Maybe I'm in the minority here, but most people in my social circle drink water. Nobody is drinking sugary drinks with their males anymore. Was just at a really classy Easter dinner and the drinks were alcohol and water. You did have to get your own water though. I did not occur to me that the host had to get my water for me. |
I'm shocked at this thread...moreso because you guys say that soda and lemonade are for commoners in trailer parks.
LOL. Good grief some of ya'll need to lighten up. Having a couple of other drinks besides your Perrier and wine is not going to sour your fanciful aura. I promise you. |
My wife and I (not big drinkers nor teatotalers) usually have water or sparkling water with dinner - coffee with breakfast. Often milk with the foods it matches best with. We seldom drink soda anymore. We used to have more juice around when kids were young. My sense is that the etiquette for a BBQ, group picnic, informal community dinner, etc is to have at least one non alcoholic drink other than water (personally I get mildly bannoyed at such events when there is either no non sugary offering other than water, or when its an evening event, and there is no offering other than water that is both sugar free and caffeine free) But for a formal dinner, I think the etiquette is wine, and water, and that's it. Not serving water seems odd to me though. |
I mean, I drink a lot of diet soda at home, but if someone else only had wine or water, I would literally think nothing of it. It would seem fine. |
We don’t drink juice or soda, so I don’t have it. I’m sorry water is boring. I would have offered you ice water - still or sparkling. But lemonade? Ice tea? It’s a dinner party, not a BBQ. I don’t run a restaurant.
I have never seen an adult order iced tea or soda with a nice dinner. Maybe at lunch with a sandwich or a burger. Drinking something other than water or wine/beer at dinner just seems weird to me. |
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We don't drink soda or juice, but for dinner parties, we generally pick up some Coca Cola and ginger ale. |
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OK, well if you are a recovering alcoholic who truly does "need" a sugary drink to help with your specific problem, you need to bring your own or give your hosts a heads up. Because that is WAY different from an adult like OP who simply "needs" sugary drinks because she's ruined her taste buds by drinking sugary beverages with literally every meal, every single DAY. Most adults who aren't addicted to soda or recovering from alcohol are just fine with drinking water. Water is what we drink at our dinner tables 95% of the time, and we also enjoy wine on special occasions or when guests are around. |
+1 My sister is a recovering alcoholic and she drives around with cans and bottles of sparkling water in her car. If you can't go to dinner parties and such where others are drinking without being tempted, you should probably decline those invitations until you are in a healthier state. |
That is a shame, OP.
I have had a similar problem a few times. I don't drink liquor (I do drink wine and beer, but I have little tolerance for liquor) and occasionally I find myself in a "bottle service" or "liquor bar + mixers only" situation where I have nothing to drink. It kind of sucks - everyone else is getting sloshed and I'm making myself a drink with 95% cranberry or orange juice and a splash of vodka so I won't look lame. |
I think people like you and OP should stash a few boxes of Juicy juice in your purse so you are not caught off guard with only water to drink. |
So you won't look lame? Who gives a sh*t?! |
You hope your host feels awkward? How is that awkward to get you some water or you get your own. I bet you are never asked back, so no need to worry about "next time" |
First of all, you do drink liquor if you are having a splash of vodka. Second, you are one of those annoying people who thinks everyone is observing them/caring about what they do, always. NO ONE GIVES A SHIT. I socialize often, and have no idea whether Jane is drinking a vodka soda or just soda with lime; I have no idea if Tim is having a Stella or an O'Douls; I have no idea if Susie is having plain craberry juice or cranberry with vodka. Don't know, don't CARE. What, do you go around smelling and tasting your friend's drinks? If I'm talking with someone, and they are fun and interesting, I don't notice or care if they are drinking water, wine, Diet Coke or Perrier. What's wrong with you that you feel "lame" for not drinking hard liquor? Are you 12? |