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Embarrassing question -- dads' replies would be most welcome!
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Anonymous
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Ok, so my husband is probably more worried about this than I am, but here I am posting.
My eight year old's penis is definitely smaller than my 3 year old's penis. Is that normal? The 3 year old is a 90th percentile, big guy, the 8 year old is very very small for his age. And maybe that just translates all the way down to penises. But when they're both taking a bath together or we're dressing them, there's no denying that apples-to-apples, the 3 year old's is a bit bigger than the 8 year olds. What's the deal? |
Anonymous
| I actually called my husband at work and read this to him and he laughed hysterically. He said that there is no coorelation between body (opr shoe) size and penis size that that some are just smaller than others and if you think your 8 yo will have penis envy (he doubts it), then you should consider bathing them apart. He also wonders why YOU are so focused the the size of your boys "bits and pieces". Is your 8 yo complaining/talking about it? |
Anonymous
| Some men are "showers" and some men are "growers" |
Anonymous
lol |
Anonymous
OP here. That's very funny. Ok, this is a silly question -- I get it. But seriously, it does it worry us (my husband especially, classic guy) that the 8 year old's penis is so tiny! I never thought it was tiny until I saw the 3 year old's. And yes, a few nights ago the 8 year old DID say, "how come [brother]'s penis is bigger than mine?" We just said, it isn't, and changed the topic. |
Anonymous
Yeah that came out as funny but when it comes down to it, it is the truth. Basically you can't tell the size of the errect penis by looking at the flaccid one. |
Anonymous
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holy moly, it's not like you can do anything about it so don't worry about it. I mean what... what if 8yo has a super small penis? What if 3yo has a super large penis? What if it's a shower/grower thing? And..... now that you have this information what? I mean really! What?? You feel better about it?? Let them worry about it with the ladies (or gentlemen) when they get older. On their own. In private. If, as men or teens, they approach you on their penis size, you answer the way you would if you only had one son and no comparison. If your son asks, say everyone is different. Like how DC1 has brown hair and DC2 has blonde (or whatever). And move on.
This is an odd topic. I guess I don't really see why it matters. |
Anonymous
| I know this is a radical idea, but why not just wait until the kids' next checkups with the pediatrician and mention this to them. The ped. should know if there is a problem and will tell you if there is anything that needs to be done or if everything is normal and healthy. |
Anonymous
| It may be kind of a "silly" topic, but I get it OP, and I have two girls. You may not care how your boys' bodies develop, but it's certainly easier on them if they end up average or more. I know nothing about how penises grow and when size can be determined, but I think it's a good question for your pediatrician. Not that there is anything you can do about it, but just to put your mind at ease. Regardless, I think if it were well below average, you would have noticed that by now. |
Anonymous
| OP, if you had two teenage girls, and one girl had small breasts, and the other medium or large -- and the first was older -- would you worry? Or would you just say that's how they ended up? Because genetics is genetics. |
Anonymous
Um, yes, if I had a 12 year old whose breasts were bigger than her 17 year old sister's, I would worry. |
Anonymous
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Is it possible when your 3 year old is 8 he proportionally will be about the same size?
I don't think you should have brushed off your 8 year old's concern and question. He's going to feel confused by that. Instead, just explain that everybody's body is different. |
Anonymous
Not the pp - but wouldn't have to be a 12 year old (although some girls do go through puberty that young). But say a 14 year old and a 17 year old. There's different boob sizes (hence, the different cup sizes), everybody's body is different. Why worry? |
Anonymous
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OP - I agree with the PPs who recommended speaking to your pediatrician. But I would also say be careful not to project your/your husband's own issues or anxieties on your 8 year old. I don't have boys, but have heard a couple of friends with boys (each younger than 5) talk - well brag, actually - about the size of thier kids' genitals ... It's like they're ego is pinned to whether their little boy has a big d**k (!). That's definitely not healthy, but neither is the opposite preoccupation of whether the kid's penis is too small. Kids do pick up on this stuff - you don't have to state it explicitly - and that can be really harmful in the long run.
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Anonymous
| Actually, I would definitely go to a doctor or specialist. I have a friend who told me that her friend's son had a small penis and it turned out to be a growth problem. He had to have some treatment to fix it for many years. I think he turned out okay but they caught it when he was also about about 8 years old. I would definitely talk to a doctor. |