So. tired. of buying night Pull-ups...

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Anonymous wrote:I highly recommend this website https://www.bedwettingandaccidents.com/

Bedwetting at this age can be related to undiagnosed constipation. He recommends enemas which we didn’t do. Instead we saw a pediatric GI (specifically Dr Chao at PSV) who confirmed that DD was severely constipated (despite pooping every day and pediatrician never mentioning constipation as a concern). We did biweekly cleanouts with Miralax and exlax and put her on a daily Miralax regime for 6 months then switched to exlax for three months. She is no longer bedwetting and is constipation free.

My son poops at least twice a day, I don’t think he is constipated.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to toilet train for nighttime, did you just skip that part of the process?

This is so ignorant. Unless you have had a child in this position, you don't know it is a medical condition.

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Anonymous wrote:My 7 year old also lounges in his wet Goodnight in the morning until I tell him to change. I myself wet the bed until late elementary and my parents shamed me over it, so I have a strong reaction to making him feel bad or embarrassed over it.

We use a waterproof mattress cover, and I also put one of those memory foam toppers on top. I buy a new one every year or so, and the actual mattress has stayed clean.

This is good advice! Having an unstained mattress is huge for self esteem.

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Do we have twins?? lol I am at a loss for words as to why my son isnt bothered wearing one when out of bed wide awake in the morning....a wet one at that. I never get mad or upset with him for wetting the bed because I know he cant help it. But I do get on him about being lazy and not changing in the morning. The rule here is that he doesnt leave his room until he changes but I constantly catch him not doing that. How is he when traveling or spending the night elsewhere?

For night time, its bath, potty, snack, small drink of water, brush teeth, another potty try, diaper and in bed. I have tried waking him which I hate because he is a bear to go back to sleep. Limiting drinks. Making him try to go multiple times before bed. And I read somewhere that a teaspoon of honey has helped other kids. That didnt work either. Half the time he tells me he doesnt have to go and will actually argue with me over just trying to go! I dont post a lot here but I wish I could reach out to you by email or something so we could bounce ideas off one another. I guess I should feel a little relieved that there are others that are going through the same thing.

He actually stays dry some nights away from home. I’m guessing he doesn’t sleep as well so doesn’t get into the extremely deep sleep like at home. When we are traveling and at hotels or other family members homes I still put a diaper on him. He has a couple friends that I am close with the parents and we allow him to do sleepovers with, he wears a goodnite pull-up for those and brings his sleeping bag. The parents are aware of the issue and makes sure he puts it on before bed. If it leaks we just wash his sleeping bag when he gets home. Surprisingly those moms say he isn’t embarrassed about it at there house either and will wear the wet goodnite after getting up and she has to remind him to go change. I’m happy he is confident enough with himself to do that but also worry about teasing if his friends tell others.

We dont typically spend overnights elsewhere. Its generally for holidays and such. I have had other family members make comments to me saying that he is too old to be still wetting the bed and other things about it. I try to ignore them but its hard sometimes. Does he get himself ready for bed by himself or try to? My son isnt 7 yet (August) and I am starting to try to get him more independent. He would also sit around in a wet pull up when he wore them before. And when I say wet, I mean soaked ready to explode geeze.

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We dont typically spend overnights elsewhere. Its generally for holidays and such. I have had other family members make comments to me saying that he is too old to be still wetting the bed and other things about it. I try to ignore them but its hard sometimes. Does he get himself ready for bed by himself or try to? My son isnt 7 yet (August) and I am starting to try to get him more independent. He would also sit around in a wet pull up when he wore them before. And when I say wet, I mean soaked ready to explode geeze.

That is so sad that his own family would say such things. I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. People who’s kids didn’t have problems at night just don’t understand typically.
As for getting himself ready for bed, he brushes his teeth by himself and after someone gets his bath water ready he usually washes himself, but we always put his diaper on him before bed. And yes I do know what you mean on the soaked ready to explode diaper in the morning, Ethan’s is almost always like that in the morning.

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We dont typically spend overnights elsewhere. Its generally for holidays and such. I have had other family members make comments to me saying that he is too old to be still wetting the bed and other things about it. I try to ignore them but its hard sometimes. Does he get himself ready for bed by himself or try to? My son isnt 7 yet (August) and I am starting to try to get him more independent. He would also sit around in a wet pull up when he wore them before. And when I say wet, I mean soaked ready to explode geeze.

