My ex husband is INFURIATING

[Anonymous]

The answer is NO. I am not driving forty minutes to the BBQ with our two children. The BBQ where you will be volunteering, drinking and hanging around with your buddies in the pit, while I chase our children around in a public park. Just like every event when we were married.

NO I am not going to take our three year old so that she misses her nap. Because the consequences of her missing her nap will suck for her, and me, and her sister. But not for you since YOU DON'T ACTUALLY KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN.

And yes I am sure it WOULD be nice for your new girl friend and her kids to be able to play with our kids at this event. You know what? I don't give a shit! I am not going to spend the day hanging around with your girlfriend and her kids at the park. I'm sure she's a lovely woman but I'd rather spend the day getting my teeth pulled, thank you.

And the answer was no the first time you asked, and the second time, and the third. Repeatedly subjecting someone to unwanted pressure and intimidation because you want them to do something is called HARASSMENT. I hung up on you tonight. I will do it EVERY time you pull this crap.

Having me take care of the kids while you have fun is not actually "visitation". When you have visitation with your kids YOU are supposed to spend time with them and take care of them.

Vent over.

[Anonymous]

Wow--thank God you are no longer married to him! You deserve to vent. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

I hear you. Good vent. and Good riddance.

I would tell him you need him to drive to see the kids, that you cannot be their ferry.

[Anonymous]

go sistah!
Now go get yourself a REAL man!!

[Anonymous]

I don't know why he is infuriating, you sound like such a peach!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why he is infuriating, you sound like such a peach!

Please. I hope you are joking.

OP- he's an ass. You must be so glad not to be married to him anymore. No freaking way would I go to that picnic, either. It sounds to me like he wants you to be the "nanny." He needs to get a life.

[Anonymous]

you sound like a nightmare. that poor man, at least he is rid of you.

[Anonymous]

What about going for 45 minutes? Compromise?

[Anonymous]

good job OP. set boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Why should she compromise in this situation? If the facts she has laid out are true, it sounds to me like the dad needs to come pick up his kids if he wants them at that BBQ. Why should she compromise and supervise HIS visitation so that he gets to have fun and not really parent?

[Anonymous]

More reasons for me to be glad I am a widow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should she compromise in this situation? If the facts she has laid out are true, it sounds to me like the dad needs to come pick up his kids if he wants them at that BBQ. Why should she compromise and supervise HIS visitation so that he gets to have fun and not really parent?

Maybe because for the next decade she will have to have this person in her life, and perhaps because she wants him to compromise for her.

[Anonymous]

She picked him to have kids with. Now she has to deal with the ramifications of picking an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you sound like a nightmare. that poor man, at least he is rid of you.

How on earth is it OP that is the problem in this equation?

[Anonymous]

OP, why do you have to attend the BBQ? Couldn't you drop your kids off and then have a "me" day? Get your hair and nails done, go see a movie, shop etc. While your ex does sound like an ass, I feel kind of bad for your kids that you won't let them see their father when there seems to be a way you could just drop them off and do something for yourself.