Nobody Wants to Hire Me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Thank you everyone.

Someone shared this with me this morning and I am so very hopeful. Clearly I am not the only one!

https://www.wearecapable.org/

I can search for remote and part-time, and the employer already knows I have challenges.

I’m grateful someone thought to start this needed service for unicorn-seekers like myself. It’s nice to know not everyone wants to write us off or sweep us under the carpet. Or be told to just stay home with our “fake illnesses.”

What kind of illness do you have that’s so severe it kept you out of the workforce for ten years BUT allowed you to raise 3 kids? And You still have this illness but it means you can only work remotely and PT.

Sorry but I’m not buying it. The website you linked mentions disabled people. Your condition is bad enough that you’re disabled but you’re able to birth and raise three kids?

Sorry but plenty of people have depression and manage to work.

It says disabled AND chronically ill
Also she said she had help when raising the kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found a full time job after being a SAHM for 15 years with a lot of potential for growth. They were fantastic and were actually floored with the quality of my work.

After working for 3 months, I was no longer interested in continuing to work. I had troubleshooted some of the existing problems that the company had and I was hired for, so there was a lot of buzz about me...but, I was no longer interested in working.

Why? Because 15 years ago, I needed the money. In the intervening years, money stopped being an issue because HHI became high. Being excited about my workday was the biggest motivation for going back to work. The role I was in was not a creative role. It was a corporate grunt work (project management) with not a lot of job satisfaction.

I realized that as a SAHM (who had left an interesting career to be with my kids), I had completely romanticized working in the intervening years. I had kept up with the tech aspects because I am a nerd and I have taught my kids a lot of STEM subjects as well as coding. I thought that when I would go back to work it will be an affirmation of my talent, my growth as an individual, my contribution to society etc. etc.
I thought that I will meet other intelligent, articulate, analytical individuals who became like this because of the intellectual environment of the work place. All of that was BS. People (yes, even working people) were less than ordinary, boring, anti-social and one-dimensional. Entirely devoid of imagination, stressed and unhappy. Their domestic life was a mess too.

As I left, I was sad that I probably made it harder for other needy SAHMs to get employed. I was sure that I had cemented the notion that SAHMs are unreliable (in terms of wanting to remain in the position) in the minds of the employer. Anyhow, my day as a SAHM is more interesting and varied than a typical work day at corporate America.

I am privileged enough to not work. I will keep that privilege because I no longer believe in self-flagellation.

Maybe you would enjoy being a teacher or professor or in a college type environment.

- fellow sahm, looking for a job

I think so too. My biggest joy was teaching my kids and their friends. I have been told by many kids that I am the best Math teacher that they have ever had, because I can completely demystify Math for them and build up their knowledge from the ground up. I cannot think of something more worthwhile than this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found a full time job after being a SAHM for 15 years with a lot of potential for growth. They were fantastic and were actually floored with the quality of my work.

After working for 3 months, I was no longer interested in continuing to work. I had troubleshooted some of the existing problems that the company had and I was hired for, so there was a lot of buzz about me...but, I was no longer interested in working.

Why? Because 15 years ago, I needed the money. In the intervening years, money stopped being an issue because HHI became high. Being excited about my workday was the biggest motivation for going back to work. The role I was in was not a creative role. It was a corporate grunt work (project management) with not a lot of job satisfaction.

I realized that as a SAHM (who had left an interesting career to be with my kids), I had completely romanticized working in the intervening years. I had kept up with the tech aspects because I am a nerd and I have taught my kids a lot of STEM subjects as well as coding. I thought that when I would go back to work it will be an affirmation of my talent, my growth as an individual, my contribution to society etc. etc.
I thought that I will meet other intelligent, articulate, analytical individuals who became like this because of the intellectual environment of the work place. All of that was BS. People (yes, even working people) were less than ordinary, boring, anti-social and one-dimensional. Entirely devoid of imagination, stressed and unhappy. Their domestic life was a mess too.

As I left, I was sad that I probably made it harder for other needy SAHMs to get employed. I was sure that I had cemented the notion that SAHMs are unreliable (in terms of wanting to remain in the position) in the minds of the employer. Anyhow, my day as a SAHM is more interesting and varied than a typical work day at corporate America.

I am privileged enough to not work. I will keep that privilege because I no longer believe in self-flagellation.

Maybe you would enjoy being a teacher or professor or in a college type environment.

