Where to find a no-strings attached affair partner

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Before I go insane from lack of sex.

Late 40s female, sexless marriage for the last 7 years, no plans to divorce.

But I need someone to have sex with.

I do need to be discreet -- I have a hall pass as long as I don't flaunt what I'm doing.

Surely there must be an option to find someone in their 40s looking for something similar.

OP, any updates?

I’ve met a few people but no chemistry. mostly men seem to like to sext without any actual human contact.

Nevertheless I will persist.

That is odd. Are you fat?

No. The lack of chemistry has been mutual so far.

[Anonymous]

Wait a sec OP; are you the out of town person in the other thread?
If not, questions: do you prefer MD, DC or Va?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you put the effort into your marriage and try to get the spark back? No plans to divorce must mean its worth fighting for?

No. It just means we are financially tied together in ways too difficult to untangle without damaging our kids.

I’ve been to therapy. I’ve tried getting his attention. I’ve tried pretty much everything. I haven’t had sex in 7 years. And I don’t remember the last time I had good sex.

in all honestly, and no insult intended, are you attractive/fit? besides a general statement of looking for [basically] a 40-something FWB, what type of guy do you want?

Still attractive. Still fit. Breasts are bigger after kids but that’s the only change.

I really just want someone to have sex with who isn’t an ax murderer.

Troll alert!

Not the DP but why must this be a troll?

Bc most women who have hadn’t kids don’t have bigger boobs than pre-kids. They’re typically much smaller. Unless OP had a boob job.

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NP. My boobs are bigger after kids. 34c to 34f. I am thin otherwise. They are not saggy. It can happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Im like OP and feel like a dog in heat. Do men feel like this all the time? I feel sorry for them. The feeling of just needing a good lay wont dissipate and I'm worried about lowering my standards. But I have a one track mind. Self pleasure doesnt help for long.

Wow, where are you women?

Everywhere. At work, the store, drop off st school.

+1 exactly. We are everywhere. I am one of them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Before I go insane from lack of sex.

Late 40s female, sexless marriage for the last 7 years, no plans to divorce.

But I need someone to have sex with.

I do need to be discreet -- I have a hall pass as long as I don't flaunt what I'm doing.

Surely there must be an option to find someone in their 40s looking for something similar.

OP, any updates?

I’ve met a few people but no chemistry. mostly men seem to like to sext without any actual human contact.

Nevertheless I will persist.

That is odd. Are you fat?

No. The lack of chemistry has been mutual so far.

Use Ashley Madison but I suggest you consider older married guys who are in good shape. They are on there because they are still feeling young but their wives have lost interest. They can still be attractive and give you what you need, but are less likely to be playing half the field at the same time.

[Reddogs423]

I’m in the same boat as a married man and I can tell you, you have it easier than a guy to find a FWB. Men will flock to find a married woman.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's hard to believe you are really having a hard time if you have put yourself out there. But in case you are really having trouble finding someone, the best two options are business travel hotels for a ONS. Or go to the places where men hang out in packs. Sports bars for sure, but also the trendy steak houses (Capital Grille, Ocean Prime, etc). Just sit at the bar and they will come to you. If you aren't getting hit on in those places, you are giving off a very closed vibe. Men are not scared off by the ring, and for married men looking to stray, which is many/most married men, it's an asset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's hard to believe you are really having a hard time if you have put yourself out there. But in case you are really having trouble finding someone, the best two options are business travel hotels for a ONS. Or go to the places where men hang out in packs. Sports bars for sure, but also the trendy steak houses (Capital Grille, Ocean Prime, etc). Just sit at the bar and they will come to you. If you aren't getting hit on in those places, you are giving off a very closed vibe. Men are not scared off by the ring, and for married men looking to stray, which is many/most married men, it's an asset.

Man here. The fancy hotel/trendy steak house bar advice is good, but not the ring part. Take it off.

Only a slime ball will hit on a woman wearing a wedding band. You can ease a decent guy into it, but he's not going to move on you if he knows by glancing at you.

