I didn't come to an art museum to watch you nurse a toddler

[Anonymous]

Rolling my eyes at all of the breastfeeding zealots on this thread. I personally didn't breastfeed past a year but know many moms that did and the normal ones weren't letting their toddlers nurse on demand, instead limiting breastfeeding to naps and bedtime. A toddler old enough to say "boob" can wait to breastfeed until you are not in a quiet art gallery. The one mom I have encountered who breastfed her toddler on demand like this was overly permissive in other ways too.

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Anonymous wrote:You problem entirely.

And no I don’t need to cover or leave the room.

Pop that kid in a sling, latch, keep it moving, or sit as needed. I’ve nursed on just about every bench on every museum and at the arboretum and zoo as well. It’s how you manage kids on dc. Free spots with ac when it’s warm and outside when it’s cooler

Not every child weans at one year or solids. It’s normal for a toddler to comfort nurse as well.

And we shouldn’t have to hike to a lactation room hell and gone across the museum so you’re comfy. Grow up.

Parents like you are the worst. Nursing a toddler in a gallery to calm them is just weird. They don't NEED to nurse. Take them outside.

Your kids are going to be spoiled entitled PITAs just like you. Annoying and rude.

Says the person having a temper tantrum online.

Maybe they don’t NEED to nurse, but it helps them and they’re still very young plus I don’t mind doing it - and can easily comfort a tired kiddo.

How often does adults do we get to be simply soothed?

Nope.

Nursing slurping toddlers in a public space meant for quiet contemplation is inappropriate. If a child needs soothing, take them elsewhere. So sick of entitled parents raising entitled, annoying kids.

Having a tough moment is not entitlement. Expecting silence is though.

Nope.

There are multiple *public* spaces where quiet/silence are expected. Art museums, churches, etc. If you ignore this, you are the one acting rude and entitled. Period.

Take your noisy toddler out. I'm tired of the militant breast feeding brigade and the over-indulgent parents of the world trying to pretend that they are above basic manners and civiity. You and your children are insufferable and we will not coddle you.

They give tours of art museums. People talk all the time in art museums. There is no expectation of silence. You are the one demanding to be coddled.

Seriously! It's not a library. OP (and pp) seems confused.

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Anonymous wrote:You problem entirely.

And no I don’t need to cover or leave the room.

Pop that kid in a sling, latch, keep it moving, or sit as needed. I’ve nursed on just about every bench on every museum and at the arboretum and zoo as well. It’s how you manage kids on dc. Free spots with ac when it’s warm and outside when it’s cooler

Not every child weans at one year or solids. It’s normal for a toddler to comfort nurse as well.

And we shouldn’t have to hike to a lactation room hell and gone across the museum so you’re comfy. Grow up.

Parents like you are the worst. Nursing a toddler in a gallery to calm them is just weird. They don't NEED to nurse. Take them outside.

Your kids are going to be spoiled entitled PITAs just like you. Annoying and rude.

Says the person having a temper tantrum online.

Maybe they don’t NEED to nurse, but it helps them and they’re still very young plus I don’t mind doing it - and can easily comfort a tired kiddo.

How often does adults do we get to be simply soothed?

Nope.

Nursing slurping toddlers in a public space meant for quiet contemplation is inappropriate. If a child needs soothing, take them elsewhere. So sick of entitled parents raising entitled, annoying kids.

Having a tough moment is not entitlement. Expecting silence is though.

Nope.

There are multiple *public* spaces where quiet/silence are expected. Art museums, churches, etc. If you ignore this, you are the one acting rude and entitled. Period.

Take your noisy toddler out. I'm tired of the militant breast feeding brigade and the over-indulgent parents of the world trying to pretend that they are above basic manners and civiity. You and your children are insufferable and we will not coddle you.

They give tours of art museums. People talk all the time in art museums. There is no expectation of silence. You are the one demanding to be coddled.

Do you not know what quiet means? Like low voices and no slurping. No coddling, just understanding of basic polite behavior in these types of spaces. But entitled parent types don't grasp these subtleties.

Bro, for the sake of science, I just tried to "slurp" my tea as loudly as I possibly could. This is inefficient af and required significant effort, making it unlikely that the toddler was making this sound for any sustainable amount of time. That sound, however irritating you found it, doesn't exceed a quiet conversation. "Basic polite behavior" in shared space includes a heaping scoop of minding your own damned business and accepting that not everyone sees things the way you do. You are unequivocally the AH for making any sort of scene or statement about this, especially as you weren't trapped in the space and could freely move to any other gallery. Get over yourself. You don't have the high ground you seem to think you do.

