Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?

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Anonymous wrote:I think the parents who drive to our public middle school every day, twice a day, think they are fancy or something. Like they are pretending their kid attends private school. Often the girls hop of the car with fresh Starbucks.

Does anyone drink old Starbucks? This isn’t a flex!

Who said it was? I think they look moronic.

I think PP went over your head. Anyway, what’s the issue with pickups/drop offs and Starbucks? I promise you nobody is cosplaying private school.

It’s making the kids soft. It’s fine though. Makes it easier for the not soft kids to eat their lunch.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny gets there early because DD asked if she could get picked up first.

Oh my. Your precious Gracie June is in for serious disappointment in life if you indulge in this silliness now

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I don’t believe that the many many cars sitting in pick up have kids that HAVE to be picked up within 1 minute of dismissal or they will be late to something important. But their kids don’t want to wait. Therefore, it’s ridiculous because parents are wasting an hour of their own time just because their kid will complain about having to wait 5-10 min for pickup. Oh poor things.

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Anonymous wrote:In FCPS my kid would be on the bus for an hour. It’s a 10 minute drive to school. I much prefer my child getting more sleep than catching a bus at 6:35 am (after a 10 minute drive to walk).

OP isn't criticizing parents picking up their kids from school. They are wondering why so many are there to pick them up an hour before dismissal.

But a lot of PPs are criticizing parents for picking up their kids in any fashion when the bus is available. Almost everyone at our school qualifies for the bus and yet the pick-up line is very long everyday. I guess all these kids and parents are jerks.

It’s not picking them up that OP is criticizing. The the arriving an HOUR prior to dismissal and just sitting there in the parking lot so your child can be one of the first out. Sorry but that is nutty. If you arrive 5 min after dismissal, you will have almost no wait time. Your kid can stand around for a few minutes. They will be fine and probably still get to practice on time

That may be true at your kid’s school but getting to my kid’s school five minutes after the bell means about a 20 min wait till you get back on the road. Your experience is not universal.

But 20 minutes is still better than 60 minutes so your argument is numerically illogical.

The point being arriving five minutes after dismissal at our school does not mean no wait time like the PP. It means a 20 minute wait which translates to being late for therapy. Getting to school early and waiting is a longer wait before dismissal but a short time (1 min?) getting on the road after. So 60 minutes (actually more like 45) plus getting to therapy on time is better than twenty minutes and missing half of therapy. Capisce?

Is your kid in daily therapy? Is everyone’s?

And if they are? Would that be ok with you? Would I get an official pass?

In a school of 1300 kids, there will be people who need to pick up children right after school. Whether you think the reason they do that is legitimate is not relevant.

You don’t know why people do this yet you presume to judge everyone who does. Why is that?

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live and let live. Life is short. This isn’t an issue worth caring about either way.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.

1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.

2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.

3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.

4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.

5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)

6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.


Let me know if I missed anything!!

My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.

So long story short, you’re jealous of people that can afford to prioritize their kids’ sports or have the leisure time and money to do Pilates midday.

Nope sweetie, I'm just better at scheduling things than you are!

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Anonymous wrote:In FCPS my kid would be on the bus for an hour. It’s a 10 minute drive to school. I much prefer my child getting more sleep than catching a bus at 6:35 am (after a 10 minute drive to walk).

Good job reading the question, dipshit.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it is their alone/quiet/lizard time away from work at home spouses and/or kids still at home with a sitter.

That's pathetic. Get a life, momma

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Anonymous wrote:Because it is their alone/quiet/lizard time away from work at home spouses and/or kids still at home with a sitter.

If you have the time, you should be taking a walk or doing something actually relaxing or actually productive. You’re probably shoveling food in your face while you sit.

You sound jealous they have the time to do this.

DP but why on earth would someone be jealous that you have time to....sit in a car and do nothing. I work full time, I make time during the day to take a 20 minute walk around the neighborhood. That is much more pleasant to me than sitting in the car waiting for my kid. Your defensiveness about this is so bizarre!

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Op revealed her nature when she passive aggressively made fun of “Jaymes” etc. she’s awful.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.

1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.

2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.

3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.

4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.

5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)

6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.



Let me know if I missed anything!!

My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.

I just read the whole thread - I think we hit everything except #2!

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Not OP but middle school and high school will ask for parent volunteers for various occasions. And yes, yes, the kids are embarrassed but the kid's friends always stop by to say hi.
The pickup issue is line of the perks to living in NYC. Pickup ended in elementary school. The kids took the bus or subway to school and to their afterschool activities. I was free to work part time starting elementary school and go full time by middle school because of the short commute and I didn't have to be part-time chauffeur.

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OR above, agree with OP about the fossil fuel issue. Until energy resources become very expensive as it is in other countries (meaning we stop meddling in the middle east), Americans will continue to heat their empty homes, in some cases even garages, keep boilers in said empty homes running 24/7, and also idle in their cars for long pointless periods of their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it is their alone/quiet/lizard time away from work at home spouses and/or kids still at home with a sitter.

If you have the time, you should be taking a walk or doing something actually relaxing or actually productive. You’re probably shoveling food in your face while you sit.

You sound jealous they have the time to do this.

DP but why on earth would someone be jealous that you have time to....sit in a car and do nothing. I work full time, I make time during the day to take a 20 minute walk around the neighborhood. That is much more pleasant to me than sitting in the car waiting for my kid. Your defensiveness about this is so bizarre!

This is such a hilariously pathetic attempt at a flex.

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Anonymous wrote:I have never been at the front of the line for pick up for any of my children (2 public, 1 private). I know that when I’m 15 min early, I’m fairly middle of pack. I once tried to get my kid early and got to elementary 30 min early thinking I would be first in line and there were at least 20 cars ahead of me.

To be in the front of line of a school with a thousand kids, it is probably an hour. My child was friends with a kid when she was in preschool and nanny would go to carpool line an hour early because child wanted to be one of the first to be picked up. Nanny would take younger sibling in car early.

Why?! And why would anyone indulge this ridiculously entitled behavior?

Not my kid. I have a kid at that same private school now. He usually takes the bus because the school is 20-30 min from my house. I would say most kids get picked up via carpool. On days we do pick up, the line is very long.

If I had a paid driver, I would want him or her to get there early, not an hour early but 30 min. Now that I think of it, I don’t think the nanny left to wait for an hour. The nanny left an hour early to pick up the kid so maybe she would have been 30-40 min early.