
Your standard shifts as you get pounded here. Why is it "obnoxious" to listeners? Simply because the speaker's DC receives financial aid? And the parent is effectively barred from exercising his or her right to speech because the DC receives financial aid? |
How true! |
My neighbor sends her children to St. Agnes/St. Stevens in Alexandria. She said to me "There is no way I would ever consider sending my kids to public school in Arlington." She was dead serious and knows I have a child in public school in Arlington. B-e-o-t-c-h. |
You are still talking about rights, when it is about manners. |
The question posed by the OP. |
10:51, your insightful post hit the nail right on the head. The fact that adults would treat children and their families as "less than", simply because they have fewer financial resources, is creepy and outright tacky.
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Yes, this exactly. The fact that the OP on this particular aspect of this thread identified the party complaining about the food as a "FA Family" speaks volumes about OP's perception of that family as second-class. Complaining about food is a manners issue, regardless of the FA status of the complainer. Identifying the complainer as a "FA Family" in the same breath as suggesting that the complainer has no right (or fewer rights) to complain about the food is just ugly. |
Manners limit speech? Can't imagine the Roberts court condoning that. |
Going back to the original question - I've got a contender:
I once saw a mother at the school book fair pick up a paperback book, look at it disgustedly, and say to the woman next to her: "I can't believe anyone actually buys these paperback books, they're so cheap. I would never allow my children to have anything other than hardback." She wasn't joking. I still can't quite believe such a person exists outside a bad novel parodying private school life. |
Complaining about school food is not even a manners issue. |
If complaining to the school, it's not a manners issue. If complaining to fellow diners, it is. |
I was thinking along those same lines.... |
Miss Manners poster, please clarify: is it inappropriate for all parents to relay their children's criticism of a school's food, grounds, course offerings to another parent, or only parents with children receiving FA? |
Hold on a second... to whomever argued that codified US law entitles a right... I hope you hold the same thing true when people seek welfare, unemployment, food stamps, etc? Those are rights, right? Since they are codified US law? Or will your tone change then? You clearly don't know what "rights" are.
If you really think it's a faux pas for someone to claim when they are receiving benefits to be in the situation they are in... well, you better shut your mouth. Your position in life is impacted largely by unearned privilege. A lot of which you think you are "entitled" to are the result of a system biased in your favor. This is not a bad thing... it is true of everyone. Everyone has privilege, some more than others. You hypocrisy is boiling to the service. Check it at the door. |
Dear 18:13,
Thank you for seeking my insight. In my opinion, the person with the poor manners was actually the person who saw fit to mention that an "FA family" was involved. The poster implied that the complaint/criticism about the food was somehow less credible or important because it was lodged by someone of lesser financial means. I must say that I was absolutely horrified by such an implication, because it was so gauche, so crude and so very rude! Might I suggest that the poster improve her manners by reading one of my books? Sincerely, Miss Manners
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