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Anonymous wrote:You problem entirely.

And no I don’t need to cover or leave the room.

Pop that kid in a sling, latch, keep it moving, or sit as needed. I’ve nursed on just about every bench on every museum and at the arboretum and zoo as well. It’s how you manage kids on dc. Free spots with ac when it’s warm and outside when it’s cooler

Not every child weans at one year or solids. It’s normal for a toddler to comfort nurse as well.

And we shouldn’t have to hike to a lactation room hell and gone across the museum so you’re comfy. Grow up.

Parents like you are the worst. Nursing a toddler in a gallery to calm them is just weird. They don't NEED to nurse. Take them outside.

Your kids are going to be spoiled entitled PITAs just like you. Annoying and rude.

Says the person having a temper tantrum online.

Maybe they don’t NEED to nurse, but it helps them and they’re still very young plus I don’t mind doing it - and can easily comfort a tired kiddo.

How often does adults do we get to be simply soothed?

Nope.

Nursing slurping toddlers in a public space meant for quiet contemplation is inappropriate. If a child needs soothing, take them elsewhere. So sick of entitled parents raising entitled, annoying kids.

Having a tough moment is not entitlement. Expecting silence is though.

Nope.

There are multiple *public* spaces where quiet/silence are expected. Art museums, churches, etc. If you ignore this, you are the one acting rude and entitled. Period.

Take your noisy toddler out. I'm tired of the militant breast feeding brigade and the over-indulgent parents of the world trying to pretend that they are above basic manners and civiity. You and your children are insufferable and we will not coddle you.

They give tours of art museums. People talk all the time in art museums. There is no expectation of silence. You are the one demanding to be coddled.

Do you not know what quiet means? Like low voices and no slurping. No coddling, just understanding of basic polite behavior in these types of spaces. But entitled parent types don't grasp these subtleties.

A child drinking does not make more noise than a tour guide. You absolutely are demanding to be coddled. It's absurd that you're judging a two year old when you are whining like one.

+1. Someone needs their num-nums!

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Anonymous wrote:You problem entirely.

And no I don’t need to cover or leave the room.

Pop that kid in a sling, latch, keep it moving, or sit as needed. I’ve nursed on just about every bench on every museum and at the arboretum and zoo as well. It’s how you manage kids on dc. Free spots with ac when it’s warm and outside when it’s cooler

Not every child weans at one year or solids. It’s normal for a toddler to comfort nurse as well.

And we shouldn’t have to hike to a lactation room hell and gone across the museum so you’re comfy. Grow up.

Parents like you are the worst. Nursing a toddler in a gallery to calm them is just weird. They don't NEED to nurse. Take them outside.

Your kids are going to be spoiled entitled PITAs just like you. Annoying and rude.

Says the person having a temper tantrum online.

Maybe they don’t NEED to nurse, but it helps them and they’re still very young plus I don’t mind doing it - and can easily comfort a tired kiddo.

How often does adults do we get to be simply soothed?

Nope.

Nursing slurping toddlers in a public space meant for quiet contemplation is inappropriate. If a child needs soothing, take them elsewhere. So sick of entitled parents raising entitled, annoying kids.

Having a tough moment is not entitlement. Expecting silence is though.

Nope.

There are multiple *public* spaces where quiet/silence are expected. Art museums, churches, etc. If you ignore this, you are the one acting rude and entitled. Period.

Take your noisy toddler out. I'm tired of the militant breast feeding brigade and the over-indulgent parents of the world trying to pretend that they are above basic manners and civiity. You and your children are insufferable and we will not coddle you.

They give tours of art museums. People talk all the time in art museums. There is no expectation of silence. You are the one demanding to be coddled.

Seriously! It's not a library. OP (and pp) seems confused.

They don't allow snacks, bottles, drinks, beverages of any sort. If your toddler cannot go the length of time required to get throught a couple of galleries at the museum, you should not be taking them there. I have been a museum leader in this city for over 15 years--this is not appreciated.

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Anonymous wrote:You problem entirely.

And no I don’t need to cover or leave the room.

Pop that kid in a sling, latch, keep it moving, or sit as needed. I’ve nursed on just about every bench on every museum and at the arboretum and zoo as well. It’s how you manage kids on dc. Free spots with ac when it’s warm and outside when it’s cooler

Not every child weans at one year or solids. It’s normal for a toddler to comfort nurse as well.

