Going home hungry after birthday parties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised that on DCUM folks are competing to see who can be the worst party host instead of bragging about the easy peasy foie gras and truffle bento box lady bug shaped appetizers they made.

Ha, ha. I thought the same thing. I'm so used to these threads where women talk about how hot, smart, fahsionable, foodie, well-read, well-traveled, and otherwise sophisticated and hard-working they are. Turns out, they can't throw a party worth a damn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised that on DCUM folks are competing to see who can be the worst party host instead of bragging about the easy peasy foie gras and truffle bento box lady bug shaped appetizers they made.

Ha, ha. I thought the same thing. I'm so used to these threads where women talk about how hot, smart, fahsionable, foodie, well-read, well-traveled, and otherwise sophisticated and hard-working they are. Turns out, they can't throw a party worth a damn.

I'm trying to understand why people would not serve food from the comments here but I'm still baffled. I am the one who was invited to the 12:30-2pm party. This family is clearly not suffering, they gave great 'loot bag' gifts. A little too high priced but could not serve something during 1:30 with cake. My DS ate early lunch and I had food in my purse as a snack but that's just seems so weird given this is a social event where everyone should be happy and mingling. I brought extra snacks in my purse to share with other parenst waiting with me. I kind of hosted if you think about it

In these events parents shouldn't have to worry about their kid getting hungry and having to leave early or stuff their faces with food on their way to a party where they will promptly be thrown into an activity room. I was worried that his stomach will get upset from jumping around after having just ate in the car.

I hear what others are saying that if I don't like I shouldn't go and kids aren't worried about food. You can be certain I will think twice about going to this kids party again and I cannot rely on my kids priorities to set mine. my DS relies on me to understand his needs. I would think parent of another kids throwing a all kids party would understand that adn provide nourishments if there if need be.

I practice what I preach. I provide food for kids and parents. Parent are also my guests. I consider parents my friends as well. If I don't know them well today, soon I will. Leaving them to stand there hungry just doesn't seem humanitarian or friendly or a good way to start a friendship. Food is a good lubricant to start a conversation and have everyone at ease. I love it when i receive thank you note later complementing the food and our hospitality.

[Anonymous]

PP, why are you so "baffled"?

Clearly, people don't think this is as critical an issue as you do.

So, don't go to the party. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Maybe there's a geographical background to the differences in opinion. Maybe all the "come one-come all-the more-the merrier-everyone is welcome-help yourself to a slice of pizza" hosts/hostesses are from similar areas of the country/ethnic backgrounds and the other folks are, likewise, from different parts of the country/ethnic backgrounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe there's a geographical background to the differences in opinion. Maybe all the "come one-come all-the more-the merrier-everyone is welcome-help yourself to a slice of pizza" hosts/hostesses are from similar areas of the country/ethnic backgrounds and the other folks are, likewise, from different parts of the country/ethnic backgrounds.

Maybe they are the same people who think it is ok to have a cash bar at a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Going home hungry after a birthday party? Who cares? Your kid will survive not eating for a couple of hours.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have a party without food either, but in terms of attending one, I actually have to inquire with the host anyway about what food might be there, due to a kid with severe food allergies (and usually have to bring his own food anyway). If you suspect there may not be food that could be construed as a meal, why don't you just feed your kid a heavy snack beforehand? Cheese, crackers, apples, etc.? Surely that will tide them over until after the party...

[Anonymous]

I prefer no food, just cake parties. The kids are more interested in play with each other anyway. My kid is a sloooowwww eater. If the kids can just play, then have cake and b-day kid open presents, it gets everyone out of there quicker.

[Anonymous]

Do you all serve ice cream at parties?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer no food, just cake parties. The kids are more interested in play with each other anyway. My kid is a sloooowwww eater. If the kids can just play, then have cake and b-day kid open presents, it gets everyone out of there quicker.

I actually do too. My boys NEVER eat a bday parties (except the cake!). They are too excited. Their plate always has an untouched piece of pizza, etc. I have to feed them when we get home EVEN IF FOOD IS SERVED!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I prefer no food, just cake parties. The kids are more interested in play with each other anyway. My kid is a sloooowwww eater. If the kids can just play, then have cake and b-day kid open presents, it gets everyone out of there quicker.

I actually do too. My boys NEVER eat a bday parties (except the cake!). They are too excited. Their plate always has an untouched piece of pizza, etc. I have to feed them when we get home EVEN IF FOOD IS SERVED!

Me too. My kid is way too excited and just wants to play. Every single party I've been too, when it's time to stop and go have cake the kids dont want to cause they are too busy playing. Making them stop playing twice (once for the food and once to have cake) usually causes a couple kids to meltdown. I thought I had the only kid who, no matter if food is served, wants to eat when we get home. At a party, she's too excited to eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe there's a geographical background to the differences in opinion. Maybe all the "come one-come all-the more-the merrier-everyone is welcome-help yourself to a slice of pizza" hosts/hostesses are from similar areas of the country/ethnic backgrounds and the other folks are, likewise, from different parts of the country/ethnic backgrounds.

Maybe they are the same people who think it is ok to have a cash bar at a wedding.

I was thinking the same thing! Or the ones who think it's ok not to RSVP, b/c "everybody's welcome anyway. Just pull up a chair!" Or the ones who RSVP and then not show up, b/c "who worries about little details like that ($100+ already paid for their dinner)."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe there's a geographical background to the differences in opinion. Maybe all the "come one-come all-the more-the merrier-everyone is welcome-help yourself to a slice of pizza" hosts/hostesses are from similar areas of the country/ethnic backgrounds and the other folks are, likewise, from different parts of the country/ethnic backgrounds.

Maybe they are the same people who think it is ok to have a cash bar at a wedding.

I was thinking the same thing! Or the ones who think it's ok not to RSVP, b/c "everybody's welcome anyway. Just pull up a chair!" Or the ones who RSVP and then not show up, b/c "who worries about little details like that ($100+ already paid for their dinner)."

Bad hosts and bad guests! Some people are just inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

Stop this run away thread. Maybe handful of people found this informative and will serve food, or just not go. Otherwise I think we haven't changed anyone's mind.

[Anonymous]

Our son is allergic to so many things
We plan to have a no food party at a non meal time
Perhaps these kids are sick or have allergies
Or children coming have severe allergies