- fellow sahm, looking for a job

I think so too. My biggest joy was teaching my kids and their friends. I have been told by many kids that I am the best Math teacher that they have ever had, because I can completely demystify Math for them and build up their knowledge from the ground up. I cannot think of something more worthwhile than this.

You totally should! So needed. Please do it!

[Anonymous]

You may need a bit more flexibility. There are a lot of remote customer service jobs out there but they will want you to work some evenings to handle west coast traffic.

I recently hired for an unrelated job. I interviewed about 10 people. The woman who got the job was the most flexible in her availability. Many of the women dictated to me what days and hours they would work. That did not work for us.

[Anonymous]

with a 5 year gap and a master in computer science, I sent 200+ or more apps to land an entry level job.
I used to have a social science related background. why i changed to cs because it is even harder to find a job.
so please keep searching.
it may take months or even more than a year (to me). but you will have something at last.

[Anonymous]

and internship matters. If you can put some personal projects and (unpaid) internship experience on your resume, that will help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found a full time job after being a SAHM for 15 years with a lot of potential for growth. They were fantastic and were actually floored with the quality of my work.

After working for 3 months, I was no longer interested in continuing to work. I had troubleshooted some of the existing problems that the company had and I was hired for, so there was a lot of buzz about me...but, I was no longer interested in working.

Why? Because 15 years ago, I needed the money. In the intervening years, money stopped being an issue because HHI became high. Being excited about my workday was the biggest motivation for going back to work. The role I was in was not a creative role. It was a corporate grunt work (project management) with not a lot of job satisfaction.

I realized that as a SAHM (who had left an interesting career to be with my kids), I had completely romanticized working in the intervening years. I had kept up with the tech aspects because I am a nerd and I have taught my kids a lot of STEM subjects as well as coding. I thought that when I would go back to work it will be an affirmation of my talent, my growth as an individual, my contribution to society etc. etc.
I thought that I will meet other intelligent, articulate, analytical individuals who became like this because of the intellectual environment of the work place. All of that was BS. People (yes, even working people) were less than ordinary, boring, anti-social and one-dimensional. Entirely devoid of imagination, stressed and unhappy. Their domestic life was a mess too.

As I left, I was sad that I probably made it harder for other needy SAHMs to get employed. I was sure that I had cemented the notion that SAHMs are unreliable (in terms of wanting to remain in the position) in the minds of the employer. Anyhow, my day as a SAHM is more interesting and varied than a typical work day at corporate America.

I am privileged enough to not work. I will keep that privilege because I no longer believe in self-flagellation.

Maybe you would enjoy being a teacher or professor or in a college type environment.

- fellow sahm, looking for a job

I think so too. My biggest joy was teaching my kids and their friends. I have been told by many kids that I am the best Math teacher that they have ever had, because I can completely demystify Math for them and build up their knowledge from the ground up. I cannot think of something more worthwhile than this.

What about being a remote math tutor from the comfort of your home? My DC had remote math and physics tutors during and after Covid. DC said the lessons were just as helpful remotely as they were in person. And payment was made electronically after every lesson. These tutors charged $60-65 an hour in the DC suburbs, but I know it can go much higher.

[Anonymous]

Anyone on this board an HR manager? Please explain what is happening! Something is definitely going on. I’ve applied for numerous jobs and I’ve not even gotten a callback. Someone told me that companies are saying they need help so they don’t have to pay the federal government back for the PPE loans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone on this board an HR manager? Please explain what is happening! Something is definitely going on. I’ve applied for numerous jobs and I’ve not even gotten a callback. Someone told me that companies are saying they need help so they don’t have to pay the federal government back for the PPE loans.

No. You need your resume revised. You’re probably getting auto-disqualified.

[Anonymous]

Some people really believe that you have to be 100% healthy to have kids. LOL.
OP didn't have energy for both her career and family, but that doesn't mean she is not able to work now. I'm from Europe, and it's completely normal in many counties to be SAHM for a few years and then rerun to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone on this board an HR manager? Please explain what is happening! Something is definitely going on. I’ve applied for numerous jobs and I’ve not even gotten a callback. Someone told me that companies are saying they need help so they don’t have to pay the federal government back for the PPE loans.

No, the jobs exist. However, The “desirable” jobs still get a lot of applicants. In particular White collar remote jobs get lots of applicants.