Thoughts on families with expensive houses and cars who send kids to public school?

[Anonymous]

Perhaps the opposite of this would be to raise your kids in a crappy school district and instead of the expensive house to have a modest one, and then also own a yacht, expensive vacations, vacation home

[Anonymous]

I...do not think about these people?

I would say that if you are correlating wealth with an imperative to send your kids to public, you are missing a lot of the ethical issues and moral imperative pull of utilizing public education, and you are probably also in a bubble where private = good and public = less good. (Or maybe you're the opposite and have a grass is greener view.) In any case, weird.

[Anonymous]

^should have been correlating wealth with an imperative to send to PRIVATE but you get it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My thoughts on private schools and country clubs are the same. People are willing to spend lots of money to control who they interact with and weed out anyone they don’t want to interact with. I don’t want to be around those kinds of people which is why I would never do private schools or country clubs.

I wasn't a big fan of the private school mentality either, BUT then found out that my kid's class at a "great" public in MoCo had 27 kids.

5-6 were ESL. Another 3-4 had behavioral issues or significant learning challenges.

At our first PT conference, the teacher told us that she was basically doing triage. All she could do was focus on the kids with the most urgent needs, and she couldn't help or challenge the other kids.

Basically, if you weren't failing or getting punched, you were not getting any attention.

So we sent our kid to private, not because we wanted to or to "weed out" anyone, but because our kid was basically being ignored at an overtaxed, understaffed public.

Fine by me

Whatever you need to tell yourself.

Actually, it was what the teacher told me.

She flat out said that she couldn't effectively teach most of the kids in the class.

When the public school teacher tells you that the school is broken, it's time to bail.

Or don't you respect public school educators enough to believe them?

What I don't believe is that the teacher said that to you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dumb post.

Lots of rich people don’t send their kids to private school for all sorts of reasons.

Some of the public schools are better than private schools. Why do you think people pay $$$$ to live in certain school districts?

A lot of people in high tax states like NY and NJ do this. Those states have neighborhood schools and no ability for people outside the zoned areas to attend. It’s about as restricted and exclusive as you can get, and the education is top notch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dumb post.

Lots of rich people don’t send their kids to private school for all sorts of reasons.

Some of the public schools are better than private schools. Why do you think people pay $$$$ to live in certain school districts?

A lot of people in high tax states like NY and NJ do this. Those states have neighborhood schools and no ability for people outside the zoned areas to attend. It’s about as restricted and exclusive as you can get, and the education is top notch.

We live out west where we have state equalization, but we get around it with a generously funded education foundation that gets to direct money to specific programs within the school district. It gives the community discretion over programming in the schools and we've been very pleased with the results. Art, music, GATE programming, ESL, reading tutors, STEM, funding for high school teams like debate, early childhood education. The private school can't raise or charge enough to compete with the funding the education foundation provides the school district.

[Anonymous]

Can the foundation pay for salaries or indirectly reduce class sizes and fund specialists?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dumb post.

Lots of rich people don’t send their kids to private school for all sorts of reasons.

Some of the public schools are better than private schools. Why do you think people pay $$$$ to live in certain school districts?

A lot of people in high tax states like NY and NJ do this. Those states have neighborhood schools and no ability for people outside the zoned areas to attend. It’s about as restricted and exclusive as you can get, and the education is top notch.

That explains why they arrested one parent for sending her kid to school

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dumb post.

Lots of rich people don’t send their kids to private school for all sorts of reasons.

Some of the public schools are better than private schools. Why do you think people pay $$$$ to live in certain school districts?

A lot of people in high tax states like NY and NJ do this. Those states have neighborhood schools and no ability for people outside the zoned areas to attend. It’s about as restricted and exclusive as you can get, and the education is top notch.

That explains why they arrested one parent for sending her kid to school

Link?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My thoughts on private schools and country clubs are the same. People are willing to spend lots of money to control who they interact with and weed out anyone they don’t want to interact with. I don’t want to be around those kinds of people which is why I would never do private schools or country clubs.

I wasn't a big fan of the private school mentality either, BUT then found out that my kid's class at a "great" public in MoCo had 27 kids.

5-6 were ESL. Another 3-4 had behavioral issues or significant learning challenges.

At our first PT conference, the teacher told us that she was basically doing triage. All she could do was focus on the kids with the most urgent needs, and she couldn't help or challenge the other kids.

Basically, if you weren't failing or getting punched, you were not getting any attention.

So we sent our kid to private, not because we wanted to or to "weed out" anyone, but because our kid was basically being ignored at an overtaxed, understaffed public.

Whatever you need to tell yourself.

Actually, it was what the teacher told me.

She flat out said that she couldn't effectively teach most of the kids in the class.

When the public school teacher tells you that the school is broken, it's time to bail.

Or don't you respect public school educators enough to believe them?

What I don't believe is that the teacher said that to you

NP. I’ve had a teacher tell me that. In fact, I’ve had more than one tell me that. Many teachers face impossible jobs in public schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dumb post.

Lots of rich people don’t send their kids to private school for all sorts of reasons.

+1. I've actually noticed that there seems to be a trend where parents who attended private school end of sending their kids to public school, and vice versa. (The exception is for Catholic schools, where families seem to continue the tradition with each generation.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dumb post.

Lots of rich people don’t send their kids to private school for all sorts of reasons.

+1. I've actually noticed that there seems to be a trend where parents who attended private school end of sending their kids to public school, and vice versa. (The exception is for Catholic schools, where families seem to continue the tradition with each generation.)

Everyone I know (now) who uses Catholic school isn’t even Catholic - it’s just a cheaper private for them. Maybe a generation ago it was mostly Catholics at catholic school but not now.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in an UMC neighborhood with decent but sort of deteriorating public schools. They were excellent when everyone moved in to the new construction area in the 80s, but declined as we grew up. There was family down the block who was so ostentatious- constantly repainting the outside of their house, over the top landscaping, flashy cars, and really expensively outfitted kids, and I did sort of wonder about their values more broadly. They obviously couldn’t afford to move to a larger home, but always tried to give off the appearance of being wealthy. I found it strange that it didn’t also apply to their kids education.

Anyway this is kind of a silly conversation bc it’s essentially stating that everyone with the means to do so should opt out of public school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dumb post.

Lots of rich people don’t send their kids to private school for all sorts of reasons.

+1. I've actually noticed that there seems to be a trend where parents who attended private school end of sending their kids to public school, and vice versa. (The exception is for Catholic schools, where families seem to continue the tradition with each generation.)

Not in the Baltimore area. There are many families that have sent their children to the same private schools for generations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids aren’t in K yet but frankly we bought into a good public neighborhood in MoCo because private school costs are prohibitive - 60k+ a year for 2 kids, for 12 years adds up to way more than the cost of our decent house. (I wouldn’t even say it’s extremely nice).

However, I will say that MoCo seems to have a nasty habit of boundary changing and screwing over parents who tried to buy into nicer school neighborhoods, so we may end up paying out anyway (either by private for several years or moving elsewhere prematurely) if we get re-zoned.

Why, these are the very people I want to be screwed over! Well done, MCPS!