And we shouldn’t have to hike to a lactation room hell and gone across the museum so you’re comfy. Grow up.

Parents like you are the worst. Nursing a toddler in a gallery to calm them is just weird. They don't NEED to nurse. Take them outside.

Your kids are going to be spoiled entitled PITAs just like you. Annoying and rude.

Says the person having a temper tantrum online.

Maybe they don’t NEED to nurse, but it helps them and they’re still very young plus I don’t mind doing it - and can easily comfort a tired kiddo.

How often does adults do we get to be simply soothed?

Nope.

Nursing slurping toddlers in a public space meant for quiet contemplation is inappropriate. If a child needs soothing, take them elsewhere. So sick of entitled parents raising entitled, annoying kids.

Having a tough moment is not entitlement. Expecting silence is though.

Nope.

There are multiple *public* spaces where quiet/silence are expected. Art museums, churches, etc. If you ignore this, you are the one acting rude and entitled. Period.

Take your noisy toddler out. I'm tired of the militant breast feeding brigade and the over-indulgent parents of the world trying to pretend that they are above basic manners and civiity. You and your children are insufferable and we will not coddle you.

It doesn’t sound like that’s what was happening here. But go on and have a tantrum, tough guy.

When you have no real argument, you just talk down, just name call. Not compelling.

And I'm not a guy. I'm a mom who breastfed past one year, but recognized my kid didn't need on-demand at that age. Imagine that? Some of us understand we are not more important that other people and try to be considerate in public spaces.

Most reasonable people understand that others have different experiences, sweetheart. Try to be considerate in public spaces instead of being a judgmental jerk and mind your own business instead of someone else's.

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Went to the East Wing of the National Gallery yesterday. There was a noisy toddler with their parents in the same room who was begging for "boob" and then started noisily nursing. It was bone quiet and the kid was slurping and grunting.

Why does this annoy me so much? I nursed multiple kids, heck, I've nursed a kid in the National gallery! But I chose to do so outside the exhibit and privately as I could. (this was way before lactation rooms were a thing).

I want to be sympathetic and supportive of nursing mothers, but personally, I'm just really grossed out by older children loudly nursing. And feel like my experience was diminished and they were disrespectful
Of the patrons who WERE NOT interested in their kid's snack.

Maybe they were inspired by [img]
https://api.nga.gov/iiif/789d7bcb-9bb2-4fdc-b049-1c9e8ebcce51/full/!800,800/0/default.jpg[/img] and
https://www.nationalgallery.org.uk/paintings/titian-the-virgin-suckling-the-infant-christ

Of course. Just like it's reasonable for random men to take off their pants in the room where Michelangelo's David is displayed. It's just logic.

Oh, good lord... What a ridiculous comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rolling my eyes at all of the breastfeeding zealots on this thread. I personally didn't breastfeed past a year but know many moms that did and the normal ones weren't letting their toddlers nurse on demand, instead limiting breastfeeding to naps and bedtime. A toddler old enough to say "boob" can wait to breastfeed until you are not in a quiet art gallery. The one mom I have encountered who breastfed her toddler on demand like this was overly permissive in other ways too.

GOD it must be nice to have all the answers, not only for yourself, but for strangers, too!

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Anonymous wrote:You problem entirely.

And no I don’t need to cover or leave the room.

Pop that kid in a sling, latch, keep it moving, or sit as needed. I’ve nursed on just about every bench on every museum and at the arboretum and zoo as well. It’s how you manage kids on dc. Free spots with ac when it’s warm and outside when it’s cooler

Not every child weans at one year or solids. It’s normal for a toddler to comfort nurse as well.

And we shouldn’t have to hike to a lactation room hell and gone across the museum so you’re comfy. Grow up.

Parents like you are the worst. Nursing a toddler in a gallery to calm them is just weird. They don't NEED to nurse. Take them outside.

Your kids are going to be spoiled entitled PITAs just like you. Annoying and rude.

Says the person having a temper tantrum online.

Maybe they don’t NEED to nurse, but it helps them and they’re still very young plus I don’t mind doing it - and can easily comfort a tired kiddo.

How often does adults do we get to be simply soothed?

Nope.

Nursing slurping toddlers in a public space meant for quiet contemplation is inappropriate. If a child needs soothing, take them elsewhere. So sick of entitled parents raising entitled, annoying kids.

