - as long as they don't eat like there is no tomorrow. I say this from experience and from knowing numerous people who run. If what you are saying is that someone ran a marathon and then relapsed in exercising little or not at all, you may be right.

Eat healthy, don't deprive yourself but don't overeat and exercise regularly and you will not only lose weight but you will feel better than you have ever done. Ever noticed that at Whole Foods, you rarely see an obese person and few are even overweight. Now everyone cannot afford to shop at Whole Foods but you can still eat healthy shopping at other places.

? I see SO many overweight people at whole foods

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fat people eat an average of 6700 calories a day. Obese people obviously eat more.

This is ridiculous and I'm pretty sure you made it up. I've counted calories over the years for weight loss and at 5'7 ~175 I maintained at around 1,600 net calories. When closer to 200, I'm around 2200 net calories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.

The bolded are exactly the reasons why someone should NOT lose weight. One does not need to be thin to have self-esteem. If they are socially unaccepted, it's the fault of those who aren't accepting them, not of the person who is a size 14. The fact that someone who is a size 14 could land themselves someone who thinks like you do if they lost weight is no great prize for them to work towards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.

Not true. I'm a small boned person (I wear a 5 ring) and that cuts me a break when it comes to carrying some extra lbs, but I have friends who have large bones and wide hips who are very active (run marathons even) and "eat clean" but still wear a 14. Starving yourself and excessive exercise just to drop a dress size are also poor choices.

+1 Amen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.

Not true. I'm a small boned person (I wear a 5 ring) and that cuts me a break when it comes to carrying some extra lbs, but I have friends who have large bones and wide hips who are very active (run marathons even) and "eat clean" but still wear a 14. Starving yourself and excessive exercise just to drop a dress size are also poor choices.

Seriously, someone who runs marathons and maintains some sort of exercise regimen in the interim will not be a size 14 - as long as they don't eat like there is no tomorrow. I say this from experience and from knowing numerous people who run. If what you are saying is that someone ran a marathon and then relapsed in exercising little or not at all, you may be right.

Eat healthy, don't deprive yourself but don't overeat and exercise regularly and you will not only lose weight but you will feel better than you have ever done. Ever noticed that at Whole Foods, you rarely see an obese person and few are even overweight. Now everyone cannot afford to shop at Whole Foods but you can still eat healthy shopping at other places.

Nope. They are habitual runners just women with wide enough hips to wear size 14 pants and enough sense to not starve themselves to squeeze into a 12.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.

Not true. I'm a small boned person (I wear a 5 ring) and that cuts me a break when it comes to carrying some extra lbs, but I have friends who have large bones and wide hips who are very active (run marathons even) and "eat clean" but still wear a 14. Starving yourself and excessive exercise just to drop a dress size are also poor choices.

Seriously, someone who runs marathons and maintains some sort of exercise regimen in the interim will not be a size 14 - as long as they don't eat like there is no tomorrow. I say this from experience and from knowing numerous people who run. If what you are saying is that someone ran a marathon and then relapsed in exercising little or not at all, you may be right.

Eat healthy, don't deprive yourself but don't overeat and exercise regularly and you will not only lose weight but you will feel better than you have ever done. Ever noticed that at Whole Foods, you rarely see an obese person and few are even overweight. Now everyone cannot afford to shop at Whole Foods but you can still eat healthy shopping at other places.

This made me LOL. Have you ever been to a marathon? They are some seriously HUGE people who run marathons.

And also eating at WF will not make you skinny! They still sell all kinds of crap there.

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This made me LOL. Have you ever been to a marathon? They are some seriously HUGE people who run marathons.

And also eating at WF will not make you skinny! They still sell all kinds of crap there.

Have I been to a marathon? LOL!!

I have run numerous marathons and still do even after having several children. Am a member of a runner's club and there is not a single person in the club who is overweight let alone a size 14. Sure there are those who run a marathon who are overweight because they do it as a matter of personal achievement - and all power to them for doing so.

But if you exercise regularly and eat without gorging on food, you will lose weight absent any medical issues. You can rant until kingdom come about those who are not able to lose weight because of slow metabolism, etc but that is just rationalizing. Also, you don't need to deprive yourself to keep your weight under control.

I don't count calories but estimate that I eat over 3000 calories a day because I work out. Most people who claim to eat a limited amount and yet not lose weight are way over-eating. They delude themselves that they are not eating much. Combine uncontrolled eating with a sedentary life and you will become overweight or obese.

But all of the above is neither here nor there. If you are OK with being overweight that is fine but don't delude yourself that it does not take a toll on your health, how you are perceived by others, and how it might affect your own self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

A person doesn't have to be overweight to be a size 14. But you are stuck on that idea and ignoring differences in bone structure or even how a muscular woman's rear end might be shaped. Not all runners are small-boned white women.

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