What does your nursing toddler call your boobs?

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Ladies who find nursing a toddler gross: the reason you give whole (cow's) milk is because toddlers need sufficient fats and proteins for brain growth and development. Because you are not nursing, you need a substitute. Breastmilk has lots of fat and proteins for the toddler. Sure, you don't have to breast feed to ensure your toddler gets his nutritional needs met, but by the same token, you don't "need" to when they are infants either (because there is formula). (I'm not saying cow's milk or dairy is bad or evil - I give it to my son - but I also think you should realize why it is recommended you give cow's milk when you wean.)

Again, it just depends on the child. My son is 13 months and he doesn't particularly like to breastfeed anymore, and isn't a big fan of cow's milk or formula, although he will take a little bit. His doctor says that is fine, because he's eating a lot of meat, yogurt, and other "grown up" foods that give him fats and proteins.

But just because extended nursing isn't right for YOUR family doesn't mean that it's "gross." No one in this thread ever argued that everyone should be nursing until a specific age; people have just been responding to posts telling them their their parenting choices are gross.

[Anonymous]

I think it's interesting that eeew-yucky crowd started this thread asserting that extended breastfeeding was evidence of some weird self-sacrificing martyr mom complex and ended by asserting that extended breastfeeding was evidence of the mom's supreme selfishness. It can't be both. Hey, maybe it's neither. (I also think this thread is pretty rich given the extremely common DCUM assertions that no one EVER criticizes breastfeeding moms for their choices while poor formula feeding moms live under a cloud of opprobrium and constant attacks.)

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My kid is heavy and when we're out for they day I prefer not to end up carrying him. And just because they can walk doesn't mean they are mature enough to walk with you, hold your hand and not try to bolt away. Seriously, raise your own children and let me raise my children the way I want to. Don't you have anything better to worry about?

I've been to South America and Europe and BOTH places have older children in strollers, not to mention Asia/Africa where they are still WEARING older children in wraps.

I think this was exactly the point the pp was making -- just because a kid is old enough to walk doesn't mean that he's too old to get the comfort/ease of a stroller. Similarly, just because a kid is old enough to eat other food doesn't mean that he's too old to get the comfort/ease of nursing.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone knows that BF is more than just feeding, it's bonding, nurturing, etc. But....there are better ways for a 2 year old and 3 year old to get that feeling of security that are age appropriate and don't require a boob!

I agree there are other ways to bring comfort at that age, I agree it's important to start developing them and not rely solely on nursing, but I disagree that that means nursing is no longer appropriate and must stop at any particular set age. Transition on the schedule that works for you and your kid.

I agree with this. Each day, my baby -- and she really was a baby through her toddler years -- was only one day older than she had been the previous day. There wasn't any day that we woke up and I thought, "Now she's all grown up!" We weaned gradually, with me following her lead about how much she liked/needed each nursing session, combined with setting limits for my sanity.

I planning on fully weaning when my desire to not nurse was greater than her desire to nurse. That finally happened when I got pregnant and could not deal with the feeling of nursing while pregnant.

And, sure, nursing was easier than the alternative, which was (for example) to have a grumpy, tantrummy start to the day, or a baby who took much longer to settle down at night. We're not talking about giving a kid a cupcake every time she asks, we're talking about something that has no ill effects. Sometimes, there's nothing wrong with doing what's easier for everyone.

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But just because extended nursing isn't right for YOUR family doesn't mean that it's "gross." No one in this thread ever argued that everyone should be nursing until a specific age; people have just been responding to posts telling them their their parenting choices are gross.

I fully agree, I said "it depends on the child." I sort of felt like that post was suggesting that if you didn't do extended breastfeeding, you were depriving your child of important nutrition. Possibly I was reading into it too much, maybe it was just providing info.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's interesting that eeew-yucky crowd started this thread asserting that extended breastfeeding was evidence of some weird self-sacrificing martyr mom complex and ended by asserting that extended breastfeeding was evidence of the mom's supreme selfishness. It can't be both. Hey, maybe it's neither. (I also think this thread is pretty rich given the extremely common DCUM assertions that no one EVER criticizes breastfeeding moms for their choices while poor formula feeding moms live under a cloud of opprobrium and constant attacks.)