Having a tough moment is not entitlement. Expecting silence is though.

Nope.

There are multiple *public* spaces where quiet/silence are expected. Art museums, churches, etc. If you ignore this, you are the one acting rude and entitled. Period.

Take your noisy toddler out. I'm tired of the militant breast feeding brigade and the over-indulgent parents of the world trying to pretend that they are above basic manners and civiity. You and your children are insufferable and we will not coddle you.

They give tours of art museums. People talk all the time in art museums. There is no expectation of silence. You are the one demanding to be coddled.

Seriously! It's not a library. OP (and pp) seems confused.

They don't allow snacks, bottles, drinks, beverages of any sort. If your toddler cannot go the length of time required to get throught a couple of galleries at the museum, you should not be taking them there. I have been a museum leader in this city for over 15 years--this is not appreciated.

They absolutely allow baby bottles. No one is spraying breastmilk in on the old masters please calm down.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You problem entirely.

And no I don’t need to cover or leave the room.

Pop that kid in a sling, latch, keep it moving, or sit as needed. I’ve nursed on just about every bench on every museum and at the arboretum and zoo as well. It’s how you manage kids on dc. Free spots with ac when it’s warm and outside when it’s cooler

Not every child weans at one year or solids. It’s normal for a toddler to comfort nurse as well.

And we shouldn’t have to hike to a lactation room hell and gone across the museum so you’re comfy. Grow up.

Parents like you are the worst. Nursing a toddler in a gallery to calm them is just weird. They don't NEED to nurse. Take them outside.

Your kids are going to be spoiled entitled PITAs just like you. Annoying and rude.

Says the person having a temper tantrum online.

Maybe they don’t NEED to nurse, but it helps them and they’re still very young plus I don’t mind doing it - and can easily comfort a tired kiddo.

How often does adults do we get to be simply soothed?

Nope.

Nursing slurping toddlers in a public space meant for quiet contemplation is inappropriate. If a child needs soothing, take them elsewhere. So sick of entitled parents raising entitled, annoying kids.

Having a tough moment is not entitlement. Expecting silence is though.

Nope.

There are multiple *public* spaces where quiet/silence are expected. Art museums, churches, etc. If you ignore this, you are the one acting rude and entitled. Period.

Take your noisy toddler out. I'm tired of the militant breast feeding brigade and the over-indulgent parents of the world trying to pretend that they are above basic manners and civiity. You and your children are insufferable and we will not coddle you.

They give tours of art museums. People talk all the time in art museums. There is no expectation of silence. You are the one demanding to be coddled.

Seriously! It's not a library. OP (and pp) seems confused.

They don't allow snacks, bottles, drinks, beverages of any sort. If your toddler cannot go the length of time required to get throught a couple of galleries at the museum, you should not be taking them there. I have been a museum leader in this city for over 15 years--this is not appreciated.

A "museum leader", eh?

Then clearly you know why many public spaces don't allow "snacks, bottles, drinks, beverages of any sort" (and several galleries DO allow water, so deal with that). It's trash. Nobody wants to deal with the trash left behind. This is a mess-reduction protocol.

So unless she was taking off her titties and throwing them on the ground when her kid was done, this isn't the same thing. At all.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You problem entirely.

And no I don’t need to cover or leave the room.

Pop that kid in a sling, latch, keep it moving, or sit as needed. I’ve nursed on just about every bench on every museum and at the arboretum and zoo as well. It’s how you manage kids on dc. Free spots with ac when it’s warm and outside when it’s cooler

Not every child weans at one year or solids. It’s normal for a toddler to comfort nurse as well.

And we shouldn’t have to hike to a lactation room hell and gone across the museum so you’re comfy. Grow up.

Parents like you are the worst. Nursing a toddler in a gallery to calm them is just weird. They don't NEED to nurse. Take them outside.

Your kids are going to be spoiled entitled PITAs just like you. Annoying and rude.

Says the person having a temper tantrum online.

Maybe they don’t NEED to nurse, but it helps them and they’re still very young plus I don’t mind doing it - and can easily comfort a tired kiddo.

How often does adults do we get to be simply soothed?

Nope.

Nursing slurping toddlers in a public space meant for quiet contemplation is inappropriate. If a child needs soothing, take them elsewhere. So sick of entitled parents raising entitled, annoying kids.

Having a tough moment is not entitlement. Expecting silence is though.

Nope.

