How unprofessional was this?

[Anonymous]

You prioritized you husbands work over yours. Your sword, your fall. In my company you would be judged by this.

That said.... I hate this culture and don't agree with it. I have 2 kids and and understanding husband. If he couldn't reschedule. I would have or I would have called in childcare who didn't mind possible exposure. There are folks who've recovered and wouldn't mind this situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I would end this thread. It happened, your supervisor was fine with it. Some people agree it was fine, some people don't. You're torturing yourself by responding to everyone.

Agreed, this is simply a pile-on of Mean Girls at this point.

Seriously.

OP - why haven't you ended the pandemic and figured out Ukraine!?!? You are just a slacker.

Op here - hahah thanks this helped. Jeez this thread has gone off the rails. I guess I should either quit my job or endanger the life of my child by giving him Benadryl and putting him in his crib with toys he could choke on or strapping him to a high chair while he screams so I can take a work call. Great options. Glad everyone is so understanding.

No, dear. You should learn to be a better parent.

Why on earth would you have toys in the house that he can choke on that you would give them to him? That was not anyone's recommendation here on this thread. That came from your head.

Do I need to call CPS on you?

Not op, but I want to call cps on you! Do you not realize that many household items are choking hazards?

Also perhaps it was you who cruelly suggested strapping down the baby in a high chair and giving him or her Orbeez- a toy that is a choking hazard and only for kids 5 and up?

I don’t understand the amount cruelty and causal misogyny displayed in this forum on a regular basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You prioritized you husbands work over yours. Your sword, your fall. In my company you would be judged by this.

That said.... I hate this culture and don't agree with it. I have 2 kids and and understanding husband. If he couldn't reschedule. I would have or I would have called in childcare who didn't mind possible exposure. There are folks who've recovered and wouldn't mind this situation.

Could you share their information? I have also looked for this, and they are basically impossible to find. Or wait- are you just spouting off uninformed nonsense?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel your pain, but very unprofessional. (I have a 6month old, 3 year old and 5 year old)

Typically what I do is work super hard to occupy them while my meeting goes on. Ipad, snacks, candy (if needed!), nap time and I lock myself in a different room.

OP here - there is absolutely no way I could do any of the items listed above. It was an 11am meeting so nap was out. DS is not even 2 yet (turns 2 in like 2 weeks) and won't watch a movie or TV to save my life. Candy would distract him for about 5 seconds while he wolfs it down. If I left him unsupervised he would probably kill himself or severely injury himself. Not exaggerating. I have never had a kid who got into things this much and I have 3 of them.

You could have put him in his crib and closed the door. Crying isn’t the end of the world, you’d kid will survive. People like you are why we are getting asked to go back to the office.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel your pain, but very unprofessional. (I have a 6month old, 3 year old and 5 year old)

Typically what I do is work super hard to occupy them while my meeting goes on. Ipad, snacks, candy (if needed!), nap time and I lock myself in a different room.

OP here - there is absolutely no way I could do any of the items listed above. It was an 11am meeting so nap was out. DS is not even 2 yet (turns 2 in like 2 weeks) and won't watch a movie or TV to save my life. Candy would distract him for about 5 seconds while he wolfs it down. If I left him unsupervised he would probably kill himself or severely injury himself. Not exaggerating. I have never had a kid who got into things this much and I have 3 of them.

You could have put him in his crib and closed the door. Crying isn’t the end of the world, you’d kid will survive. People like you are why we are getting asked to go back to the office.

People like you are why there is the Great Resignation.

I feel bad for Kids. So many horrible parents. Such casual cruelty.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, now that I've read the whole thread and realized that it was a *possible* COVID exposure and you made a decision to keep the kid home (he wasn't excluded by center rules).... you should have just sent him, if the meeting could not be moved.

Spoken like someone without children. You don’t get to “just send” your child into school.

Yes, you do, if they aren't a close contact.

Every day in school or a center is a possible exposure, that's the chance we are all taking.

I do have kids. I keep them home with any symptoms. Pre-vax, I kept them home if they were close contacts. But I definitiely did not keep them home if there was a chance they were a close contact.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, now that I've read the whole thread and realized that it was a *possible* COVID exposure and you made a decision to keep the kid home (he wasn't excluded by center rules).... you should have just sent him, if the meeting could not be moved.

Spoken like someone without children. You don’t get to “just send” your child into school.

Yes, you do, if they aren't a close contact.

Every day in school or a center is a possible exposure, that's the chance we are all taking.

I do have kids. I keep them home with any symptoms. Pre-vax, I kept them home if they were close contacts. But I definitiely did not keep them home if there was a chance they were a close contact.

Op here - he was kept home because his daycare told me to. Not because I chose to keep him home.

[Anonymous]

This thread has gone off the rails. The real issue is OP’s relationship with her husband. This was a conundrum that both parents needed to work together to solve. Husband sounds like he simply prioritized his own meeting and left wife to figure it out on her own. Both parties have careers and they have to work as a parent team. That is the problem here.

[Anonymous]

PS My husband practically runs the world and if this happened to me a simple text to his home office would have had him figuring out (and executing) a plan to rescue me from this child. That very act would have reflected my ability to deal with this type of matter professionally. We’re a team.

[Anonymous]

I didn't read all 13 pages. I just want to give OP some hugs. If employers and coworkers aren't more understanding about kids/unexpected illness and quarantine/working from home by now, they can go pound sand. We are humans. We have families. We try to do it all and sometimes we just can't.