Agreed. I think the one thing we can all agree on is that there are way too many parents who are way too judgmental of other people's choices. I know bottle feeding moms who have gotten shit from strangers in public. And we have 9 pages of posts of people being judgmental of breastfeeding moms. Same for kids in day care, stay at home moms, etc.

Can someone portray the ideal DCUM mom? Someone immune to criticism?

[Anonymous]

Why can people just agree to disagree? I think there is nothing worse than nursing a 2.5 year old just so you don't have to bond with them in a another way or so you can feel like a better mommy. Well, maybe calling them your "33 month old" might be just as gross.
However just because I don't agree with it and think that most women that do it past 18 months are only doing it for emotional validation, I could are less what you do with your boobs. But I AM entitled to my opinion, whether you agree with me or not.

[Anonymous]

But just because extended nursing isn't right for YOUR family doesn't mean that it's "gross." No one in this thread ever argued that everyone should be nursing until a specific age; people have just been responding to posts telling them their their parenting choices are gross.

I fully agree, I said "it depends on the child." I sort of felt like that post was suggesting that if you didn't do extended breastfeeding, you were depriving your child of important nutrition. Possibly I was reading into it too much, maybe it was just providing info.

I'm the one who posted the kellymom information and talked about cow's milk. I didn't mean to come off sounding as though you are depriving your child if you don't do extended breastfeeding. As I said, I think there is nothing wrong with cow's milk and dairy (and feed my son dairy). I also don't care what other moms choose to do and realize and respect that it is important to follow a child's lead. Some babies are ready to wean at 12 months (or earlier or later). Fwiw, I have no mission to nurse my son until a certain age; he's just not ready to wean. When he's ready, we'll stop.

The real purpose of my post was to point out that it is flat out wrong to say that there is no nutritional benefit to extended breastfeeding - a misstatement that was particularly loud in the "ewww-yuck" crowd. There is, actually, a lot of benefit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD called it "some." I want "some." She nursed until age 2.

That is not what "I want some" means.

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AnonymousThere is no biological or physiological reason for a toddler over the age of 15 months, e.g., once they can consume solids easily, to nurse. [/quote wrote:

This is false. It is a common misperception that the benefits of extended nursing are purely emotional/psychological. There is actually quite a bit a scientific evidence of the continued physical benefits of nursing through toddlerhood.

[Anonymous]

PP: Really? Like what? I'd be interested to hearing all about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP: Really? Like what? I'd be interested to hearing all about them.

Read the previous page. There are many reason listed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP: Really? Like what? I'd be interested to hearing all about them.

Read the previous page of this topic. There are several posts describing the health benefits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP: Really? Like what? I'd be interested to hearing all about them.

Breast milk and milk from the grocery store are both milk. Just the milk that comes from you is designed for humans and the milk you buy at the grocery store comes from cows and is designed for baby cows. So all the health benefits that come from cow's milk -- i.e. protein, calcium, etc. -- are also present in your milk, but then there are extra things, like antibodies that are only in your milk.

Sure, after a year, there are more things that can replace human milk. But that doesn't mean that all the nutrients, etc., that make human milk so good for babies automatically disappear.

[Anonymous]

It's hard to type it because DC pronounces it just so. "Beh beh?" Older DC BF until 21 months, younger DC is getting cut off soon (19 months now.)

DC is comforted by it and I'm not looking forward to her pitiful cries when she gets weaned. I'm not judgemental either way but with older DC one more month and it would have got weird.

Go ahead and flame if you haven't got anything better to do. P.S. If you had a boob job for cosmetic non-reconstructive or medical reasons before your first born, then I REALLY don't care what you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can people just agree to disagree? I think there is nothing worse than nursing a 2.5 year old just so you don't have to bond with them in a another way or so you can feel like a better mommy. Well, maybe calling them your "33 month old" might be just as gross.
However just because I don't agree with it and think that most women that do it past 18 months are only doing it for emotional validation, I could are less what you do with your boobs. But I AM entitled to my opinion, whether you agree with me or not.

You are certainly entitled to your opinion - even if it's sadly just based on ignorance. Really, "nothing worse"? Really?