What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?

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Anonymous wrote:Disney cruise
Huge freestanding tub
Pet dog

Yeah how to you clean behind those big tubs? And do you have to get into to clean it?

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Anonymous wrote:Children.

Same here.

It's always so perplexing to me when non-kid adults visit and post on any dcurbanmom forum.

Me too. What brings child-free-by-choice folks to a local message board titled "DC Urban Moms and Dads"?

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Anonymous wrote:Disney cruise
Huge freestanding tub
Pet dog

Yeah how to you clean behind those big tubs? And do you have to get into to clean it?

Let the cleaners worry about that.

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Anonymous wrote:ANY sort of conspicuous consumption. Lulu, stanley, LV, Tesla, fancy kitchens.

Teslas are actually practical.

Also odd that Lulu is on this list. I mean I guess I could do a bunch of research to find athleticwear that performs as well but costs less, but why? How much time spent to save $30?

And as for “fancy” kitchens….most people do not spend lots of money on kitchens for them to be impractical. The better appliances perform better, and yes, tend to look nicer. This is for the space that is the beating heart of my private residence that the public does not see. How is that “conspicuous consumption”?

Right, so in those categories you would fall into the "others think are desirable" part of the OP. Its literally the point of the thread.

I guess my point is that I don’t think of Teslas

or Lulus as particularly desirable or aspirational (which seems to be what people are really talking about) either. They just…are? So it’s hard for me to think of them as great examples of gross “conspicuous consumption” against which PP is railing. It doesn’t seem quite worthy of the hate.

Is the point that if *other* people seem to think of them as Name Brands à la Gucci, LV (in other words, aspirational “lifestyle” brands), then am I really being such a conspicuous consumer? I mean, they’re leggings?? I’m puzzled.

They are $120 leggings that YOU think are desirable (I certainly hope if you are paying that much!) and I actively do NOT want. Literally the words of the OP. What don't you understand? Same with Tesla - overprice junk to me. Desirable to others.

The first PP that mentioned these items called them “conspicuous consumption”, and others disagree that these are things that one buys just for the status.

I prefer the material and the only way someone can tell what brand they are is if they lift up my shirt and look for the logo at the back of my waist which fortunately never happens. I tried the Amazon knock offs and don’t like them.

I think the term “conspicuous consumption “ is way overused. Some people recognize and enjoy the design or quality difference and some don’t. It doesn’t have to be an insult. Something like a LV keychain? That’s for the label. But a designer purse? No, that’s also design, function, and style. It’s ok to appreciate good design. It doesn’t make you shallow.

No sorry. You just need to own it.

No, I don’t. I actually don’t have designer purses but I appreciate the quality and design of the good ones. So I don’t judge people who enjoy them. I carry a $60 unlabeled fabric bag but think fine leather goods are art. I don’t have to own anything. Not everyone recognizes or appreciates quality craftsmanship and materials and that’s ok.

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Anonymous wrote:Children.

Same here.

It's always so perplexing to me when non-kid adults visit and post on any dcurbanmom forum.

Me too. What brings child-free-by-choice folks to a local message board titled "DC Urban Moms and Dads"?

It's always so perplexing to me when DCUMers think you have to have kids and live in DMV to use the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:Living downtown.

Living in the suburbs in a big house with a dog.

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Anonymous wrote:Children.

Same here.

It's always so perplexing to me when non-kid adults visit and post on any dcurbanmom forum.

Me too. What brings child-free-by-choice folks to a local message board titled "DC Urban Moms and Dads"?

It's always so perplexing to me when DCUMers think you have to have kids and live in DMV to use the internet.

You’re kind of a loser if you’re “child free” posting on a parenting board, though.

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Fancy car
Big house
Lots of money
Work at a big law firm

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with many of these - kids, expensive or luxury bags/shoes/cars/etc.

I honestly don't care for luxury anything in terms of "stuff" or material things. I'd rather have a nice experience or trip.

Sorry but kids are nothing like these other items. They are actually the opposite.

Sorry but I don't think you understand the question. Kids are something many people want/desire, but are not something I desire/want any more than I desire a porche.

