Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let's be honest, though. It's one thing to leave your spouse. And she may have had her reasons for doing so.
But, assuming what he said was true..It's a whole nother ballgame to methodically steal from your spouse, hide it, let your bills lapse, and lie to their face about it (and if I'm remembering correctly, the whole SAG dues thing cost them their insurance coverage for a short while -- so assuming she did let that lapse as well, she hurt herself, her husband, and her children by denying them health coverage, if only for a short while). And then to jovially eat pizza when your spouse is gone, and systematically go through the house removing every shred of evidence that you even had a family with this person, and steal all family photos (harddrives and she fucking took pictures out of the frames? Who the fuck does that?), his passport (wtf does she even need that for???), all of their money, all of their valuables, the children, AND the pets...That's some fucked up psychological warfare shit. She was basically saying, "Look, I have the power to ruin you and take everything..and I will." And then to not only drain all the money, but further assert her power over him by denying him the ability to let his children see THEIR SICK DYING GRANDMOTHER??
There is literally no other reason to act in that manner than to inflict as much pain and hurt on him as humanly possible by stripping all memories of their life and children, and taking everything he worked for to provide them with. That is callous, heartless motivation. That is not the actions of someone who feared for herself and her children, that is the actions of someone who was spiteful, ateful, and resentful. It is not okay, no matter what your reasons are. And then to say you took the high road? No, you stole everything and set a horrible example for your children. When they are grown and understand what you did to their father, they will resent you and hate you.
...unless she had a reason to be THAT upset and do something SO drastic, right?
We don't know what happened. Period. But rational grown ups don't behave this way, right? They both seem a bit immature and off to me.
And I wonder if this is just how they roll. Some couples fight passionately and love passionately. Maybe this is just their crazy love dance? Who knows.