basis woes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Rowdy" can mean so many things, but the bottom line is that you are judging a 10 yr old as totally responsible for his/her behavior. As a parent of a child with special needs myself, I know that even kids with two parents and a stable loving home can still be "rowdy." There are lots of reasons for these behaviors in children-- do you really want to blame the kids themselves? BASIS needs to do what other schools and institutions do -- meet the kids where they are and give them structure, services, and unconditionally kindness until they get it together. 10 year old kids who are "rowdy" are not axe murderers, they are kids with needs that should be met by BASIS.

And Miss Judgmental PP, if your child is smart, organized, kind, hard-working, successful and specifically not "rowdy," well, you are blessed. I hope you know how LUCKY you are. It's not your parenting or your genes; you just won the child temperament lottery. So far, that is; time will tell. And let's see how the sibling does. Good luck.

You sound like such a lousy, LAZY parent.

How can you justify your child's poor behavior and honestly feel good about calling yourself a parent. Teaching your child how to behave is one of the very first things we teach them. At age 10 your child knows right from wrong and should've been taught how to behave, have self-respect, and show respect for others by not being disruptive, violent, unkind, well....'rowdy'.

Did you not teach your child appropriate behaviors for different settings? Really? How can you hold a SCHOOL (that came in at the age of TEN) responsible for "meeting your child where he's at" and dealing with his behavior when you GAVE BIRTH to the child and "raised" him for 10 years but FAILED miserably at doing so????? Basis has how many children on its roster? And you have how many in your dysfunctional home?

As for PP, if her child is smart, organized, kind, hard-working, successful, and specifically "not rowdy" it's not because of a luck of the draw or some sort of parental lottery. Her child gave into the world a blank slate just like yours did. The difference is that she put in the time and work teaching her child social skills. I should know. My child is described as all of those things and I know for a fact it's because of what his home-training and upbringing.

You are one lazy, classless, excuse-laden poor excuse of a parent. You AND your husband.

I knew parents like you, who thought their "perfect angel(s)" was due to their expert parenting. Then they had another child. And found out the hard way.

I hope you don't treat your children the way you did the PP and call them "lazy, classless, excuse laden poor excuse of a child of mine." Although, actuons due speak louder than words.

Do you really believe well-behaved children are the result of some kind of luck????

What do you think PARENTING is all about??? Providing a roof, meals and clothing? It's about preparing your child for success in the real world--socially, emotionally, intellecutally, etc.

The fact that loser parents like you don't get this explains to me some of the behavior I see in kids today.

I know of many, MANY ENTIRE families where every single child knows how to behave because THEY'RE PARENTS TRAINED THEM instead of simply crossing their fingers and hoping for the best.

What a LOSER.

[Anonymous]

I believe it is a combination of nature and nurture. Some children, because of their innate temperments and having neurotypical brains, are much easier to parent. Others not so much. I see excellent parents teaching their children how to behave, however not all children respond in the same way. I see different results in the same family, so I know there are other factors at work thanjust "parenting skills".

I have seen "so-so" parent have extremely well behaved children and I have seen "excellent" parents have children that have trouble behaving. Yes, poor parenting can lead NT children to bad behvaior, but not all children behave badly because of poor parenting.

Smug parents like yourself tend to get kicked in the hind quarters by karma eventually.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like Basis was not prepared for the reality of teaching in DC.

Man wouldn't public schools be amazing if you could kick out every kid the first or second time they misbehaved. Teachers actually have to work the kids on correct behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The attrition rate for DCPS schools is in excess of 40%. No charter has numbers anywhere near that bad.

There are some dc parents/children who are school hoppers. The kids have been to many schools, some even switch two or three times a year. Sometimes it's because of housing or because they think some other school will magically fix their child. It really creates a bad mindset in the child that they are not responsible for their behavior, they can just go to a new school and like their new teacher better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like Basis was not prepared for the reality of teaching in DC.

Man wouldn't public schools be amazing if you could kick out every kid the first or second time they misbehaved. Teachers actually have to work the kids on correct behavior.

They're not "kicking" students out - with only a tiny handful of exceptions, those leaving BASIS are leaving of their own volition. Yes, teachers have a role to play, but repeated acting out in class gets students sent to the front office, gets them sent to a behavioral specialist, gets them detention or suspension, et cetera - as opposed to instance after instance after instance of bad behavior getting a blind eye and being tolerated as was the case in many of the previous schools they came from.

[Anonymous]

Behavioral specialist at BASIS?? That doesn't exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Behavioral specialist at BASIS?? That doesn't exist.

You are misinformed.

[Anonymous]

No. I'm really not.

[Anonymous]

Oh I bet they have one. The same one dismissing kids from IEPs too. Full service at that place!

