Are you still close with your childhood friends?

[Anonymous]

I've been pretty bummed lately... A lot of my childhood friendships have been declining for a while now. Thankfully, I am still close with my college friends. What about you guys?

[Anonymous]

Nope. The last of my childhood friends (BFF from high school) and I went our separate ways in our 20s, when I pursued career and she pursued motherhood. Now we are in our 40s and we are distant FB friends, that's all. It was pretty hard to lose the friendship at the time, but my life has been so full and so happy in lots of other ways that I don't regret it. My current BFF says friends come for "a reason, a season, or a lifetime." Now I simply appreciate HS BFF for the time we shared, and leave it at that.

And, FWIW, my college friends and friends from my career are all still around though and we still hang out all the time. Those are lifetime relationships.

[Anonymous]

I am still good friends with ONE girl from high school. We talk at least once a week, and make it a point to get together at least once or twice a month.

From college? All of my friends went separate ways. I still try to call/text regularly with a few of them, but it sometimes feels very one-sided.

Before high school I changed schools a lot, so beyond facebook I rarely talk to any of them.

[Anonymous]

I am still very close to my friend that I grew up with. She was the first child I met when I moved in the nighborhood at 6 years old. We weren't very close in high school but became close in our senior year of college. Our lives have synched pretty closely...grad school, divorce, remarried, kids. She lives in England now. I miss her a lot. I am very lucky. Good friends are hard to come by!

[Anonymous]

Yes. Best childhood friend and I since 5 yrs old are still close. I know this is rare and I am lucky to have a friend that has known me and my family for 35 yrs now.

[Anonymous]

Only 1. My best friend from middle school is still my best friend 20 years later. The rest of my childhood friends are people I say hi to occasionally on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Facebook friends only. One friend from college is DS' godmother.

[Anonymous]

Yes...esp. my middle school ones (2), my high school one, and my college one....different towns, even states, but brunches, emails, fb, phone calls etc. make my BFFs lifetime ones I hope....the con owever is, I am not so good ag making new local pals...they cant compare to shared pasts....

[Anonymous]

Very lucky to have a group of 6 from HS that are still very close. Not really any from college, but lots from my early 20s when I first moved to Washington. We have watched each other get married, have kids, not get married, get divorced, etc, and I am so grateful for all of these relationships...

[Anonymous]

My best friend is from 5th grade, but I am not in touch with any HS friends (other than FB) and only one college friend. I am great friends with 2 grad school friends though.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I'm in occasional touch with some of them and have lost touch all together with others. DH is still super close to the friends he's had since Kindergarten. They grew up in a small town, all went to the same school, college, etc., so I think that has something to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Online friends, although we will gladly host each other at our homes when visiting the cities where we live. So, I still feel emotionally close to them (and vice versa I think) but we don't talk on the phone. My grad school friends I am also close to, but I am not the best at phone calls, so again we mostly email and see each other on visits to the same geographic region. I am one of those people for whom Facebook has been a complete boon: I have fallen back into very comfortable patterns with my old friends by deconstructing the morning news with grad school friends, talking about old punk music stuff with high school friends, and just generally chatting and being happy about all the new babies and accomplishments with my college friends. After years of moving many times and struggling to keep in touch with everyone, it's really nice.

[Anonymous]

No, not really. I didn't even go to HS with the same people from ES. I didn't grow up with the same kids for years and years like some did, and I didn't ever plan to stay near my childhood hometown. I would say I am closest to people I met in my college years. However, I am still in touch with my childhood best friend. I still feel like we're sisters, just sisters who don't see much of each other. We saw her family just 2 weeks ago and it is always a trip down memory lane with her.

Facebook has been great for me, because there are many people I have met over the years that I have been able to touch base with again. Are we close? No, but it has offered a chance for reconnecting a little, catching up.

No, I'm not close to childhood friends like we go out ona regular basis or talk every day close. But I am still connected to a few.

[Anonymous]

My bf and I met in tennis camp at our CC at age 8 and have been great friends ever since. We talk a few times a day sometimes for hrs on gchat. She jokes that I know more about her fertility struggles than her husband. I feel very fortunate to still have her in my life. We live in different states but when we see each other nothing has changed.

[Anonymous]

I've known my best friend since we were about 4 or so, since my mom married my step dad. She's his great niece. Another good friend has been around since 7th grade. Both named daughters after me, on used my first name as a middle and the other used my middle as the first (both are reasonably common names.) I have several other friends from grade/high school on facebook but not super close otherwise. Some exchange Xmas cards, some don't. I've lost contact w/ most of my college friends. I don't have a wide circle of close friends but the ones I have are great...real friends.