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Anonymous wrote:Not all asshole behavior is a crime.
This boyfriend sounds like a tool but come on, saying “I’ll break up with you if you don’t have sex with me” is not rape. If she had been a little older and wiser she probably would have seen this for the red flag that it is. He was selfish. He sounds like a crappy boyfriend and not a great person. That doesn’t make him a rapist though.
I hope your niece gets help and I hope she stays away from the jerk guys in the future.
saying he'll break up with her can be considered a threat
That doesn’t make it a crime if a reasonable person would not give in to the threat. Threatening to break up with her is not the same as threatening to kill or maim her. You know that, right?
This is an unfortunate situation but the girl has a role here. She ultimately agreed to have sex whether she really wanted to or not. That agreement = consent. She needs help figuring out why she kept putting herself in this situation of repeatedly going to his house for lunch when she knew what was happening and to agreeing to have sex when she really didn’t want to. Not saying the boy’s behavior is okay here either, but it’s not criminal.
It actually is criminal and she is suffering. She was 14 and below the age of legal consent in every single US state. He was 4 grades higher at school and close to legal adulthood.
He was in college? That’s 4 grades higher. It won’t be prosecuted.
It won’t be prosecuted if the family chooses not to press charges but if they do then they have a strong case.
She was below the age of consent in every single US state. He was at age of consent in most US states.
Demonstrable harm to victim since repeated rapes, and they can be legally
Treated as rapes since she was below age of consent.
It comes down to what is in the best interests of the victim. If she and her family want to fight, they have a strong case.
Spoken like someone who has never been the victim of a crime. Prosecuting attorneys never give a damn about "the best interests of the victim." Take a look at the news at the MANY crimes (of all nature) that occur and the perp is allowed to walk free.
No prosecuting attorney is going to prosecute a teenager because his ex girfriend is sad that he broke up with her. If anything, her parents might be brought up on charges of child neglect because her parents aren't helping her enough with the self harm she is inflicting.
I actually have been a victim and a victim while a minor at that. So many women have had such experiences. I am working hard to make sure my DD does not have this experience and I raised our son to respect women.
I think you are wrong in your assessment. The young man is not covered by Romeo and Juliette laws in many states.
He was close to adulthood and driving a 14 year old freshman off school campus regularly without parental knowledge or permission. He placed pressure on her to engage in sex after she repeatedly said no. He was a popular good student so she caved to his pressure.
I would seriously consider adding kidnapping to the charges. Many Authorities will take a senior driving a minor student off campus without parental knowledge or permission in order to have carnal knowledge with her seriously.
This young man represents a mundane face of evil.
Some of us heal better if we fight. Some better by quietly licking their wounds.
Right now this poor girl who was well below the legal age of conserving is self harming and abusing substances. She may find he
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