That is so sad that his own family would say such things. I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. People who’s kids didn’t have problems at night just don’t understand typically.
As for getting himself ready for bed, he brushes his teeth by himself and after someone gets his bath water ready he usually washes himself, but we always put his diaper on him before bed. And yes I do know what you mean on the soaked ready to explode diaper in the morning, Ethan’s is almost always like that in the morning.

Thanks, I just try to ignore it and let it go in one ear and out the other. I know it has nothing to do with laziness, he is just a deep sleeper and doesnt wake up when he has to go. I dont know if yours isnt able to for whatever reason but our son is able to put his own diaper and pj's by himself with only a little help from me if he asks.

He knows the rule about changing before he leaves his room but he always "forgets" that rule for some reason. I even tell him that it is not good for his body sitting around in a wet diaper in the morning and he has gotten rashes from it a few times but that doesnt deter him from stopping. As I mentioned before, I just dont get how that doesnt bother him.

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Thanks, I just try to ignore it and let it go in one ear and out the other. I know it has nothing to do with laziness, he is just a deep sleeper and doesnt wake up when he has to go. I dont know if yours isnt able to for whatever reason but our son is able to put his own diaper and pj's by himself with only a little help from me if he asks.

He knows the rule about changing before he leaves his room but he always "forgets" that rule for some reason. I even tell him that it is not good for his body sitting around in a wet diaper in the morning and he has gotten rashes from it a few times but that doesnt deter him from stopping. As I mentioned before, I just dont get how that doesnt bother him.

Honestly I haven’t had him try to put his on himself. We have just done it so long It’s part of our routine. Plus I know I’m putting it on correctly and tight. I am almost positive if he did it he wouldn’t get it tight and would leak. When Ethan sits around in a wet diaper he gets rashes too.

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It's genetic. My dad supposedly wet the bed until age 15. I wet the bed until about 10, my 12 year old nephew wets the bed. My 6 year old I put on the toiled around midnight and that's the only reason that one doesn't. My younger and older kids don't. Yeah but it sucks, especially for the kid. Stay postitive.

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Thanks, I just try to ignore it and let it go in one ear and out the other. I know it has nothing to do with laziness, he is just a deep sleeper and doesnt wake up when he has to go. I dont know if yours isnt able to for whatever reason but our son is able to put his own diaper and pj's by himself with only a little help from me if he asks.

He knows the rule about changing before he leaves his room but he always "forgets" that rule for some reason. I even tell him that it is not good for his body sitting around in a wet diaper in the morning and he has gotten rashes from it a few times but that doesnt deter him from stopping. As I mentioned before, I just dont get how that doesnt bother him.

Honestly I haven’t had him try to put his on himself. We have just done it so long It’s part of our routine. Plus I know I’m putting it on correctly and tight. I am almost positive if he did it he wouldn’t get it tight and would leak. When Ethan sits around in a wet diaper he gets rashes too.

My son would be embarrassed if I actually put it on him like a baby because he a big boy and independent. We try to stick to the same routine every night. He never tells me when he has a rash but when I can tell he is hurting he will admit it if I ask him.

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My son would be embarrassed if I actually put it on him like a baby because he a big boy and independent. We try to stick to the same routine every night. He never tells me when he has a rash but when I can tell he is hurting he will admit it if I ask him.

Just for the heck of it, I just yelled over to my 5 (almost 6) year old, who wears pull-ups at night still, and asked him if he'd care if we switched over to an actual diaper that DH or myself would have to put on him before bed.

He at first seemed confused, then laughed, then put down the tablet he was playing on and then said "NO." very loudly, he's now offended and angry with me. So I guess we will not be making that switch, LOL.

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Anonymous wrote: Just for the heck of it, I just yelled over to my 5 (almost 6) year old, who wears pull-ups at night still, and asked him if he'd care if we switched over to an actual diaper that DH or myself would have to put on him before bed.

He at first seemed confused, then laughed, then put down the tablet he was playing on and then said "NO." very loudly, he's now offended and angry with me. So I guess we will not be making that switch, LOL.

I'm going to try this with my 11 year old just to see what kind of reaction i get.

