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Anonymous
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I have the nicest friend... funny, pretty, bright, professionally successful. She does lots of activities and takes interesting (solo) vacations, so she's not wallowing in self-pity waiting for some man to sweep her off her feet and fix her life. But as a good friend, I know that she very much wants to get married and have a family, sooner rather than later. She's tried online dating, without success (so far). She hasn't even had a date in two years, not for lack of "putting herself out there" (in a classy, grown-up sort of way).
What suggestions can I make, what activities can I plan, that will help her meet nice men? I don't have any single straight male friends, or I would set it up in a heartbeat. I honestly think any man would be lucky to have her. Let's take the MYOB as read, and focus on some concrete strategies to find smart, adventuresome men in DC who aren't dogs or pathological workaholics. |
Anonymous
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If she hasn't had a date in 2 years, she isn't putting herself out there.
Particularly in the online dating world, sometimes you need to just say "you know, I'm not really into this guy, but I'm going to give him a chance." Does she have a dog (or do you?) I hear the dog park is a great place to meet guys. Does she volunteer? She could check out single volunteers of DC http://www.svdc.org/index.php |
Anonymous
| If I was single I always thought it would be fun to do the Its Just Lunch thing -- it sounds like its basically a matchmaking service. Maybe something more personalized like that would help her weed out weirdos? |
Anonymous
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I TOTALLY agree on the dog park thing! What about joining a cycling group? Does she bike? A LOT of hot and fit cyclers out there.
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Anonymous
I met my husband through It's Just Lunch - I'd suggest that and the dog park 
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Anonymous
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I think it is (almost) impossible- take it from someone who knows- but good luck- Hope she has better luck than me- As I always say "The best ones go last! =)" By the way, you are a very good friend.
I had a terrible experience with Just Lunch... |
Anonymous
| Funny, but I have a single male colleague who is smart, funny, handsome and a thoroughly decent guy -- and while he's dated and been in relationships, he hasn't made it across the finish line yet. |
Anonymous
| I have several friends who fit this description, and it surprises me to no end that they have such problems meeting men. Of course, I also know some of them are unwilling to do the online dating thing, which I think unfortunately rules out a strong avenue for meeting people (even if you have to meet a lot of the wrong people first). |
Anonymous
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No date in 2 YEARS? Eevn with online dating? Then yeah she is not putting herself out there and needs to expand her circle/activities. What about the singles volunteer org, singlevolunteers.org
Is she going after the wrong men for her? |
Anonymous
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OP,
Same reaction: No date in two years in this day and age is someone who's not trying! Match.com and It's Just Lunch (which is not inexpensive!) can be great. I know several women who married men they met on Match. Tell her to go for it! |
Anonymous
I too had a bad experience with It's Just Lunch. Gives me the creeps just thinking about it. |
Anonymous
Really, the creeps? Do you mind sharing? |
Anonymous
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What about Single Volunteers? http://www.svdc.org/
She may have to be a 'team leader' to get to an event as a female, but those who go are looking to find a boyfriend/girlfriend. |
Anonymous
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I would love details on the bad experiences with It's Just Lunch, I'm currently trying to convince my brother to look into it!
I had a friend here who had HORRIBLE luck with match.com. The last TWO guys she dated ended up being married. Horrible horrible time for her. |
Anonymous
| Im 27/F on Match AND Eharmony and both have lead me to nice guys but no one spectacular. I go on a TON of first and second even 3rd dates. A few guys even last a few months but no one long term. It's exhausting. |