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Anonymous
| We just told my in laws about our pregnancy at 8 weeks. I have not told work yet and didn't plan to until I had to when I started to show. However, my SIL has taken it upon herself to spread our good news to the entire extended family. Some of which don't know it is still a secret (or supposed to be) and I woke up today with messages on my facebook wall regarding the pregnancy. We hadn't announced it on facebook and literally wanted to keep it to both sides immediate family members. I'm so mad. I have coworkers on facebook and my bosses as well. As soon as I saw them I removed them but they were up for a while and I'm sure some big mouths at work saw this. Now I feel obligated to tell everyone and make an annoucement on facebook. I feel like 8 weeks is way too early to do this. So mad I'm shaking. |
Anonymous
| One message even said "now you can stay home!" which is the last thing I need my coworkers seeing or spreading gossip about me quitting my job. |
Anonymous
| Ugh. Reason no. 239 why I'm never joining facebook. Anyway, I would consider pretending it never happened. |
Anonymous
| yeah, one of our family members did this to us on facebook. we just acted like nothing happened and made our announcement on our own time. |
Anonymous
| I agree - just deny it. Also, disable your FB wall, so people can't post messages there. That's what I did as soon as I found out I was PG in case some of my FB friends who new about the pregnancy wanted to say something there and inadvertently announce the news. Sorry, I know how it feels! |
Anonymous
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Who comments on facebook before you make the first comment on facebook....people like that are weird to me and have no tact. 8 weeks is really early to tell people but see if anyone at work comments on it or if you hear the rumor mill going and if you do then you might want to say something to just your boss but really, you don't have to say anything.
I guess it's a lesson learned that you can't tell anyone until you are ready for the whole world to know as it appears some of your family members have some flappy jaws. I would just take this as a lesson learned. Congrats by the way!!! 
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Anonymous
| Just say a friend misunderstood you when you said you were so full after dinner, you felt like you were pregnant. |
Anonymous
that seems like a bad idea, since she'll obviously be pregnant soon enough (plus who says that?) |
Anonymous
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You didn't make it clear that it was a secret? Not that people shouldn't have known that, but you can't assume anything. I am very particular about that. I don't really tell people about my pregnancies but the few people I do tell know that it is not public information.
And I hate FB flaps. People always want to be the first to say something. |
Anonymous
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Now you know not to share anything with SIL ever again.
I would be furious too, and I hope your husband sits her down and explains just exactly how inappropriate her actions were--while you in the mean time make some readjustments to your Facebook settings! Congratulations on your pregnancy, and sympathies for your inappropriate SIL! |
Anonymous
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Take the posts down immediatlely - even if it means taking down your wall for a while. You can delete any post on your wall.
Then email your family and tell them it's very early and you aren't sharing the news with anyone else. This is obnoxious - even if you WERE telling people, it's your news to tell. |
Anonymous
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Thanks guys. I don't know why I flipped out so bad. I just don't understand how she thinks this is her secret to share! I made it clear on Saturday that it was a secret when I saw her texting and I knew that is what she was doing. UGh....I told DH that she will be the last to know anything in the future and he thinks I'm overreacting.
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Anonymous
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I know I would be pissed as well. Just remember there are some out there that when they announce they are pregnant to their in-laws they are met with harsh words. This will be our second, I didn't even want to tell them until they figured it out on their own but out of respect for my husband, I agreed to tell them. Telling them about #1 was horrible so I figured how could it be worse, it somehow was. We have been married for several years, are financially stable so why they are so weird is beyond me. While I know your SIL was just being stupid, it doesn't seem like she was doing it to be mean or hateful, rather so excited to be an aunt.
Good luck, I would pretend like it didn't happen. While at 8 weeks with a heartbeat you have a great chance of a full term, healthy pregnancy it's still really early to tell the world. |
Anonymous
| turn your wall OFF until you are further along. |
Anonymous
| I would be livid. Have you told SIL how you feel? She needs to know. |