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Anonymous wrote:When your pediatrician, urologist, etc. eventually does become “concerned” because your child reaches some age on a chart that magically declares them “late” on night training, the steps to remedy the situation will be no different than they are now, your child will just be older, and will have peed the bed longer. He/she is not going to just magically stop one day. Most of us whose kids no longer pee the bed DID train them. It didn’t “just happen.”

Judgy mcJudgerson, you know nothing. I have 4 kids. 3 had zero issues staying dry at night with zero interventions from me by age 2.5-3. The fourth was a very deep sleeper who didn’t wake at night if he needed to pee until he was 9. We tried limiting liquids several hours before bed and waking him up to pee at midnight and he just wouldn’t wake. We tried at age 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 and finally around his 9th birthday he started waking up on his own. So yes, they do usually “magically” wake up at a certain point and become able to do this. Very few kids are graduating from high school still wetting the bed.

Without knowing what you “tried” at those ages, this doesn’t really mean anything.

I literally said what I tried - which was what others here “recommended” - as did our doctors. Limiting liquids and taking him to pee at night. He wasn’t ready PHYSIOLOGICALLY. And that was ok and considered “normal”. It’s not lazy parenting.

For how many weeks did you try this? Did you do it without diapers or pullups? Or were you just waiting for him to not pee in the pullup you put on him? You are obviously never going to agree you could have done it sooner, but you will never really know. Once I realized how long it took to train DD, I know I could have done it sooner. But when I tried the previous times, I just didn't give it long enough before quitting.

Or, much more likely, she was just finally ready for training to be effective.

I never did any training before that. I was just waiting for them to "magically wake up dry" and that never happened with any of my kids. The summer before K we just decided to go cold turkey and no looking back. I'm very glad I didn't wait until 7/8/9 or for my pediatrician to all of a sudden be "concerned."

Well, your previous post above says, "Once I realized how long it took to train DD, I know I could have done it sooner. But when I tried the previous times, I just didn't give it long enough before quitting." So it sounds like you did try some training before that.

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My son would be embarrassed if I actually put it on him like a baby because he a big boy and independent. We try to stick to the same routine every night. He never tells me when he has a rash but when I can tell he is hurting he will admit it if I ask him.

My 7 year old would be too if it hadn’t been our normal routine his entire life.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure if this was covered (did not read all the responses) but he may have a retained SPINAL GALANT reflex, which is a primative reflex that should have been integrated already. Frequent bedwetting past a certain age is one of the markers. Your regular pediatrician won't know a thing about it. Go to an experienced occupational therapist or physical therapist who is familiar with retained primative reflexes and reflex integration. There are also a ton of videos on youtube to test if the spinal galant reflex is present and specific exercises to help integrate it. Also, online course that can help you as well to tackle the neurology behind why this is happening...

Thank you. This is such good advice.

-a former bedwetter

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They are such generalists that they don’t know. I find most pediatricians to be “one size fit all”. Maybe a developmental pediatrician would be better, but unless your kids have special needs, you’re not seeing a developmental pediatrician. It’s also interesting that people just think it’s a bunch of hogwash bc they “never heard of that”. A good pediatric PT or OT will know. There is a full body of research out there. Check out : Sally Goddard Blythe and SPINAL GALANT reflex in Your search engine.

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"I was a bedwetter until I was in late elementary, but never had an accident when I slept at someone else's house or at camp or at the grandparent's - I was a heavy sleeper but only in my own bed.

Have you thought about moving around the furniture or changing the blinds/window coverings in your child's room? When my family moved to a new house, it magically stopped (and I was so happy, because I had to change the sheets and it was long before Pullups existed).

Just a thought."

Are you putting a little potty stool right next to the child's bed and leaving a night light on to make it all as easy as possible? There are some nice potties you can buy for camping that work well in a kid's room. No smell or anything and it all just flushes down with water. These are also great for older people who have trouble making it to the toilet down the hall at night.

https://www.amazon.com/Thetford-White-92860-Porta-Potti/dp/B07CHLVS16/ref=asc_df_B07CHLVS16/?tag=&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312094794632&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17013355838684883595&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9007733&hvtargid=pla-569092577226&ref=&adgrpid=60223452937&th=1