Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs.

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them).

[Anonymous]

SAHMs who claim they stay home to teach their kids, so their kids can learn from them, etc - yet they can barely put a coherent sentence together and seem to spend all their time on DCUM.

Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:13:18 is a racist. There is no explanation for her thinking that will make any sense to you, PP, so it's not worth asking.

Wrong, but insults are usually easier than critical thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

So you would pretend to be friends with an interracial couple but secretly judge them, or you wouldn't be friends with them at all, even if you actually liked one or both of them otherwise? While I don't want crosses burning on my lawn, I'm of the view that I'd rather know when people don't like my choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I typed out my list, read it, felt really lousy about myself, and deleted it.

Good for you!

[Anonymous]

-Using a surrogate so you won't get fat (see Sophia Vergara)
-Using anonymous genetic material to grow babies.
-implanting more than two embryos per cycle
-Having children over 45
-Having more than 4 children.
-Having more than 4 children on welfare.

A surrogate attorney was recently arrested for buying donor sperm, donor eggs, and using surrogates in India to grow babies for sale in the US. She told prospective parents that the original parents backed out their agreements when the surrogate was pregnant. She made money on all aspects of the deal. Something is terribly wrong in the world if this is happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

So you would pretend to be friends with an interracial couple but secretly judge them, or you wouldn't be friends with them at all, even if you actually liked one or both of them otherwise? While I don't want crosses burning on my lawn, I'm of the view that I'd rather know when people don't like my choices.

I would be friends and withhold my opinion. While I don't agree with it, I'm not seeing where it's necessary to give them my opinion on the issue. There are many choices made by my friends that I may not agree with. If it doesn't affect my life, why would I mention it and/or not be friends because of it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:-Using a surrogate so you won't get fat (see Sophia Vergara)
-Using anonymous genetic material to grow babies.
-implanting more than two embryos per cycle
-Having children over 45
-Having more than 4 children.
-Having more than 4 children on welfare.

A surrogate attorney was recently arrested for buying donor sperm, donor eggs, and using surrogates in India to grow babies for sale in the US. She told prospective parents that the original parents backed out their agreements when the surrogate was pregnant. She made money on all aspects of the deal. Something is terribly wrong in the world if this is happening.

Another reason why adoption is such a corrupt system.

[Anonymous]

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

Thanks for adding. While I still don't agree with your position, I think you have mentioned some things that are valid to think about. I suspect anyone in an interracial marriage probably does think a good bit about what identity issues might be like for their kids, ways that cultural differences might make in-law relationships more challenging, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs.

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them).

I'm a mixed/biracial women. The only "discord" was because of my mom's racist and bigoted family - which isn't actually a justified reason to be against mixed marriages. Personally, I think being mixed is the biggest blessing. You look at all the problems in the world, and most surround arbitrary identities. Being mixed, one easily understands what truly matters when it comes to humanity and their manmade divisions.

When I see mixed children, it warms my heart in a way that I can't describe. As a mixed women, I feel happy for the open and embracing people they will most likely grow up to be.

Thankfully, the racists are being thinned out. I don't see anything negative being lost by thinning out the "cultural identity" of racists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs.

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them).

Chicken and egg arguments. None of these "reasons" are endemic to biracial relationships themselves, but are brought on by the racist attitudes of people like you who refuse to accept them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs.

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them).

I'm a mixed/biracial women. The only "discord" was because of my mom's racist and bigoted family - which isn't actually a justified reason to be against mixed marriages. Personally, I think being mixed is the biggest blessing. You look at all the problems in the world, and most surround arbitrary identities. Being mixed, one easily understands what truly matters when it comes to humanity and their manmade divisions.

When I see mixed children, it warms my heart in a way that I can't describe. As a mixed women, I feel happy for the open and embracing people they will most likely grow up to be.

Thankfully, the racists are being thinned out. I don't see anything negative being lost by thinning out the "cultural identity" of racists.

I'm glad you had a positive experience. But you do realize you aren't the only biracial person in the world, right? And your comment about your Mom's racist family speaks to my point about in-law relationships.

Again, glad it worked out for you, but not really seeing how seeing mixed children warms your heart any more than seeing any child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs.

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them).

Chicken and egg arguments. None of these "reasons" are endemic to biracial relationships themselves, but are brought on by the racist attitudes of people like you who refuse to accept them.

Wrong. But like I said, if your ears are plugged and your mind isn't open you aren't going to process any of this anyway. And that's okay. Not seeing how racism has anything to do with a biracial child having a disconnect with their heritage. Perhaps you can explain?

[Anonymous]

I'm against illegal immigration and do not support amnesty for illegal immigrants regardless of their country of origin (i.e., don't care if you're from Ireland or El Salvador). Think there should be severe penalties for those who are in the country illegally and I do not think that children of illegal immigrants should be granted citizenship - too much of an incentive. I'm pro immigrant on the whole, though, just through legal means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:-Using a surrogate so you won't get fat (see Sophia Vergara)
-Using anonymous genetic material to grow babies.
-implanting more than two embryos per cycle
-Having children over 45
-Having more than 4 children.
-Having more than 4 children on welfare.

A surrogate attorney was recently arrested for buying donor sperm, donor eggs, and using surrogates in India to grow babies for sale in the US. She told prospective parents that the original parents backed out their agreements when the surrogate was pregnant. She made money on all aspects of the deal. Something is terribly wrong in the world if this is happening.

Correction, the surrogates were sent to the Ukraine. A Maryland attorney was involved. Lovely.
http://articles.latimes.com/2011/aug/13/local/la-me-baby-ring-20110814

Another reason why adoption is such a corrupt system.