[Anonymous]

If you’re a woman, try Ashley Madison. You’ll be bombarded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before I go insane from lack of sex.

Late 40s female, sexless marriage for the last 7 years, no plans to divorce.

But I need someone to have sex with.

I do need to be discreet -- I have a hall pass as long as I don't flaunt what I'm doing.

Surely there must be an option to find someone in their 40s looking for something similar.

OP, any updates?

I’ve met a few people but no chemistry. mostly men seem to like to sext without any actual human contact.

Nevertheless I will persist.

That is odd. Are you fat?

No. The lack of chemistry has been mutual so far.

OP, this month is gonna be your lucky month.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it's hard to believe you are really having a hard time if you have put yourself out there. But in case you are really having trouble finding someone, the best two options are business travel hotels for a ONS. Or go to the places where men hang out in packs. Sports bars for sure, but also the trendy steak houses (Capital Grille, Ocean Prime, etc). Just sit at the bar and they will come to you. If you aren't getting hit on in those places, you are giving off a very closed vibe. Men are not scared off by the ring, and for married men looking to stray, which is many/most married men, it's an asset.

Man here. The fancy hotel/trendy steak house bar advice is good, but not the ring part. Take it off.

Only a slime ball will hit on a woman wearing a wedding band. You can ease a decent guy into it, but he's not going to move on you if he knows by glancing at you.

Yes but as soon as he finds out she a married woman trolling he'll know she's the slime ball.

Honestly OP I would talk to your husband. Get a separation, but agree to live under the same roof so you guys can parent the kids. You have a better chance of meeting someone if you are at least separated. It would be a first step in anticipation of the divorce.

If either of you end up finding someone you both could agree to live near each other. That way it won't impact your kids that much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's hard to believe you are really having a hard time if you have put yourself out there. But in case you are really having trouble finding someone, the best two options are business travel hotels for a ONS. Or go to the places where men hang out in packs. Sports bars for sure, but also the trendy steak houses (Capital Grille, Ocean Prime, etc). Just sit at the bar and they will come to you. If you aren't getting hit on in those places, you are giving off a very closed vibe. Men are not scared off by the ring, and for married men looking to stray, which is many/most married men, it's an asset.

The problem with the bar scene is that it can easily be a ONS. If you work in a big company you can always nurture a business relationship into a personal one which can lead to a NSA relationship once you agree on the ground rules.

[Anonymous]

I disagree - work is the last place where you need to tangle up your sex life with your career. Way too many risks. You may end up w/o NSA, but, instead need to find a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree - work is the last place where you need to tangle up your sex life with your career. Way too many risks. You may end up w/o NSA, but, instead need to find a new job.

I had a six year relationship with a guy I met through work but we didn't work for the same company. We lived in different cities so we would only meet up a few times a year and it was definitely a fun NSA relationship with little to no contact in between the meet ups. It ended when my husband and I resolved a bunch of differences and we resumed our sex life. I do really miss the guy given how good the sex was but I really have no need to resume a relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it's hard to believe you are really having a hard time if you have put yourself out there. But in case you are really having trouble finding someone, the best two options are business travel hotels for a ONS. Or go to the places where men hang out in packs. Sports bars for sure, but also the trendy steak houses (Capital Grille, Ocean Prime, etc). Just sit at the bar and they will come to you. If you aren't getting hit on in those places, you are giving off a very closed vibe. Men are not scared off by the ring, and for married men looking to stray, which is many/most married men, it's an asset.

Man here. The fancy hotel/trendy steak house bar advice is good, but not the ring part. Take it off.

Only a slime ball will hit on a woman wearing a wedding band. You can ease a decent guy into it, but he's not going to move on you if he knows by glancing at you.

Maybe take it off if you want to hook a guy by appearing single and available. But then you have to come clean and he may run. Best he knows upfront and you attract the type who knows what he is getting onto to.

Otherwise, I always told my APs to leave the rings on. Something about it turned me on. Especially to look down and see her hand wrapped around my D with her wedding ring and/or engagement ring on.