Capital Cotillion for Beauvoir Son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I just got my NOMINATION for Mrs. Simpsons (you don't get invited...you get nominated, they check you out, and then decide whether you warrant an actual invitation). I don't even know the family that nominated us.

Anyway, given that my interest in Mrs. Simpsons is about as high as my interest in venereal disease, I'm thinking of sending my application back with responses they might not routinely see.

What do you suggest for "List Social Clubs"? I'm thinking of listing some bowling leagues and monster truck clubs. Or maybe some radical liberal organization.

I doubt that will phase Mrs. Simpson. She'll just write you off as a manner-less loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not spend your time and money doing a service project with your son (making sandwiches for homeless people, picking up trash along the Potomac) instead of sending him to a program that will only instill feelings of superiority?

pooop

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not spend your time and money doing a service project with your son (making sandwiches for homeless people, picking up trash along the Potomac) instead of sending him to a program that will only instill feelings of superiority?

Not the PP, but we do both - these aren't mutually exclusive activities. And I can assure you that the kids going to these things are not being instilled with feelings of superiority. Parents maybe, but the kids could care less.

And to the person wanting to be rude on the application for Mrs Simpson's, why bother? If you aren't interested in attending then don't respond. It sounds like you just need to let whichever of your friends submitted your name know that you aren't interested in attending rather than potentially embarrass them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not spend your time and money doing a service project with your son (making sandwiches for homeless people, picking up trash along the Potomac) instead of sending him to a program that will only instill feelings of superiority?

Not the PP, but we do both - these aren't mutually exclusive activities. And I can assure you that the kids going to these things are not being instilled with feelings of superiority. Parents maybe, but the kids could care less.

And to the person wanting to be rude on the application for Mrs Simpson's, why bother? If you aren't interested in attending then don't respond. It sounds like you just need to let whichever of your friends submitted your name know that you aren't interested in attending rather than potentially embarrass them.

Just decline the invite. Ignoring just doesn't work, she''ll send you a followup letter asking whether or not you received the invitation. I've received an invitation & follow-up letter for the last 3 years. Invited by various parents, hopefully, DS is blacklisted now.

[Anonymous]

Serious question. When do the nominations for Mrs. Simpson's go out?

[Anonymous]

I have no idea. Maybe throughout the year. Can someone on this thread actually defend Mrs. Simpson's? They have Capital Cotillion, which is at least inclusive (though also a throwback). What would be the point of taking it up a notch to Mrs. Simpson's? Is something better there? Or is it just more exclusive? And what does that accomplish?

[Anonymous]

I can't say anything about how inclusive Capital Cotillion is because we were invited to Mrs Simpson's and were not invited to Capital Cotillion. Maybe Capital Cotillion is inclusive as long as you attend the right school. I guess mine didn't make the cut.

[Anonymous]

No one needs to recommend you for cc. Just go to their website and sign up. Nothing sinister in my mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I just got my NOMINATION for Mrs. Simpsons (you don't get invited...you get nominated, they check you out, and then decide whether you warrant an actual invitation). I don't even know the family that nominated us.

Anyway, given that my interest in Mrs. Simpsons is about as high as my interest in venereal disease, I'm thinking of sending my application back with responses they might not routinely see.

What do you suggest for "List Social Clubs"? I'm thinking of listing some bowling leagues and monster truck clubs. Or maybe some radical liberal organization.

You crack me up! I love it- esp. the venereal disease part. Thanks for the laugh!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't even know the family that nominated us.

Now THAT is creepy. What is this thing cotillion thing, the Real Housewives of Palisades? Maybe it was a typo - like they put in O'bama instead of Obama.

[Anonymous]

What a show that would be! Lawyers, SAHMs, non-profit execs and consultants all stressing about Nantucket, their social position, party invites and private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a show that would be! Lawyers, SAHMs, non-profit execs and consultants all stressing about Nantucket, their social position, party invites and private school.

Is that the stereotype of families who live in Palisades?