There are multiple *public* spaces where quiet/silence are expected. Art museums, churches, etc. If you ignore this, you are the one acting rude and entitled. Period.

Take your noisy toddler out. I'm tired of the militant breast feeding brigade and the over-indulgent parents of the world trying to pretend that they are above basic manners and civiity. You and your children are insufferable and we will not coddle you.

They give tours of art museums. People talk all the time in art museums. There is no expectation of silence. You are the one demanding to be coddled.

Seriously! It's not a library. OP (and pp) seems confused.

They don't allow snacks, bottles, drinks, beverages of any sort. If your toddler cannot go the length of time required to get throught a couple of galleries at the museum, you should not be taking them there. I have been a museum leader in this city for over 15 years--this is not appreciated.

They absolutely allow baby bottles. No one is spraying breastmilk in on the old masters please calm down.

Bzackly

[Anonymous]

"I didn't come to an art museum to watch you nurse a toddler"

THEN DON'T.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I didn't come to an art museum to watch you nurse a toddler"

THEN DON'T.

+1 don’t stare at people it’s rude. Go into the next room if you’re going to embarrass yourself with your inability not to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You problem entirely.

And no I don’t need to cover or leave the room.

Pop that kid in a sling, latch, keep it moving, or sit as needed. I’ve nursed on just about every bench on every museum and at the arboretum and zoo as well. It’s how you manage kids on dc. Free spots with ac when it’s warm and outside when it’s cooler

Not every child weans at one year or solids. It’s normal for a toddler to comfort nurse as well.

And we shouldn’t have to hike to a lactation room hell and gone across the museum so you’re comfy. Grow up.

Parents like you are the worst. Nursing a toddler in a gallery to calm them is just weird. They don't NEED to nurse. Take them outside.

Your kids are going to be spoiled entitled PITAs just like you. Annoying and rude.

Says the person having a temper tantrum online.

Maybe they don’t NEED to nurse, but it helps them and they’re still very young plus I don’t mind doing it - and can easily comfort a tired kiddo.

How often does adults do we get to be simply soothed?

Nope.

Nursing slurping toddlers in a public space meant for quiet contemplation is inappropriate. If a child needs soothing, take them elsewhere. So sick of entitled parents raising entitled, annoying kids.

Having a tough moment is not entitlement. Expecting silence is though.

Nope.

There are multiple *public* spaces where quiet/silence are expected. Art museums, churches, etc. If you ignore this, you are the one acting rude and entitled. Period.

Take your noisy toddler out. I'm tired of the militant breast feeding brigade and the over-indulgent parents of the world trying to pretend that they are above basic manners and civiity. You and your children are insufferable and we will not coddle you.

They give tours of art museums. People talk all the time in art museums. There is no expectation of silence. You are the one demanding to be coddled.

Seriously! It's not a library. OP (and pp) seems confused.

They don't allow snacks, bottles, drinks, beverages of any sort. If your toddler cannot go the length of time required to get throught a couple of galleries at the museum, you should not be taking them there. I have been a museum leader in this city for over 15 years--this is not appreciated.

A "museum leader", eh?

Then clearly you know why many public spaces don't allow "snacks, bottles, drinks, beverages of any sort" (and several galleries DO allow water, so deal with that). It's trash. Nobody wants to deal with the trash left behind. This is a mess-reduction protocol.

So unless she was taking off her titties and throwing them on the ground when her kid was done, this isn't the same thing. At all.

You are 100% wrong. It's not because of the trash, it's because of the threat that liquids pose to the objects. But the point is, if every other human being can manage to visit a museum without "soothing," then the toddler should be able to. If they cannot, please wait until they can control themselves enough not to disrupt the experience for everybody else. The only reason breastfeeding toddlers in the middle of a gallery is not stopped is because of the vitriol the breastfeeding lunatics will rain down on the museum if they do. It is wrong to sit in the middle of the gallery and breastfeed at all, even more so with a toddler. Every single person here defending it knows that and is just doubling down.

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The anti extended bfing posts on here are wild. Are you all the same women who cry and feel so mad mad mad when anyone says anything at all about bfing being optimal because “fed is best!” and boo judging! Also bfing for one year is very different than extended bfing. The relationship is different. I do think generally on demand isn’t done however and they could’ve made it to the room but as someone said upthread it was likely nap time. I just can’t imagine having so many opinions on what others do and thinking they’re valid. It’s funny. You all must be real frustrated out there all day every day