Thanks for your continuing, even-handed responses in this thread. I appreciate the perspective. |
I think the following are insulting and implies TJ parents send their kids to TJ to game the admissions process and that supposedly no amount of logic will convince them otherwise: 1. "It seems to me that there are just some people so hell bent on the idea that TJ is the be all and end all of education for their little prince or princess, no amount of logic is going to convince them that their prince or princess might actually have a better chance of being accepted to a competitive college is they sent them to a "lower" performing HS. They have drunk the TJ kool aid and can't get enough it. 2. "TJ provides Student A with opportunities that Student B will never have, such that they will not appear to be equally qualified when it comes time for them to apply to schools" 3."Surely TJ supporters are brighter than this" 4. "I think you're simply wrong, and are not familiar with the admissions process at the vast majority of competitive universities." 5. "I am also not suggesting, by any stretch of imagination, that a parent shouldn't send their kid to TJ to game the college admissions system" 6. "Apparently you don't read too well." 7. "But, I'm not going to do it because I think it will suddenly make their college admissions chances a lot better." 8. "I seriously question your reading comprehension skills." |
You realize that not all of these posts were made by the Berkely poster, and that even on the gaming one, she was asked and posted that it was a typo, right? I don't think (though I could have missed it) that anyone is suggesting that parents send their kids to TJ to game the admissions process. |
If you went back and reviewed the postings the quotes are from, it is 99% clear that they are from the Berkeley poster. |
Let's see. There are 8 quotes, one of them is mine (#2), and I'm not the Berkeley/Yale poster. So I think your 99% confidence level is less than air-tight. |
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Not sure why my response are in the blue box, but they are there in the post just above this one. |
Re-posting my response with proper formatting. This is probably a waste of my time, but here goes. Quote #1: You can be hell bent of thinking TJ is the be all and end all for your child without wanting to game the college admissions process. When parents of 2nd and 3rd graders are asking other parents whether they think their child is TJ material, which we all know routinely happens in this area, I think there are some people who think that there is nothing better that could happen to their child than being accepted to TJ. I'm sure parents of TJ students and wannabe-TJ parents have a variety of reasons for wanting to send their child to TJ. Some have the perspective I describe, while others don't. Quote #2: not mine Quote #3: not mine Quote #4: I'm not sure how expressing an opinion about someone else's knowledge of the college admissions process says anything about parents of TJ students. That quote alone could be found in any discussion of college admissions whether talking about TJ or some HS somewhere else in the country. Of course, it is just my opinion about the other poster, and I could be absolutely wrong. Quote #5: As I clarified in another post, I was trying to say that you should send your child the school you think is best for them, whether that is TJ, Edison, or some other school, and NOT to game the college admissions process. Quote #6: My opinion has only been further reinforced by the quotes you have chosen. Of course, I'm not really sure how asserting something about your reading comprehension abilities says anything about TJ parents generally or even about one TJ parent seeing as I don't even know whether you are a TJ parent. Furthermore, just because you may lack reading comprehension skills doesn't mean you're gaming the college admissions process. Quote #7: Speaking about my own perspective regarding whether to send one of my children to TJ doesn't really say anything about the perspective of other parents. I suppose it could implicitly suggest that other parents don't share the same perspective. I imagine some parents share my perspective while there are some parents who think sending their kid to TJ all of a sudden increases the odds of their child being accepted to a competitive university. Personally, I imagine most of the kids who are sent to TJ would have excelled in any of the schools in Fairfax County and were likely on the course to being admitted to competitive colleges regardless of which HS they attended. Quote #8: See my response to Quote #6. |
I am a TJ parent and I find your tone and attitude inappropriate. I don't think the TJ parents that I met are hell bent on the idea that TJ is in anyway "be all and end all". They just want the best possible educational opportunity for their children. Also, your characterization of "their little prince or princess" is inappropriate as well. The parents I met have attended selective colleges and graduate schools and thus have experienced college admissions process. I don't see why you have to have such hostile attitude towards TJ or TJ parents especially if you are not from the DC area. I am sure you wouldn't like it if someone had similarly hostile tone and attitude against your high school. |
Well, I agree that I could have expressed my views with a softer, gentler tone. Let me try it another way. I think there are some parents in this area who place too much emphasis on their child attending TJ or one of the high schools in northern VA that are ranked more highly than others. I think you see both on forums such as this one and in interacting with other parents in this area, a tendency to view high schools in a hierarchical manner that does not necessarily benefit their children or the educational system here. Wanting the best for your child is a laudable goal and one that I think most parents have, but the best thing for your child is not necessarily ensuring that your child attends the highest ranked high school possible (just as attending the highest ranked college is not necessarily the best thing for every adult). In the context of this discussion, I recall some posters expressing the view that a child from TJ would have an advantage over an Edison student solely by virtue of attending TJ. Those posters seem to have the perspective that attending a higher ranked school, solely by virtue of attending that school, will result in better college admissions results for their child. I think this perspective is one that demonstrates a parent who, though likely very well intentioned, is misinformed. I also would like to stress that I believe only some parents are of the type I have described. I suspect many more parents, if not the vast majority, have your perspective, which sounds very balanced and healthy. Unfortunately, on forums like this, and to a lesser extent in actuality, the misinformed parents tend to be the one's who express their views with the highest volume. |
Simple advice: Pick the high school where you child would be happiest. Period. |
This is like saying 3.95 GPA kid from GMU would have an advantage over 3.95 GPA kid from Harvard in graduate school admissions with all other factors being equal. That is not true. Colleges know not all GPAs are created equal and that applies to high schools as well as colleges. |