Why don't women get along with each other?

[Anonymous]

Of course this is a generalization because there are a few exceptions, but generally it seems to be a problem that takes root very early on as children (queen bees, clicks) and plays out into adult life in various forms (i.e. read a few pages of this DCUM thread --http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/170453.page). I can't count the number of times I have heard a female say, "I get along with men better.", or "I don't have a lot of female friends.", or "I'd much prefer to have a male boss.", or "Women are too catty."... Has this been your experience? Why do you think this is the case?

[Anonymous]

I see this all the time at work. I think it's because women can be extremely intuitive. They see, hear, process information differently than men (again a big generalization, I know). It's almost as if sometimes you "see" too much and start internalizing stuff. Whereas a man would just shrug it off and say the heck with it.

Women notice the details of life more, and it can backfire.

[Anonymous]

because it benefits the patriarchy.

[Anonymous]

I found that whole thread to be so offputting. Yeah, so you don't like someone's blog - but the way that in 7 pages it went from "what blogs do you find interesting" to "this person is fat, boring, a bitch, flighty, etc" was so cold and harsh. I can't even imagine what types of people they must be in real life.

When I read someone's blog - if I don't like what they are saying, for whatever reason, I move on. I may not agree with them (religion, personality) but I don't say "OH! FATTY" and I would never go to their page and post something horrible on it (which some of these people from DCUM did). It's amazing how awful people can be.

Maybe it's insecurity? I know when I read the http://bedtimemonsters.blogspot.com/ or http://www.wiredmomma.com/ the two that I read, I jealous of the crafts the do, or the writing talent they have. But I use that to do more things with my kids. I make a positive outlet, or try too.

[Anonymous]

I work in a male dominated field and in grad school I was usually the only woman in class. I spent many years hanging out with guys because there were no women. Here are my over generalized thoughts on women: there seems to always be an underlying competition on everythiing, women tend to overthink what others say, and women typically can't let even the smallest slight go unaddressed. With this said, men are typically a$$holes to one another.

[Anonymous]

Men let things go...women do not and keep arguing until they are "right."

I am a women FWIW.

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman that gets along much better with men. A big part of that is that I went to an all girls high school. My "friends" made fun of me, talked behind my back, etc.
That was the biggest reason why I wanted nothing to do with sororities in college. Had zero desire to be back in clique mode.
One girl in high school went out of her way to befriend me (invited me over to hang out, let me borrow her clothes, etc) only because she liked the same guy as me. I had no idea that she liked him (he wasn't interested in either of us as anything more than friends). When I took him to a Sadie Hawkins dance, she spread a horrible rumor about me to his family.

[Anonymous]

Maybe because we hold women to a higher standard than men, and when they fail to live up, we're more disappointed.

[Anonymous]

You hang out with the wrong women. Or high schoolers. Almost all of the women I know get along or are indifferent to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You hang out with the wrong women. Or high schoolers. Almost all of the women I know get along or are indifferent to each other.

And here we have our first display of why arguments occur between women. This is just a rude statement to make. Really...we are hanging out with high schoolers?

And there you have it proof of why women cannot get along with each other.

[Anonymous]

Because most women are just horrible people in general. Manipulative, fake, overly-competitive, dishonest, vindictive, ridiculously emotional, jealous, prone to irrational thoughts and actions.

Ask any attorney who works in family law. 99% of the time, the women causes the drama. I worked in a small general practice law firm on cases ranging from capital murder to family law. I would rather deal with a person accused of murder than an angry ex-wife any day. The only time I ever worried about my safety was in a family law case with a jealous, vindictive ex-wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You hang out with the wrong women. Or high schoolers. Almost all of the women I know get along or are indifferent to each other.

And here we have our first display of why arguments occur between women. This is just a rude statement to make. Really...we are hanging out with high schoolers?

And there you have it proof of why women cannot get along with each other.

Well, I took the OP to be a man, in my defense!

And in person I am not rude to people. This is a chatboard; the rules are different.

My main point is a serious one. The women I know do treat each other well and respectfully. They really do. Are you in a certain field where this is not the case?

[Anonymous]

It's the way most girls are socialized in this culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because most women are just horrible people in general. Manipulative, fake, overly-competitive, dishonest, vindictive, ridiculously emotional, jealous, prone to irrational thoughts and actions.

Ask any attorney who works in family law. 99% of the time, the women causes the drama. I worked in a small general practice law firm on cases ranging from capital murder to family law. I would rather deal with a person accused of murder than an angry ex-wife any day. The only time I ever worried about my safety was in a family law case with a jealous, vindictive ex-wife.

Wow are you a man or a very scorned woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course this is a generalization because there are a few exceptions, but generally it seems to be a problem that takes root very early on as children (queen bees, clicks) and plays out into adult life in various forms (i.e. read a few pages of this DCUM thread --http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/170453.page). I can't count the number of times I have heard a female say, "I get along with men better.", or "I don't have a lot of female friends.", or "I'd much prefer to have a male boss.", or "Women are too catty."... Has this been your experience? Why do you think this is the case?

WTF are clicks?