[Anonymous]

Based on my experience and chats with other parents, I have come to the conclusion that Capital Cotillion is inclusive and Mrs. Simpsons is NOT. But ofcourse the invites are linked to your child being a student at a private school, but some public school children are invited. My children attended Capital Cotillion this year and it was wonderful. To those who argue that this makes the child feel superior. OK that's possible, but I'd argue that is more likely to happen where the parents ALREADY display an attitude of superiority, which the kids then get from the parent. As for us, my kids simply see it as another actitivity that we have signed them up for...I'd imagine many kids see it that way. My experience with BOTH of these cotillions goes as follows: One of my kids attends a school where Mrs. Simpsons is the cotillion for those who participate in such. My child is well liked, invited to playdates, parties, etc. with the classmates who attend Mrs. Simpsons. Unfortunately, my child did not receive an invite from Mrs. Simpsons. Again, the kids at this school get invited to Mrs. Simpsons not Capital Cotillion (mostly due to location I think). Not sure why no invite, but it didn't help when I learned that Mrs. Simpsons has had issues with being inclusive of minorities. My other child attends school where kids attend Capital Cotillion. Child received invite and Capital Cotillion was happy to extend child who attends other school (who was not invited to Mrs. Simpsons) a personal invite. Not trying to make nasty accusations, just sharing my experience...we prefer Capital Cotillion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on my experience and chats with other parents, I have come to the conclusion that Capital Cotillion is inclusive and Mrs. Simpsons is NOT. But ofcourse the invites are linked to your child being a student at a private school, but some public school children are invited. My children attended Capital Cotillion this year and it was wonderful. To those who argue that this makes the child feel superior. OK that's possible, but I'd argue that is more likely to happen where the parents ALREADY display an attitude of superiority, which the kids then get from the parent. As for us, my kids simply see it as another actitivity that we have signed them up for...I'd imagine many kids see it that way. My experience with BOTH of these cotillions goes as follows: One of my kids attends a school where Mrs. Simpsons is the cotillion for those who participate in such. My child is well liked, invited to playdates, parties, etc. with the classmates who attend Mrs. Simpsons. Unfortunately, my child did not receive an invite from Mrs. Simpsons. Again, the kids at this school get invited to Mrs. Simpsons not Capital Cotillion (mostly due to location I think). Not sure why no invite, but it didn't help when I learned that Mrs. Simpsons has had issues with being inclusive of minorities. My other child attends school where kids attend Capital Cotillion. Child received invite and Capital Cotillion was happy to extend child who attends other school (who was not invited to Mrs. Simpsons) a personal invite. Not trying to make nasty accusations, just sharing my experience...we prefer Capital Cotillion.

So, are there schools that "feed" to Capitol Cotillion and others that feed to Mrs. Simpsons?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on my experience and chats with other parents, I have come to the conclusion that Capital Cotillion is inclusive and Mrs. Simpsons is NOT. But ofcourse the invites are linked to your child being a student at a private school, but some public school children are invited. My children attended Capital Cotillion this year and it was wonderful. To those who argue that this makes the child feel superior. OK that's possible, but I'd argue that is more likely to happen where the parents ALREADY display an attitude of superiority, which the kids then get from the parent. As for us, my kids simply see it as another actitivity that we have signed them up for...I'd imagine many kids see it that way. My experience with BOTH of these cotillions goes as follows: One of my kids attends a school where Mrs. Simpsons is the cotillion for those who participate in such. My child is well liked, invited to playdates, parties, etc. with the classmates who attend Mrs. Simpsons. Unfortunately, my child did not receive an invite from Mrs. Simpsons. Again, the kids at this school get invited to Mrs. Simpsons not Capital Cotillion (mostly due to location I think). Not sure why no invite, but it didn't help when I learned that Mrs. Simpsons has had issues with being inclusive of minorities. My other child attends school where kids attend Capital Cotillion. Child received invite and Capital Cotillion was happy to extend child who attends other school (who was not invited to Mrs. Simpsons) a personal invite. Not trying to make nasty accusations, just sharing my experience...we prefer Capital Cotillion.

My AA son has received several Mrs. Simpson's invitations that I've pitched. She probably doesn't know we're Black, doubtful that the people who have recommended us would warn her.