Kids are the ultimate experience, not a “luxury item”. Strange that the pp lumped them together.

+1. People without kids just will never get it.

-1 I have kids and disagree that they re the “ultimate experience “.

+1

I love them, but would have had a great life without them too.

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Southern climates.

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Anonymous wrote:Large houses. I truly do not understand the appeal. We are looking to move in the next few years and our budget is such that in our preferred neighborhoods, we could either buy something smaller for cash or mostly cash, or we could get a large house and pay about what we currently pay. The realtor and my mom and several friends keep telling me "just get the bigger house, you won't regret it" but I really don't want to. We have plenty of space now at less than 1500 sq ft. I don't think I want something more than 2000 sq ft. What is it for? I also don't want to furnish and design and decorate all that extra space. We only have one kid and she'll be in MS by the time we move. The idea of some 3000-4000 sq ft house sounds like way too much for a small family, much less empty nesters. I value good layout (or getting a great price and then being able to spend money to renovate it to make the absolute most of it) over extra square footage, but the market really seems geared toward the idea that larger houses are always better. They definitely seem to appreciate better.

I’m so with you! Really big houses just give me the odd feeling of a convention center. So much space, no personality. Then you have to spend a lot on utilities. We are totally content with 1500 sq ft and one kid and I could probably go even smaller.

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Anonymous wrote:Children.

Same here.

It's always so perplexing to me when non-kid adults visit and post on any dcurbanmom forum.

Me too. What brings child-free-by-choice folks to a local message board titled "DC Urban Moms and Dads"?

It's always so perplexing to me when DCUMers think you have to have kids and live in DMV to use the internet.

You’re kind of a loser if you’re “child free” posting on a parenting board, though.

No one here is winning any prizes, let’s be honest.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with many of these - kids, expensive or luxury bags/shoes/cars/etc.

I honestly don't care for luxury anything in terms of "stuff" or material things. I'd rather have a nice experience or trip.

Sorry but kids are nothing like these other items. They are actually the opposite.

Sorry but I don't think you understand the question. Kids are something many people want/desire, but are not something I desire/want any more than I desire a porche.

Kids are the ultimate experience, not a “luxury item”. Strange that the pp lumped them together.

+1. People without kids just will never get it.

-1 I have kids and disagree that they re the “ultimate experience “.

Something can be an experience - even an "ultimate experience" and also a thing that others think are desirable that you do not want. Someone else said they don't want to ski. Skiing is also an experience. Perhaps not an "ultimate experience" but an experience that no one would say doesn't belong on this list because it's a category mistake. Same with the person who doesn't want to travel.

I do not want the experience of having children, even if some other people consider it the "ultimate experience" - in fact, being able to say this is something others think are desirable, and I actively do not want it, makes it perfect for this list.

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Anonymous wrote:Big boobs.

Agree with this one.

Oh gosh same. I love my nice flat chest. Sure occasionally it'd be great to be able to fill out a v-neck. But no one is ever staring at my chest, and I can comfortably go without a bra. I'll take it.

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Anonymous wrote:Designer bags that cost 5 figures and require the buyer to jump through hoops to buy.

Haha. I love my bags but I don’t get the hype around watches.

Really? There's zero difference.

A bag holds crap. You can pay $15 for one, or $15,000. If you choose to pay $15K, you're a moron.

A watch tells time. You can pay $15 for one (or zero, and use your phone like the rest of us), or $150,000. If you choose to pay $150K, you're a moron.

No difference.

Or you could do middle of the road.

I have a $200 leather bag. I have had it for five years and it looks great. It zips at the top so no one can steal my stuff. I will keep it until it isn’t secure.

I also have an $800 Apple dive watch. It tells time…and serves as a phone when I am out and about, emergency alarm if I fall off my horse, and keeps me safe when I am 100 feet deep in the ocean. I will keep this too until it doesn’t do the desired things. Honestly, it is comparable to get the Apple Watch as to buy a decent dive computer + basic watch. And safety is worth a lot.

I didn't know that Apple watches work as dive computers! Thanks for that info!!