[Anonymous]

Her name is Dr. Jackson - she's great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Rowdy" can mean so many things, but the bottom line is that you are judging a 10 yr old as totally responsible for his/her behavior. As a parent of a child with special needs myself, I know that even kids with two parents and a stable loving home can still be "rowdy." There are lots of reasons for these behaviors in children-- do you really want to blame the kids themselves? BASIS needs to do what other schools and institutions do -- meet the kids where they are and give them structure, services, and unconditionally kindness until they get it together. 10 year old kids who are "rowdy" are not axe murderers, they are kids with needs that should be met by BASIS.

And Miss Judgmental PP, if your child is smart, organized, kind, hard-working, successful and specifically not "rowdy," well, you are blessed. I hope you know how LUCKY you are. It's not your parenting or your genes; you just won the child temperament lottery. So far, that is; time will tell. And let's see how the sibling does. Good luck.

You sound like such a lousy, LAZY parent.

How can you justify your child's poor behavior and honestly feel good about calling yourself a parent. Teaching your child how to behave is one of the very first things we teach them. At age 10 your child knows right from wrong and should've been taught how to behave, have self-respect, and show respect for others by not being disruptive, violent, unkind, well....'rowdy'.

Did you not teach your child appropriate behaviors for different settings? Really? How can you hold a SCHOOL (that came in at the age of TEN) responsible for "meeting your child where he's at" and dealing with his behavior when you GAVE BIRTH to the child and "raised" him for 10 years but FAILED miserably at doing so????? Basis has how many children on its roster? And you have how many in your dysfunctional home?

As for PP, if her child is smart, organized, kind, hard-working, successful, and specifically "not rowdy" it's not because of a luck of the draw or some sort of parental lottery. Her child gave into the world a blank slate just like yours did. The difference is that she put in the time and work teaching her child social skills. I should know. My child is described as all of those things and I know for a fact it's because of what his home-training and upbringing.

You are one lazy, classless, excuse-laden poor excuse of a parent. You AND your husband.

I knew parents like you, who thought their "perfect angel(s)" was due to their expert parenting. Then they had another child. And found out the hard way.

I hope you don't treat your children the way you did the PP and call them "lazy, classless, excuse laden poor excuse of a child of mine." Although, actuons due speak louder than words.

Do you really believe well-behaved children are the result of some kind of luck????

What do you think PARENTING is all about??? Providing a roof, meals and clothing? It's about preparing your child for success in the real world--socially, emotionally, intellecutally, etc.

The fact that loser parents like you don't get this explains to me some of the behavior I see in kids today.

I know of many, MANY ENTIRE families where every single child knows how to behave because THEY'RE PARENTS TRAINED THEM instead of simply crossing their fingers and hoping for the best.

What a LOSER.

Not any of the PPs, I just clicked on the thread. This particular post really jumped out because of the ALL-CAPS SHOUTING. Wow, you really get wound up over some anonymous posts on the internet! Screaming at people who disagree with you (especially when they are correct) doesn't do much to make you sound persuasive.

The modern education system was designed post-industrialization, and the theory was as much about socialization and creating model citizens and employees as it was about imparting knowledge. Expected behavior is, in fact, part of that system.

I hope you're doing something to relieve your stress, you could really use a new hobby.

Also, I'll ignore "actuons" and "intellecutally" above because typos happen to everyone. However, THEY'RE PARENTS didn't train them, THEIR PARENTS did. It's a common mistake among the less-educated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her name is Dr. Jackson - she's great.

Does she really go by Dr.?

Considering her PhD is in political science and she isnt working in that field, that seems odd to me.

[Anonymous]

Dr. Johnson. She is wonderful, but not a behavioral specialist.

Don't knock other people's degrees. Not very classy and just comes across as rude.

[Anonymous]

The Basis administration, including Dr. Johnson is opaque to me. I wish the principal was an inspiring presence at the school. We rarely see him around and my son tells me he gives a morning announcement with word-of-the-day that is indecipherable. At parent meetings he specializes in content-free happy-talk which is especially irritating when it is difficult to take time to attend these meetings. It's a contrast with our local elementary, where the principal knew every child and really forged a community among all the families.
I must say though, Basis' teachers, are quite amazing, inspiring and dedicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Basis administration, including Dr. Johnson is opaque to me. I wish the principal was an inspiring presence at the school. We rarely see him around and my son tells me he gives a morning announcement with word-of-the-day that is indecipherable. At parent meetings he specializes in content-free happy-talk which is especially irritating when it is difficult to take time to attend these meetings. It's a contrast with our local elementary, where the principal knew every child and really forged a community among all the families.
I must say though, Basis' teachers, are quite amazing, inspiring and dedicated.

He is not the Princpal.
Dr. Nicole E. Johnson joins BASIS DC as the School Director. She holds a Ph.D. in Political Science and was a college professor at Howard University and the University of South Florida before working in the private sector as a researcher and consultant. She completed her M.A. in Education and Human Development in 2008 at George Washington University. Prior to coming to BASIS DC she was a Special Education teacher in Washington, D.C. working with special needs students with a range of disabilities. She has published and presented in the areas of diversity and education, and is a member of the Council for Exceptional Children and National Association for Multicultural Education.