Why are cruises trashy?

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up similarly and with the same perception.

I think upper crust WASPs like to think of themselves as ultra-refined and more knowledgeable about most things than mostly everyone else. Whether or not this is true is another conversation. Cruises aren’t “true” travel but are packaged experiences on a sort of floating Las Vegas, which is why the WASP community might see them as gauche/crass. They kind of scream “new money.” I’m not saying this is an accurate perception, but I think this is the perception.

It’s hard for me to unlearn this. My husband, from a LMC background, loves cruises shamelessly and urges me to give them a try. I just have no interest due to my snobby upbringing!

I grew up in this type of environment. The snooty “this is how it’s done” extended to everything from insisting on SLACs, to which cocktails to drink, to which cars to drive (and not drive). And just like I have grown to be my own person with regard to many things, I have also learned that I love to cruise. I do other kinds of travel too but cruises can be a great getaway for certain places and with certain groups of people.

Yup!
My dad would have rather died than take a cruise.
He also instilled in us that you never order chicken at a restaurant.

Lo and behold, I grew up and really enjoy cruises and have ordered chicken many times in restaurants! Live and learn, I guess.

What's up with this?

I truly have no idea. I think his thought process was that chicken is boring and relatively cheap, so you should get something more "special" at a restaurant. Or something like that. He was a wonderful and loving dad, but had his quirks! (That's part of growing up, right? Figuring out which ideas your parents raised you with were right and which ones were their own peculiar quirks.)

No kidding.

I look back at some things my parents disapproved of, such as my dad's fear of tattoos and my mom's absolute insistence that not wearing pantyhose would turn a woman into a prostitute, and I just have to shake my head.

I think most families have their little judgy things, wether or not they are aware of them or admit to it. I’m like OP and have very waspy parents so I do get get where those opinions are coming from. I get that it’s judgy but even my DHs family, poor first gen immigrants, have their own specific standards for things so I don’t think judgement is specific to one group (although I know we do hear about wasps tge most on dcum for whatever reason).

In general, I think it’s good to question and challenge the opinions you grew up around. Some of them you may end up agreeing with and may suit your personal taste as an adult but there are also things you might never know you enjoy if you don’t branch out!