UVA professor: get married young
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Anonymous
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This isn’t a new concept.
NPR did a segment on this a million years ago with an economist/researcher who said that the most successful couples with enduring marriages and financial stability married young and quickly had kids. Having the mom stay home to have two kids back to back until the youngest entered pre-K saved on childcare and still allowed plenty of time for her to reenter/enter the workforce and build a career. It’s backed up be tons of research and actual data…as well as commonsense. The biggest reality is two parents are better than one. Avoiding divorce should be a priority. Plus, nowadays it takes pressure off of parents as they age when their kids are fully launched. That happens sooner when you have kids younger. |
Anonymous
Define “a million years ago”…if you mean when costs for housing, childcare, etc were significantly cheaper (compared to inflation) and career progression was different…then hard to really use that study. |
Anonymous
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What I think we need is clear messaging about benefits and real mitigations for the deficits that are created for kids and difficulties for parents.
What we don't need is an enshrining of the past, penalties for divorce, or assumptions that women should enter or leave workforce at a particular point or another. |
Anonymous
citation? |
Anonymous
Achieving financial stability young is always a good plan. No surprise that people who are financially stable at 22, who then marry and have kids, remain happy and stable. What I question is the argument we’re seeing here, which is that people who are not financially stable at 22, but who instead have five or six-figure debt, no job security, and can only afford to rent in cramped quarters, can best achieve personal and financial stability by adding multiple small children to that situation. |
Anonymous
| 22 is not that young. 18-20 is young. |
Anonymous
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Waiting for the right person is paramount. If you want to have kids in marriage, even more important (especially for women.) I want to roll my eyes at this author.
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Anonymous
But is the UVA professor really arguing that everyone should skip college and marry at 18, the men entering the workforce and the women raising babies, leaving college professors with no job? Somehow I doubt it. It’s the young people who are supposed to forego income and job security, not the professors. |
Anonymous
| Just read it. He acts like everyone wants to have kids. I know plenty of people (women and men) who don't want kids. We can't put our desires, values, and "shoulds" on others. |
Anonymous
You have to qualify it by putting "that" in front of it. 22 is young |
Anonymous
Imaginationland. |
Anonymous
Even if you don't want kids, it's still financially smart to marry young. You both will save together, make joint financial decisions, and will buy homes quicker than single people. You'll support each other through grad school, job losses, etc. |
Anonymous
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That last graphic is creepy.
If you're a 15 year old childless "woman", you have an 83% chance of becoming a mother. Family Studies graphic from BYU. Mormons gonna Mormon and the right wing is down for it. And there is NO way Brad Wilcox, author of Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization published in 2024, and UVA college professor, didn't know about Charlie Kirk's platform. If he didn't, he's an exceedingly bad researcher. Which I would argue is already evidenced by the research he used in this article (sample population of largely 22-35 year olds) to support his apparent narrative of marrying under the age of 22 to right around that window. |
Anonymous
It was also found this group was less likely to divorce because of religious reasons and more likely to stay in an abusive marriage. |
Anonymous
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Sure let’s bring children into the dumbest time in history where an idiotic cult fell for a two bit con and his sycophants to ruin everything they ever worked for.
Bringing a child into this mess is child abuse period especially a girl! Sure let’s set DDs up for lifetimes of man babysitting and wiping their butts while Hawkeye wife and Repukes set law did them to have the death penalty |