Has your first choice school changed since you started applications?

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Anonymous wrote:(And know that there is lots of research that says "white passing, mixed and racially ambiguous kids are able to easier fit in, and assimilate in White society because of their proximity to whiteness. They stand out less, are accepted more and deemed less threatening, and there is less "otherness" to them in the eyes of classmates, teachers, administration. )

This from above is disturbing. You really think people find black children at private schools threatening or “other” here in DC? Not being snarky. I find this very upsetting.

Not necessarily threatening, violently, more like having the burden of all of the negative stereotypes associated with the race, (thought of as being loud, ghetto, thuggish, promiscious etc) and generally not being given the benefit of the doubt of being honest, forthright,

1) More likely questioned/accused of plagiarizing/cheating
2) not having their version of events accepted during a dispute (see recent NJ mall incident)
3) during heaed debate, seen as aggressive and angry (ABW angry black woman trope) where another student may be deemed simple passionate, heartfelt or ardent
4) not being allowed to get into an honores class despite having gotten a great grade in a precursor class, and having to have a parent have to come in and fight to get you in the class
5) having rules strictly enforced against you while white and white passing peers be given second, third, fourth chances.

All examples you'll see in the Black at IG pages.

Quick anectdote: in grad school at a top tier DC school, I walked into a student office one weekend to work and a student had left her purse there unattended, arguably the entire day and felt secure it would be safe there. She later walked into the office while I was typing, I guess to grab something and she walked out but then came back to grab her purse. As in, she felt more comfortable leaving her purse unattended than leave it in a room with a black student. That left a sting and I still cant shake it all these years later.

White passing can escape those things bc they are less obviously black, I think.,

Interesting that you would assume that is how she felt.

Since then, it's been decades later, I routinely notice people clutching their purses at church, at airports, at sporting events, at swim meets, at kids funcitions and scampering to secure their purses and property within minutes of I and my kids and/or huband coming within inches of their space or towards their stuff. '

It's called Microagression.

Read up on it. The personal property securing thing is a very common example of it. You don't have to question my experiences. And like the PP said, I've had too many experiences like this that I no longer give people the benefit of the doubt. I admit I have a chip on my shoulder but I didn't put it there. My experiences did.,

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So you assume intent of individuals you meet based on your experience and their appearance? Hmmm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:(And know that there is lots of research that says "white passing, mixed and racially ambiguous kids are able to easier fit in, and assimilate in White society because of their proximity to whiteness. They stand out less, are accepted more and deemed less threatening, and there is less "otherness" to them in the eyes of classmates, teachers, administration. )

This from above is disturbing. You really think people find black children at private schools threatening or “other” here in DC? Not being snarky. I find this very upsetting.

Not necessarily threatening, violently, more like having the burden of all of the negative stereotypes associated with the race, (thought of as being loud, ghetto, thuggish, promiscious etc) and generally not being given the benefit of the doubt of being honest, forthright,

1) More likely questioned/accused of plagiarizing/cheating
2) not having their version of events accepted during a dispute (see recent NJ mall incident)
3) during heaed debate, seen as aggressive and angry (ABW angry black woman trope) where another student may be deemed simple passionate, heartfelt or ardent
4) not being allowed to get into an honores class despite having gotten a great grade in a precursor class, and having to have a parent have to come in and fight to get you in the class
5) having rules strictly enforced against you while white and white passing peers be given second, third, fourth chances.

All examples you'll see in the Black at IG pages.

Quick anectdote: in grad school at a top tier DC school, I walked into a student office one weekend to work and a student had left her purse there unattended, arguably the entire day and felt secure it would be safe there. She later walked into the office while I was typing, I guess to grab something and she walked out but then came back to grab her purse. As in, she felt more comfortable leaving her purse unattended than leave it in a room with a black student. That left a sting and I still cant shake it all these years later.

White passing can escape those things bc they are less obviously black, I think.,

Interesting that you would assume that is how she felt.

Since then, it's been decades later, I routinely notice people clutching their purses at church, at airports, at sporting events, at swim meets, at kids funcitions and scampering to secure their purses and property within minutes of I and my kids and/or huband coming within inches of their space or towards their stuff. '

It's called Microagression.

Read up on it. The personal property securing thing is a very common example of it. You don't have to question my experiences. And like the PP said, I've had too many experiences like this that I no longer give people the benefit of the doubt. I admit I have a chip on my shoulder but I didn't put it there. My experiences did.,

Others have experiences too that affect their behavior.