Mom Cliques. I had no idea.
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Anonymous
| Did OP ever tell us if the friend she texted responded? |
Anonymous
The fact that OP was bothered by it, said it was awkward, and wound up texting one of the women about it all points to it being either an accidental or intentional exclusion by the group. A lot of posters on the thread immediately jumped to the assumption that OP didn't really know these women, imagined the awkwardness, and was mad over nothing. That says way more about those posters than it does about OP. |
Anonymous
OP being bothered by it doesn’t mean anyone did anything wrong or deliberately against her. I highly doubt these women were “Uber uncomfortable” to see her. That is OPs interpretation. She is friends with 2, and 3 are acquaintances- these weren’t 15 of her closest friends and no indication she was owed and invitation and not getting one means anything at all. |
Anonymous
No, that doesn’t follow. Have you never known someone who grossly misinterprets things? This could easily be an OP problem. |
Anonymous
It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them. |
Anonymous
But your example of a “mom clique” is a group of moms getting together. That’s not a clique. |
Anonymous
No one cares what some uptight rando thinks is a "bad look" |
Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.
Anonymous
By definition someone is going to left out of any group. I’m sure when you ge together with a couple friends there are other friends you’re not inviting. By definition you’re excluding people. Not every person on the planet or in the school or whatever can be invited. People who bemoan other people getting together certainly aren’t going to be included in the future. And your JOMO sounds like more sour grapes. You can decide you don’t to want to get together with a group of 10+ people about the salty bitter attitude. Other people do lots of stuff I’m not interested in and I think it’s great for them! No “JOMO” here. |
Anonymous
Yeah OP better have been planning to invite all those moms to her event or she is a hypocrite! |
Anonymous
| There are always going to be a times when you feel left out. You just feel it and decide to assume the best (which is usually true! It’s unlikely anyone was intentionally excluded for some malicious reason). And move on. |
Anonymous
DP-- Day drinking is strange on a weekday. |
Anonymous
| What kind of group of moms was it? Third grade moms? PTA moms? Soccer moms? If it was every mom from that particular group (like every single soccer team mom) except you then I certainly understand how you feel. If it was a hodge podge group of moms who all know each other through separate things that’s totally different. There are “mom cliques” in my kids’ school but it’s 4-6 ppl per clique and that feels much more exclusive to me than a large group that probably includes people from different groups (a couple 1st grade moms, a couple swim team moms, etc but not ALL from one group/activity) |
Anonymous
Lunch at a winery on a Friday is not strange. |
Anonymous
DP. I guarantee that if I lived in OP’s subdivision, I wouldn’t have been on that guest list, either. I’m always on the outside of these gatherings, and I’m still failing to see any reason for OP to be offended. Certainly not to the extent that she needed to text one of them and then post about it here. Just not that big of a deal. |
Anonymous
Friday is borderline. |